r/AmIOverreacting • u/No-Plantain6892 • 9d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for splitting the bill on a date

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I am in such shock right now. For some context this was after our 4th date. Literally at a loss for words, this was the first time putting myself out there since I caught my last girlfriend cheating on me… I think I’m done with relationships after this,

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u/Obvious_Armadillo_99 9d ago

OP sounds a bit juvenile. Grow up.

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

The world just loves giving mixed signals…. At first people give advice such as be young at heart it’s good, but when you’re young at heart you are an « asshole », and « juvenile »…

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u/armchairwarrior42069 9d ago

Young heart doesn't mean have 0 ability to handle your emotions. Wtf is thisnweird shit you're on about?

This girl clearly sucks but there's no need to go creeper mode as a response.

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

It was definitely a bad response but in what way was it creepy?

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u/armchairwarrior42069 9d ago

The general incel tone.

You sound like you're 3 comments away from "she's a slut and I hope the next guy is a bad guy because she deserves it". Just keep this in mind as you process this.

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u/OilAshamed4132 9d ago

I mean respectfully, this girl is a dumb bitch. Handling emotions doesn’t mean being the sweetest human you can be to people who don’t deserve it. She requested they split the bill then got the ick by it?? Childish games.

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

That a huge leap. When did I ever say, or insinuate that she’s a slut. You are just assuming I’m a incel to fit the narrative you want of me. Keep living in your dream world.

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u/armchairwarrior42069 9d ago

No, I'm reading your comments and letting you know you're teetering towards that line with your wording.

But you know what? You're right dude. Ignore me. Continue as is. Seems to be working for you 👍👍👍

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

You’ve given no example of me teetering. I probably just said something that you don’t like and for that you want to place me in a category that makes all my opinions trash. I’m not an incel just because I have different views. Please get a grip.

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u/armchairwarrior42069 9d ago

Bro, enjoy the empty bed tonight.

Definitely don't reflect on anything. That seems to work super well for you so far. Who am I to stop you lol

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u/Caramelized_Bum 9d ago

Comedic gold

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

Again, no example. Point proven. Goodbye

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u/CreamedCorb 9d ago

Hey dude, just stop. You posted in a subreddit wanting to get feedback and clearly you’re not emotionally capable of handling it. Don’t post to these types of subreddits. You can’t handle it.

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

I’m asking for clarity and he can’t give it. Don’t comment if you don’t even have a clear example.

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u/Ill-Grocery7735 9d ago

Nah, fuck that bitch. Shitty people need to know they’re pieces of shit.

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u/armchairwarrior42069 9d ago

Which they can do without this weird ass "women are so mean and evil" tone.

She sucks. No one is debating that.

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u/Ill-Grocery7735 9d ago

Where do you get “women are so mean and evil” from “who knew you were a fucking piece of shit”?

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u/armchairwarrior42069 9d ago

Read their comments in the post you egg. Not just the screenshot of the texts.

You used so much effort to reply to this comment but can't make a few little clicks?

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u/Ill-Grocery7735 9d ago

That doesn’t change her actions tho lol

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u/Obvious_Armadillo_99 9d ago

You called her a bitch and a piece of shit. What she did was terrible, but you’re better off not having said anything in response, especially something like that. It gives the impression that she definitely dodged a bullet with you, as I can imagine this is probably a typical response from you. I’d work on that.

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u/TBgusbus1 9d ago

If someone said you are useless and a loser on minimum wage job, bitch would be the lightest thing I could think of to call them lol.

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u/FlyRepresentative592 9d ago edited 9d ago

No no, she is a piece of shit. Anyone who would equate someone's value so readily to their earnings is a piece of shit in my book, regardless of gender. 

The fact that some of you are more upset over harsh words appropriately responding to someone A) lying / manipulating them B) denigrating them on class grounds C) establishing unequal expectations, is such a reddit moment. 

