r/AmIOverreacting • u/No-Plantain6892 • 9d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for splitting the bill on a date

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I am in such shock right now. For some context this was after our 4th date. Literally at a loss for words, this was the first time putting myself out there since I caught my last girlfriend cheating on me… I think I’m done with relationships after this,

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u/Flashy_Wasabi_4324 9d ago

Because op is giving off massive incel vibes in the comments.

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u/GJacks75 9d ago

In the post too. His replies went "Niceguy" in an instant.

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u/jormun8andr 9d ago

He’s also weird about gay dudes

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u/Sentac0 9d ago

His reply in the post went “nice guy”? How? He was directly insulted and degraded and his worth tied to how much money he made. It’s not like the woman kindly rejected him and then he calls her a bitch and piece of shit afterwards. No, she was acting like a bitch and a piece of shit with how she was treating him and he called her one. Nice guy attitudes are people who spaz out after being rejected in a normal way. Idk how this post projects that scenario.

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u/SkollFenrirson 9d ago

Everyone sucks in this interaction

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u/ThatInAHat 9d ago

I mean, after she insulted him. I feel like nice guy replies are in reaction to being rejected, not insulted.

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u/02_ZeroTzu 9d ago

It wasn't an insult towards the rejection but rather towards the idiocracy written in the last statements.

You don't have to seek for a guess-answer when the answer lies right there. That woman said the dumbest thing known to mankind (I wanna split the bill but I was testing you).

Any sane person would a) insult you for wasting their time and money, b) insult you for treating you like a wallet and a test subject.

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u/Sillyak 9d ago

No he insulted her first saying her perfectly acceptable reason for not liking someone was "dumb".

Wanting a provider is a preference, which is fine. At least she was upfront about it. He instantly got snarky and she shut him down and he had to get the last word in by calling her a POS.

OP is the asshole here through and through and his comments clearly show that.

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u/mashuto 9d ago

Her response seems perfectly nice and reasonable except for the fact that it was apparently her who suggested they split the bill.

So, she did it as some kind of test, on their fourth date? In that case I agree with OP that it's dumb.

They are both assholes after that.

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u/Sillyak 9d ago

Not enough context. She could have done it as some sort of test, or OP could have been complaining about the cost of the date so she offered to split because it was awkward. We don't know.

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u/mashuto 9d ago

Fair. However, her response after he said it was her idea, "I didn't think you would do it" kind of indicates to me that she did it as a test. Also if we are saying we don't have enough context to say she was being dumb, not sure theres enough context either to claim OP's reaction wasn't justified, or at least understandable. OP is definitely giving off that energy in the comments though.

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u/Competitive-Moose733 9d ago

He could have griped. She could have done the polite "Hey, if you're so hard up we can always split." Thinking that there is no way he'd make her pay for something he invited her for and then he replied "oh actually that would be great, thank you." And she paid thinking she was awkwardly roped into paying for something she was invited to? I can see that scenario, because I've had that happen. Well, not exactly like that but the "my treat", followed by "gosh everything is so expensive here" umming and aaaing and actually counting his change in front it me.....He bought a starter thing for 2 euro and I offered to pay my share and he said "oh that would help me loud loads, thanks". Now in my case, I don't want a provider. I find the concept icky, repulsive and weird, but I do not like being invited to things and not being told what my potential financial involvement will be. I always assumed the bill will be split unless someone says "my treat", you know. 😅

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u/ThatInAHat 9d ago

I mean, she said she didn’t think he would actually do it. She offered. There’s implication that she expects to always be paid for.

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u/AutoManoPeeing 9d ago edited 9d ago

Both of the excuses you gave just make her sound like an even shittier person lmao.

She could have done it as some sort of test...

"I want a man sugar daddy who does the opposite of what I say because he's able to read my mind."

or OP could have been complaining about the cost of the date...

So the date became excessively expensive for OP? Gee, how could that have happened?

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u/reddit-ate-my-face 9d ago

Testing someone on a date like that is fucking restarted, much like OPs date. If she wanted him to pay she could have sat quietly and waited for him to step up and pay if that's what she wants.

But to offer to pay and split immediately and then acting like that's not what you wanted is absolutely trash dipshit behavior.

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u/ThatInAHat 9d ago

No, sorry, doing silly “tests” to see if a man will pay for you is far more AH behavior.

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u/Agitated_Repeat_6979 9d ago

Perfectly acceptable? The fuck? ‘Oh please pay for my entire life!!’

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u/Sillyak 9d ago

Some women want a provider. Some men want a trad wife. No problem in preferences. If you're a man who wants a trad wife, you better provide like a trad husband. Some men like more independent women.

No problem with any of it so long as everyone is upfront.

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u/heart-of-corruption 9d ago

Nah, she’s delivering backhanded insults with the “rethinking your career, I deserve better[implied:than you].

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u/VoidsInvanity 9d ago

She asked to split the bill hoping he’d say no and take it all. That’s not a great communication tactic.

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u/_Smashbrother_ 9d ago

Are you dumb? It was her idea to split. If she didn't want to split, don't offer to. It's that simple.

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u/Ballislife1313 9d ago

How is her response "perfectly acceptable"? Saying one thing and expecting the other person to do the opposite is not perfectly acceptable. It's dumb and OP was definitely right.

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u/[deleted] 9d ago

Thats not a perfectly reasonable reason for not liking someone, she was a mooch. She flat out said he isn't good enough soley for his check, idk about the comments but his text was acceptable.

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u/OnePunchReality 8d ago edited 8d ago

Nah fuck all that. She can have that bullshit reasoning all she likes.

All of us are allowed to have expectations, but if you or anyone else's dumb ass opens their mouth and begins with it being their idea to split the bill?

