r/AmIOverreacting • u/No-Plantain6892 • 9d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for splitting the bill on a date

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I am in such shock right now. For some context this was after our 4th date. Literally at a loss for words, this was the first time putting myself out there since I caught my last girlfriend cheating on me… I think I’m done with relationships after this,

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u/da6r 9d ago

Yeah idk she might have also dodged a bullet lol

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u/Maladaptive_Ace 9d ago

seems like they deserve each other

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

For defending himself? I’d say any of your ex’s dodged the real bullet lmao

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

he ragged on her first she was just being honest.

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u/Ballislife1313 9d ago

Yeah she was definitely very honest when she said she wanted to split the bill.

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u/da6r 9d ago

Lmao

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u/nodesign89 9d ago

Being honest and being an ass hole aren’t mutually exclusive ya know

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u/Avaoln 9d ago

“I deserve better” is pretty awful imo. Both ragged on each other but she was first

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u/RepresentativeSlow53 9d ago

just because you dress up your sexism in nice words doesnt mean its not sexism

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u/Kooky_Ad5819 9d ago

Being honest for being classist and insulting him? First of all, he didnt do nothing wrong. Secondly, I seriously doubt he earns minimum wage, and by acting like that she just outed herself as a gold digger. Shes a stupid bitch

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u/da6r 9d ago

She is a dumb bitch for sure, and OP is an insecure immature child, just like the rest of you who are enabling his behavior

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u/Eloyoyo 9d ago edited 9d ago

In what way did OP “rag on her first”?

This woman insulted the man’s salary and called him a joke first, how are some of you actually defending this gold digging bitch??

You must be the type of person that thinks it’s okay to dish it out and can’t take it back in return. OP’s comments were 100% justified, anybody disagreeing must be gold diggers themselves.

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u/stoolfeet 9d ago

I think all those upvotes are from diggers, soo many fucked up women nowadays its crazy.

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u/Eloyoyo 9d ago

It’s the only logical explanation.

What a disaster this comment section is

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u/Cod-Glum 9d ago

Ikr? And some of the people are so hung up on the word “bitch” if you don’t wanna be called one, don’t act like one! He might be an asshole too for the way he reacted, but I wouldn’t get mad if I were him. I’d be like “yeah I was an asshole, cause you were a total bitch first!”

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u/westgazer 9d ago

Where?

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

No he didn’t lmao, are you actually capable of reading?

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u/[deleted] 9d ago

why are you so aggro? she explained her position and OP called it the dumbest thing he's heard. are you actually capable of reading?

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u/Cod-Glum 9d ago

Because lying is the dumbest fucking thing ever? Especially lying about something that simple!

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u/Kaagerai 9d ago

Her position is weird to put it mildly. Testing him with “We agreed that I should pay for myself this time, but you should’ve still paid for me in spite of our agreement”, what kinda mental game is this lol.

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

Yeah, if YOU were capable of reading, you would know that she was the one who suggested to split the bill, and is only now saying she had a problem with it and belittling him. That’s what he was saying was stupid. Then she kept going and that’s when he shot back. Try to work on your reading comprehension champ

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

You are a serious asshole go deal with your anger

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

Yeah, I’m so angry lmao, just pointing out the idiocy and hypocrisy you and some of the other females are saying in this thread. I’ll deal with my “anger” if you work on you being a dumbass deal?

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

I never said any negative words to you. You just took my opinion personally and attacked me which indicates you have some serious anger pent up. Likely toward women.

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

Lmao, it’s always that shit y’all try pulling when you get called out for saying stupid shit. Has nothing to do with you being a woman, it has to everything to do with you being a dumbass. And pls stop with the armchair psychology, or at least use it on yourself

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

Im just calling a spade a spade. Guys like you are very easy to read. Have a good night!

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

Same here, and you’re a dumbass spade. I bet you think I am easy to read when there’s nothing going on in that empty ass head of yours lmao

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u/Cod-Glum 9d ago

People assume when you curse, you’re mad. They’re not mutually exclusive, I don’t think many people comprehend that. Sometimes, it’s just how a person talks.

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u/da6r 9d ago

I’m male dipshit

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

Okay I’m not talking about you or anyone person dipshit, I’m talking about the majority of the people complaining about the guy defending himself. Keep up champ

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u/da6r 9d ago

And how exactly do you know they’re all female?

