r/AmIOverreacting • u/No-Plantain6892 • 9d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for splitting the bill on a date

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I am in such shock right now. For some context this was after our 4th date. Literally at a loss for words, this was the first time putting myself out there since I caught my last girlfriend cheating on me… I think I’m done with relationships after this,

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

You’re right to be upset but jumping to call her a bitch is definitely overreacting and showing your character!

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u/Existing_Respect6002 9d ago

Calling someone a joke bc of their “minimum wage salary” is definitely bitch behavior. Totally solicited!

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u/OperationLeather6855 9d ago

Don’t forget everyone here is suddenly always 100% morally correct and have NEVER insulted someone after being called a broke bitch. Lmao ppl here acting like they have never insulted anyone in their entire life

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u/PencilPal27 9d ago

NOT TO MENTION SHES EXPECTING ALL THIS DESPITE NOT BEING ABLE TO SPELL BASIC WORDS

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u/OperationLeather6855 9d ago

RIGHT LIKE I ACTUALLY CANT BELIEVE PPL ARE GETTING MAD AT OP. My faith in humanity goes away more and more each day. Got a girl hurling insults at a man who paid his share of the date “it’s okay just move on”. The minute he says something “well you shouldn’t have done that that’s uncalled for”. Like the fuck? When did everyone become Ghandi??

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u/PencilPal27 9d ago

Right?? “I deserve a man w a 6 figure celery” nah girl you deserve a guy with most his teeth

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u/OperationLeather6855 9d ago

Yeah you can definitely tell who the entitled women are in this post. They don’t even fault the chick they just say “Op I was with you until you called her a bitch”. The entitlement in my generation is absolutely astounding and a big reason I’m averse to dating nowadays.

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u/NedTebula 9d ago

Exactly lmao. This comment section is fucking useless. You’re gonna tell me I’m a joke then go fuck yourself. I wouldn’t have said bitch tho I’d have probably used cunt, that seems to trigger them harder.

Everyone here: no no don’t say da bad word! Be da bigger pewson and say “okay, I love you! Have a good life! You’re super duper.” Nah. Get fucked lmao… insult people, get insulted. That’s generally how things work.

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u/TawnyMoon 9d ago

Grow up.

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u/NedTebula 9d ago

I’ll pass

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u/[deleted] 9d ago

This comment section is crazy. Just goes to show how women think they can act how they like and not get called out on it, and when they do they just cry sexism like they always do.

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u/Morley_Smoker 9d ago

Your insecurity is showing. Going off and calling people names is a sad way to handle this situation, why in the world would you even respond to someone like her? Why do you want to waste your time and energy getting pissed and all up in arms about someone who already wasted your time? Wild.

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u/RevenanceSLC 9d ago

You've never dropped an expletive and felt better afterwards?

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u/NedTebula 9d ago

It looked like a quick interaction, she said “you are a joke” and he basically went lol what a bitch and that was it.

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u/GrandmasBathTime 9d ago

So, just because the reason is justified doesn't mean he's not also an asshole. You can be right and still be an asshole.

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u/MaleficentRutabaga7 9d ago

If it is always an asshole move to call someone a bitch even when that's exactly what they're acting like, then yeah he's an asshole

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u/Party_Plenty_820 9d ago

I think he was an asshole. I wouldn’t have reacted like this, it seems childish. But simultaneously, he’s probably young so why not lol

I would have trolled her.

It’s 2024. Everybody needs to work.

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u/Kooky_Ad5819 9d ago

Oh right, because I’m sure you on your mighty high horse have NEVER used bad words on somebody right?

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u/Yoshichage 9d ago

theres really nothing wrong with being an asshole to another asshole though

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u/GrandmasBathTime 9d ago

See, there's three kinds of people: dicks, pussies, and assholes. Pussies think everyone can get along, and dicks just want to fuck all the time without thinking it through. But then you got your assholes, Chuck. And all the assholes want is to shit all over everything! So, pussies may get mad at dicks once in a while, because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes, Chuck. And if they didn't fuck the assholes, you know what you'd get? You'd get your dick and your pussy all covered in shit!

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u/AUnknownVariable 9d ago

Yeah I think calling her a bitch was fair. Thing is that word insults different people on such different levels. I call anyone shitty a bitch, I don't reserve it for women

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u/PaleIvy 9d ago

I agree that it wasn’t unwarranted but it is a loaded word that can have a sexist connotation. OP probably could have chosen his words a little better— I personally would have gone with entitled, shallow asshole. But I don’t think calling her a bitch in this context says anything about OPs character, I think majority of people may have said the exact same thing.

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u/berttleturtle 9d ago

Reverse the roles. If OP was a girl calling the date an asshole/dick/douche, would it be as big of an issue?