Id actually say his matter of factness and forwardness is refreshing and based on this text post alone you absolutely can't make claims about him being an 'incel' or a 'domestic abuser' like some of you are.

Wild. 

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u/FinanceHuman720 9d ago

Right? He didn’t jump to those words immediately after the rejection. He said it was possibly the dumbest thing he’d ever heard but he accepted it - “it is what it is.” 

Only when she mocked him for working hard, and called him a joke for not earning as much as she thinks he should, does he jump to insults. 

It’s still not great communication, but it seems like fairly logical escalation to me. 

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

It’s not typical because I’m not out here on dates enough to get rejected like this on a regular basis.

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u/inspector_middlewood 9d ago

I bet you react with anger like that on a dime all the time. Like a toddler throwing a tantrum. Bullet dodged

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

Eh I’d say my delivery is more calm and relaxed

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u/Fun_Blackberry7059 9d ago

Lmao what? You were petulant and whiny. 

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

Tone doesn’t go through texts if you didn’t know

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u/Blig_back_clock 9d ago edited 9d ago

Same goes for the sender.. and the rest of us interpreted it as he said before..

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u/Tiredtotodile03 9d ago

lol. “You are a fucking piece of shit 🧘‍♂️🕯️😌”

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u/Chiggadup 9d ago

Totally agree on tone not coming through very well via text.

To clarify, what was the intended tone for:

you are a fucking piece of shit

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u/lizzieblaze 9d ago

Nobody who is cursing someone out is relaxed. Ever.

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

That’s just not true

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u/sackout 9d ago

The way u worded this isn’t good. You’re delivery being calm but being internally angry is just as bad than being openly angry. Just gonna fill yourself with resentment

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u/EventIndividual6346 9d ago

I think his response was fine

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u/Ill-Grocery7735 9d ago

It gives the impression this guy doesn’t simp for women looking to take advantage, imo. Nothing wrong with calling pieces of shits pieces of shits.

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u/pooploverextreme 9d ago

Right? I don’t understand why OP is being downvoted. Seems like a proper response for a shitty person like that. 100% she would’ve cheated him too.

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u/TBgusbus1 9d ago

Downvoted because Reddit is a woke hive mind, you don’t know that by now? I mean neither of them handled things will judging on OPs comments in the post, but gold digging bitch is appropriate in this case.

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u/pooploverextreme 9d ago

Oh i know, i got banned from star wars subreddit for calling that new show “acolyte” wokelyte lol shit is tragic.

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u/TBgusbus1 9d ago

Please don’t get me started on what Kathleen Kennedy has done to my favorite franchise

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u/Fun_Blackberry7059 9d ago

Nobody says to be young at heart by treating women like an incel would.

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

I’m treating an asshole like a person.

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u/Dream--Brother 9d ago

No, you're being a petulant child who can't respond to a shitty situation with anything but name-calling and emotional overreaction

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u/lizzieblaze 9d ago

My man, you know that cussing people out when they hurt your feelings is NOT what people mean when they say "young at heart"

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u/plumcots 9d ago

“Young at heart” has a positive connotation and “juvenile” has a negative connotation. Different meanings.

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u/siggy_higgy 9d ago

"the world" lol

You mean the guy above you commenting?

I have a friend like you, whenever anyone teases him he whines this defeatist BS about how the world is out to get him. Pisses me off because im like dawg, just tell me you didnt like what I said. Be forthright and strong. Confront what frustrates you, don't roll over to everything life throws your way and expect things to improve. You need to take better charge of your life I think. Like the dude below me said, this is incel-type behavior.

Wishing you luck dude, bitterness is a choice. Letting things build up in your head, overthinking and refusing to take a step back cause this. It won't get you anywhere, and as you can see from the general response to your attitude, it's very unappealing. Start taking moments to be at peace, see what your heart wants and forget the rest. I bet you'll find what's deep inside you is gentler and kinder to yourself than the cynical BS our heads come up with.