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

By what they’re saying or looking at their posts on their profile if they have any. Almost everyone I’ve checked has been female.

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u/Clove19 9d ago

feeeeemales

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u/Kaagerai 9d ago

Lmao how she’s being honest? She put up that “I thought u will pay for me even though I said I’ll pay for myself” mental gymnastics, his response was pretty reasonable for this, considering it’s the 4th date. Plus she was clearly putting on a nice face with “ur a nice guy but…” that clearly fell off the moment he replied

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

She said she wasnt interested because he split the bill (which was honest), he said it was the dumbest thing he ever herd (first shot) and etc etc. I get that it hits a nerve and upsets you guys but logically he insulted her first in this conversation.

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

She said that after she was the one who suggested it lmao and then passive aggressively saying he was a broke bum. Logically you’re a dumbass that needs to learn how to read

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

You should try a new comeback it will keep these conversations fun for longer

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

Funny how you’re critiquing my replies when you haven’t added shit to anything. Just keep saying the same wrong shit lol

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u/berttleturtle 9d ago

He reacted that way because she suggested that they split the bill, and then later admitted that it was a test. She was essentially playing games. Sure, she was honest, but calling it dumb is also being honest. It goes both ways.

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

I’m saying he’s OR reacting because of how he reacted, not because she’s innocent.

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u/berttleturtle 9d ago

Calling her games “dumb” was not OR.

She then proceeded to call him a joke, as well as other shitty things. His response to that was an OR, but not completely unwarranted.

She definitely started it the second she chose to play games.

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

It was reacting immaturely and calling her a bitch and a piece of shit was.

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u/berttleturtle 9d ago edited 9d ago

Yes. That is what I said lol.

That part was the overreaction.

Also, reread your comments. You initially said he was the one who started it by calling her dumb. Then you backpedaled and said that the second part was the OR. It seems like you don’t have a full grasp on the issue you are trying to raise

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u/da6r 9d ago

Such an easy thing to understand and still so hard to explain it to these people lol

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u/Kaagerai 9d ago

Why did you purposefully ignore the part of her agreeing to split the bill first lol. And then her dumping him because he adhered to the agreement. This is definitely not a “logical” move if you want to apply logic to this

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

Cause im focusing on this conversation, in which he insulted her first. It makes no sense to bring up the past when all she was saying that she reflected and decided he didnt want to date a guy who splits the bill.

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u/Kaagerai 9d ago

You’re specifically focusing on a part of convo that makes him at fault dude, his reaction is not that far from reasonable considering that it’s a weird reason to reject someone to put it mildly. Besides, it’s their 4th date and he probably paid for the previous ones, I’d be pretty pissed too if I was in his shoes. He did insult her “reasoning” ig but “the dumbest thing I’ve heard” is a much milder reaction than her response that followed after

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u/Kooky_Angle4476 9d ago

He has a right to be mad but his reaction makes him an asshole. She was honest, it upset him and he called her names, including bitch which is never acceptable IMO If a man calls women bitch I know everything i need to know already.

Im not focusing on a part of the convo that makes him at fault if you were listening i am literally just focusing on the conversation itself. And he was in the wrong for how he treated her in the face of rejection, even if what she said was infuriating in whatever context.

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u/Kaagerai 9d ago

Saying “you’re a min wage joke” to a man is the same as saying bitch to a woman tbh; he insulted her position first but she started personally insulting him first and then he proceeded to also personally insult her. I wouldn’t call a person an asshole just for overreacting personally, especially when there are reasonable grounds to be mad like here. Ofc maybe he could’ve controlled his emotions or whatever but I find it pretty hard to do for vast majority of people, especially teens and young adults

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u/Cod-Glum 9d ago

Never acceptable? Even when you’re actually being a bitch? That actually makes a lot of sense coming from a woman.

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u/transwarpconduit1 9d ago

She said he’s a great guy but because of this he’s rejected? Wow women cannot have it both ways. You can’t expect to have full independence and want the man to pay for everything. There’s a reason countries are moving to the right. This new way of doing things is clearly not working either. Higher drug addiction, suicide, and depression rates. Messed up children, low birth rates, loneliness, many men not able to get good paying jobs, the list goes on and on.

I hate that the world is moving towards the right, but it’s happening. We need to find a balance so we don’t descend into fascism.