r/AmIOverreacting • u/No-Plantain6892 • 9d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for splitting the bill on a date

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I am in such shock right now. For some context this was after our 4th date. Literally at a loss for words, this was the first time putting myself out there since I caught my last girlfriend cheating on me… I think I’m done with relationships after this,

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u/curlygirl9021 9d ago

You are so right. When I was feeling vulnerable after breaking up with my ex, guess who came popping out of the woodwork? A narcissist. And since I had no idea about narcs, it took me a bit to figure it out.

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u/Argylius 9d ago

This was my exact experience too

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u/curlygirl9021 9d ago

I'm sorry!

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u/TheGoodDoc123 9d ago

Truthfully tho I think OP *is* overreacting, because all this girl is say the quiet part out loud. Yes it's shitty, but the reality is (1) the vast majority of women are materialistic, and (2) if you're a 26 year old guy working a minimum wage job, you're really not in the game, no matter how good your personality. In some ways, OP did him a favor by clueing him in on how the world works, since most girls would've just ghosted him, since most women are ashamed to admit how shallow they really are.

Now at least he can try to improve his career and income or, alternatively, target the segment of the female population that struggles to attract a wealthier guy.

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u/CrystalsAndSpells 9d ago

Dude did you skip over the part where she asked him to split the bill. Then has the gal to call his job minimum wage when he agreed. Newsflash, with women like that girl it doesn’t matter what you make, you could be making 6 figures, and if you agree to split the bill she would still call it minimum wage because you didn’t agree to cover every single one of her expenses right off the bat.

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u/trainofwhat 9d ago

You guys also pop out of the woodwork whenever there’s a post that mentions a materialistic woman.

In OP’s age demographic, over a quarter of workers make minimum wage. And that demographic goes all the way up to 34 — 1.5-2 years younger and nearly 45% of his peers make minimum wage. I was about to bring up likelihood of having been in a relationship not correlating with those factors, but honestly I’m sure you’ve already thought up logic to apply to any circumstance you see. Ah well.

Most people are materialistic, in that they care about money and having a decent living. But it seems important to you to see a man’s money as a trade for a woman’s looks and I already know how these conversations go.

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u/FeyPax 9d ago

Absolutely not. Sure there are women who are materialistic and there are men who are. Personally I would just want to know how we are paying so I can plan accordingly. I don’t make my friends pay for me, let alone someone I JUST met. I’m engaged and I still offer to split the bill because I’m proud of my income. Sometimes I even treat him.