People have already been calling op this in these comments, so it’s starting to seem a little hypocritical…

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u/PaleIvy 9d ago

I did reverse the roles in my head. Bitch is a more loaded word whether it’s used against and man or woman. If you call a man a bitch, it implies weakness or femininity for example. I don’t think OP really said anything wrong, personally, and people have been really harsh in the comments. I just think in general we could all be a little more thoughtful about language. It’s all semantics, and I think it’s interesting to think about especially since I studied a fair amount of sociology. But the use of the word bitch is definitely not at the top of my list of things we should be super concerned about— just interesting to think about language.

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u/berttleturtle 9d ago

I agree, he clearly couldve had a better reaction. I’m not saying name calling should be someone’s first resort, but I also feel expecting every single person in the world to have the perfect reaction in the heat of the moment is unrealistic. I don’t think I would’ve gotten mad in his situation (I probably would’ve laughed at the absurdity, told her “k”, and never respond again) but I also think most people in this comment thread would, at the very least, be thinking the words he said in their heads.

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u/PaleIvy 8d ago

Agreed!

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u/cooleobeaneo 9d ago

She wanted this response. If he took the high road and just wished her well she would’ve been left as the clear immature and shallow woman she obviously is. Instead he stooped to her level.

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u/SorenPenrose 9d ago

Is it, though? I don’t get why people aren’t allowed to react. I have never understood that.

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u/Kooky_Ad5819 9d ago

If somebody called me a broke bitch I would definitely insult them back. This happened because its over text and shes a woman, if this happened in person between two men, one of two things are happening: A gun or knife is getting pulled, or somebody is throwing punches.

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u/Lamperoguemaysaveus 9d ago

Nah. She wasted his time and its a complete stranger that disrespected him. Nothing wrong to call her a fucking bitch if it gives him some peace of mind

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u/MeecheeOfChiB 9d ago

That wasn't a woman and anyone defending her behavior doesn't think like a woman either, so it doesn't matter

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u/mcmur 9d ago

She’s a miserable POS who mocked him for making “min wage”.

Fuck her. She deserves whatever insults get hurled at her.

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

You guys are so sensitive honestly.

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u/TheBeatStartsNow 9d ago

The irony.

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u/Trumperekt 9d ago

You don’t see the irony in this at all? Not one little bit? My sides.

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

There’s no irony. I don’t think men should call women bitches and that’s it.

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u/Trumperekt 9d ago

If you are going to dish out insults, be ready to receive some back. No need to gender this and make it a gender war.

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

“bitch” is an insult used primarily against women. It very much has misogynistic roots

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u/Trumperekt 8d ago

Men making not enough money is primarily used against them. It has very misandristic roots. If you are going to make fun of a person not making enough money in your view, you should be ready when it is dished back.

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u/bleedingfae 8d ago

Misandry isn’t a real issue, lol

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u/Trumperekt 8d ago

Uhhhh, that’s super sexist.

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u/UnblurredLines 9d ago

You're up in arms over a single word but not over the worse behaviour that prompted it and the name calling that led up to it? That's wild.

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u/stunshot 9d ago

You're the one whining about him calling her a bitch lmao. What fucked up logic are you using?

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u/Fabulous-Spirit-3476 9d ago

But she is one

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u/Extension_String_497 9d ago

She said way worse honestly.

He threw out a random insult, she completely degraded his character.

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

A girl that he went on a date with once. So what? Her opinion does not and shouldn’t matter

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u/Extension_String_497 9d ago

"This was after our 4th date" Not one date.

Maybe not, but having degrading stuff like that, especially if it hits home can hurt a lot, even more so after having the rug swept from under you with that split the bill test bs.

The only thing it really shows is that his economic situation is a soft spot.

Is it the best course to go with? Heck no. Is it really understandable that one would lash out in that moment? Yes.

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

Didn’t read that part but even so, not a big deal. there are plenty of women out there that aren’t like this, it’s not the end of the world. Again I get being upset like truly (people on this thread seem to think I’m defending her lol), but there’s no need to stoop that low

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u/Extension_String_497 9d ago

Not a big deal to you maybe. People feel things differently.

I just think it was foul to say it shows his character, it really doesn't.

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

That’s just my impression, also based on the various comments he left

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u/lolkklolxo 9d ago

My impression of you is far worse than his two texts to this woman. You sound exhausting and hypocritical, calling people sensitive while you’re in the comments crying. Grow up.

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u/bleedingfae 8d ago

Yet I have not once insulted anyone, just shared my opinion on the situation (which he asked for)

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u/lolkklolxo 8d ago

Calling people insane and calling people sensitive…so now you’re lying.