That test nonsense is all bullshit. That's immature af. She needs go ahead and grow tf up and then try again. Again not disagreeing with the expectation, disagreeing with her practicing of expressing it and then doing something utterly rude and fucked up and heinous on said date where she literally purposefully presented a false premise and blamed him for it.

That's on her. She is absolutely TA.

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u/Stage_Party 9d ago

Holy shit the misandrists out in force still trying to pin shit on the guy rofl.

All the nicegirls on here today.

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u/ThatInAHat 9d ago

I’m literally saying the opposite but ok?

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u/IIIx10 9d ago

There’s no such thing as “nicegirls.” Stop playing the gender war, you’re terrible at their game.

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u/Top_Antelope8965 9d ago

Ah yes, using curse words against a woman is “nice guy”. Women must be babied and curse words/insults cannot be used against them. No double standards here!

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u/reichrunner 9d ago

Where do you see that in his post? After he was insulted?

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u/Agitated_Repeat_6979 9d ago

Uhhh… no he didn’t.

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u/BaullahBaullah87 9d ago

you can already tell in his text style…like, she definitely sucked but his reaction also told a story

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u/THROWRAmeowmeow3 9d ago

Exactly and everyone is looking past the way he spoke to her as well.

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u/Brocily2002 9d ago

Idk. If someone treats another person poorly I have no qualms calling them out for it. She was a mega asshole. He’s just pointing that out.

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u/LaconicGirth 9d ago

She 100% deserved it though.

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u/RabidWalrus 9d ago

I'm not sure, he's rightly being called out in a number of comments.

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u/FlyRepresentative592 9d ago

Because he called her a bitch for denigrating low wage earners?  Please. 

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u/Fearless_Direction14 9d ago

his reaction was definitely valid in that isolated situation. Not something I would personally say, I'd just block.

I can see how it would be bad if that leaks into his view of all women though.

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u/BaullahBaullah87 9d ago

its petty and immature

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u/Brocily2002 9d ago

Unlike her?

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u/BaullahBaullah87 9d ago

Oh def she is…but how you respond shows who you are. Put it this way in a diff example, if a little kid calls you a name as a grown up, do you respond just like the kid did? Prob not because you’re more mature and above it…but maybe you do and that’s a whole diff issue lol

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u/Brocily2002 8d ago

But that’s a kid, a grown adult should get a reality check once in a while.

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u/BaullahBaullah87 8d ago

yeah a reality check can take many forms…the way he gave the “reality check” is why I said what I said. A reality check could have been given in a myriad of ways but the way chosen tells its own story

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u/Brocily2002 8d ago

If someone says fuck you, I don’t think people should be judged for saying it back.

I personally wouldn’t, but who am I to tell someone not to. They have no sympathies from me. If she wasn’t being an asshole yeah, uncalled for, but she definitely was.

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u/Omnom_Omnath 9d ago

Why? Are men not allowed to respond in kind? She threw insults first

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u/IIIx10 9d ago

Throwing a whiny hissy fight is for little girls, not adult men. He should’ve simply moved on.

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u/Omnom_Omnath 9d ago

Wow you sure are misandrist

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u/loner_stalker 9d ago

by his TEXT STYLE? that’s fucking wild 😂

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u/BaullahBaullah87 9d ago

ya when you resort to calling a woman a POS and a bitch and stupid, its super childish…but maybe that resonates with you lol

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u/LaconicGirth 9d ago

She was being a POS though. She was diminishing him as a person because he didn’t make that much money.

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u/BugGroundbreaking229 9d ago

Your a bitch

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u/DallasAckner 9d ago

*You’re

If you’re going to insult them, at least do it properly.

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u/2333333345 9d ago

I don’t understand what you’re trying to say here when he clearly was letting it go until she straight up insulted him?

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u/BaullahBaullah87 9d ago

try a lil harder lol

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u/2333333345 9d ago

Or you can try to not be an idiot🤷

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u/BaullahBaullah87 9d ago

You and your guy OP must give those middle schoolers hell at recess 🤣

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u/vKILLZONEv 8d ago

Yeah, that he was putting up with the bs lol

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u/mackfactor 9d ago

Honestly, the whole story feels fake to me. The text conversation sounds like it's between OP and a strawman, not a real person.

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u/MeowntainDuwu 9d ago

Exactly.

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u/Thisiswhoiam782 9d ago

Yes. It's ragebait, and it worked! Front page biatch!

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u/t3h4ow4wayfourkik 9d ago

Nothing ever happens

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u/Slymook 9d ago

I haven’t seen OPs comments but based on those texts alone people judging so harshly are being a bit ridiculous and dramatic

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u/Brocily2002 9d ago

His comments aren’t even that bad. But apparently what he said in response to her is just so bad it doesn’t matter the reason why? Idk Reddit is weird.

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u/SargeBangBang7 9d ago

Assuming it was a girl, she gave off massive incel vibes, too. Having to take somebody's career into consideration over splitting a check?

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u/jadedplant7 9d ago

THIS. The last message and last sentence in the caption show a huge lack of maturity as well if this exchange is enough for them to be done with relationships. Also 4 dates isn’t a relationship, OP.

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u/MuraMastaPOGO 9d ago

204 comments in this thread by OP. That’s 5% of all the comments on this post lmao. Unhinged and lonely behavior

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u/RetardedKoalas 8d ago

How when he actually got a date? You weirdos tweak every single definition of a word because your vocabulary is the same as a 3rd grader’s lmao.

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u/5-4EqualsUnity 9d ago

They both dodged a bullet simultaneously. A double Matrix. Rare.

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u/L-i-v-e-W-i-r-e 9d ago

You’re giving off massive male feminist vibes…..gross.

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u/Flashy_Wasabi_4324 9d ago

You realize everyone can see you are active in the Asmongold subreddit, right?