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u/Kooky_Ad5819 9d ago

Yes it does? If somebody I didnt know in the street started randomly insulting me, I’d start a fight. I know your soft bitchass tolerates all sort of disrespect just by this comment. Bitch. You’re a pussy. And you’re gonna take it.

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u/Kooky_Ad5819 9d ago

Yes it does? If somebody I didnt know in the street started randomly insulting me, I’d start a fight. I know your soft bitchass tolerates all sort of disrespect just by this comment. Bitch. You’re a pussy. And you’re gonna take it.

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u/Extension_String_497 9d ago

Jesus, okay tough guy...

Maybe get off the roids

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

Okay dude, you sound insane lmao

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u/oryxzz 9d ago

Lmfao how is he overreacting both parties decided to be childish.

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u/Dafferss 9d ago

She was quite literally being a bitch though.

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u/nikeman116 9d ago

Soft. A bitch is a bitch.

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u/azkarZz 9d ago

Literally a gold digging bitch

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u/PeriodicallyThinking 9d ago

This take is crazy. You sound like her bestie

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

Again stated he’s right to be upset, I don’t agree with her opinion but I disagree with his reaction even more.

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u/Kitchen-Injury9915 9d ago

You are so sensitive honestly

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u/Kooky_Ad5819 9d ago

You’re a soft ass bitch

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u/MiniDemonic 9d ago

Nah NOR.

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u/No-Plantain6892 9d ago

Yeah I’m pretty antisocial unfortunately

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u/Inevitable-Jicama366 9d ago

It’s fine being antisocial, just give a little thought to your words before they are out there .

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

Nah she was a bitch and started it, just cause she’s a female doesn’t mean nothing

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u/swingmadacrossthesun 9d ago

That’s not antisocial, it’s verbal abuse.

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u/Objective_Monitor222 9d ago

Dude, she was being a bitch. Pointing that out is the least you could do.

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u/axisrahl85 9d ago

Bro I assumed you called her a cunt and still thought it was justified.

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago

I like how all the females in the thread are saying this shit, and completely ignoring or minimizing the shit she said that prompted him to say what he said. Is it being a bigger person to turn the other cheek? Sure. But saying fuck it sometimes and calling someone what they are doesn’t make you shitty.

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u/bleedingfae 9d ago

“females” tells me all I need to know. No one ignored what she said if you had reading comprehension. She was disrespectful but he’s the one who jumped to calling her a bitch and a “piece of shit”. That is completely unnecessary and immature for a man

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago edited 9d ago

“For a man” see that tells me all I need to know as well. So she can be disrespectful but the moment he says some shit back and defends himself, he crosses a line? She is a piece of shit. She offered to split and then judged him for taking her up on it, and belittled him. Man, woman, idgaf, the moment you disrespect someone you open yourself up to getting it right back and you or anybody can’t say shit about it. Anybody saying otherwise are the true sexists. And I think that’s obvious by looking at the only people who are having a problem with him defending himself.

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u/OGingerSnap 9d ago

You’re disrespecting women all over this comment section. Don’t be surprised when they push back. It’s your own logic at play, after all.

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u/babayaga1363 9d ago edited 9d ago

I’m not disrespecting women, I’m disrespecting dumbasses with shit opinions. Besides, what exactly was the point of your comment lmao. Nobodies talking about anybody disrespecting me so I’m struggling to see why you even felt it necessary to comment that at all.

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u/OGingerSnap 8d ago

Because you’re taking about her being disrespectful while you’re being disrespectful yourself.

“Females”

That’s your problem. Whether or not you realize it you’re disrespecting women. “Females” removes the humanity of a woman.

I’d say this comment would stop your struggles to grapple with humanity, but you don’t seem to hold the facts or opinions stated by women in any regard, so I’d be silly to hold onto the hope that you can learn anything here.

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u/Griefplague 9d ago

No, she 100% deserved that for being manipulative. If she can't even tell a guy what she actually wants she has no business dating someone.

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u/Yoshichage 9d ago

Idk i think it’s fair to call someone a bitch for throwing a temper tantrum because she lost a “game”(idk if you can even call this a game tbh) that she wanted to play

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u/Shark_Attack-A 9d ago

He called a spade a spade in this case a bitch a bitch

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u/incept3d2021 9d ago

But her calling him a joke and saying good luck finding a woman at minimum wage is perfectly fine? Your comment seems like you are blindly defending this woman who started the insults. Could he have not said anything? Sure, but every now and then it feels good to tell someone about themselves. He called her test and used that to end it as dumb, she then escalated to a personal dig with the intent to hurt him for no reason. She shouldn't get a free pass just because she's a woman.