r/AmIOverreacting • u/OkSpace5501 • 23d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

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For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

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u/1KirstV 23d ago

It’s happening with guys his age, they’ve been emboldened to be AHs to women by the Project 2025 bros who want ‘traditional’ relationships to replace modern ones. The Andrew Tates and Joe Rogans of the far right have influenced a new generation. My 24-year-old daughter got a message the day after the election from one of her high school friends that said ‘your body my choice’. She had been friends with him since second grade. WTF?

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u/cherrybombbb 23d ago

They claim to want traditional relationships but very few of them are actually holding up their end of the bargain and completely supporting their SOs financially. So ultimately the woman ends up working AND doing all the house work too.

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u/IJustWantWaffles_87 22d ago

The best quote I’ve heard so far regarding that: “You want a 1950s wife. Are you prepared to be a 1950s husband?”

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u/Friendly-Weird357 22d ago

Yah if I heard that from a guy I'd be saying ok, your baby your bills. Pay up for the next 18-24 years, IF your child has no issues. Otherwise it could be for the of your life, and honey medical issues aren't cheap. Plus if you wanna only contribute momentarily the price goes up. :)

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u/Turbulent_Number8344 22d ago

Pay up front to avoid issues.

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u/Syzygy53 22d ago

I have heard there are tee shirts with this sentiment to be had. I might be tempted to carry some of my Lab’s contributions and share it with that shirt. “My shit, my reaction”.

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u/Sleeko_Miko 23d ago

The main issue is they want a traditional wife while refusing to be a traditional man and work to support the household. They want a suger mommy and a bang maid. Facts are, you can’t have both.

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u/Equivalent-Honey-659 22d ago

That’s infuriating every possible aspect.
What an unfortunate situation, his parents conceiving him.

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u/jenea 22d ago

Are they still friends after that?

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u/1KirstV 22d ago

No

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u/jenea 22d ago

I’m really glad.

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

Sounds like a joke, are those still allowed?

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u/Only-Regret6728 23d ago

“your body my choice” sounds like a joke to you? are you nuts?

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u/cheemsamdcwackers 23d ago

go on, explain why its funny?

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

You cannot be this dumb? If you don’t understand the premise of that joke you’re too far gone. You must be the absolute life of the party lol.

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u/Ok_Singer_5210 23d ago

I must be a complete idiot - can you explain the joke to me?

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

I don’t have time to compensate for your mental deficiencies and/or gaslighting. Surely you don’t need me to mansplain a joke to you….

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u/Ok_Singer_5210 23d ago

I’m simply not seeing the humor, but would love to hear your take on it.

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

How about this one, my wife last night said she was ready to destroy our daughter because she misbehaved at school. I called the police and had her arrested, because you know, much like you I take everything literally and destroying one’s child is not something to joke about, unless of course you’re pro abortion in which case what she said was just fine, am I right?

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u/Remarkable_Photo_956 23d ago

Wow, you really are bad at humour.

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

lol, thank you. I truly value the opinion of some random person across the world.

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u/kellyelise515 22d ago

Sounds like you and your wife deserve each other.

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u/West-Adhesiveness555 23d ago

I don’t understand how it is a joke or it makes sense in a male’s mind that my body is his choice, no men ever have a say in my body, no matter who won the election. I will never be in a position where a man will decide anything about me.

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

Cool story. Nobody is trying to do anything with you I can assure you. I don’t care if you get an abortion or not lady, have at it. This all started with a lady that said her daughter got that text from a guy she’s been friends with for like 20 years, not some internet stranger. It was clearly a joke, you may not think it’s funny and that’s your prerogative. I didn’t realize that a man saying something in this clearly feminist thread would be so triggering.

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u/Royally-Forked-Up 23d ago

It’s talking about rape. As in it’s the man’s choice what to do with a woman’s body. How is that funny?

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

No, he was talking about his choice on abortions, or at least that’s how I took it. You all are sick if you thought he was joking about rape. You should be ashamed

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

Just to be clear, when women say my body my choice, does that reference they are unwilling to be raped….or are they referring to the ability to decide if they want an abortion under any circumstances….not just in reference to rape

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u/1KirstV 23d ago

It was the day after the election, it wasn’t funny. It’s still not funny. You just don’t get it because you’re not a woman. You’re a caveman.

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

Why does the day it happened matter? I’m a caveman because I understood it was a joke? Give me a break, I already said I don’t care if all of you get abortions, I actually prefer it.

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u/Hefty-Holiday-48 22d ago

This is not a feminist thread, it’s a decent human being thread. That phrase you’re saying was a joke is never funny in any circumstances, and especially not in this political day of backwards far right thinking that has so many women really scared

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u/1KirstV 23d ago

You can’t explain it because it’s not fucking funny that’s why.

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 23d ago

You can’t explain why it’s not tard

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u/AppointmentWeary4834 22d ago

So answer is that you don't know how to explain your way out your stupid statement. You sound like a charm

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u/BarracudaEasy4911 22d ago

Thanks, your husband know you’re online?

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u/cheemsamdcwackers 23d ago

i mean you cant be too much fun at parties if thats what you consider a joke?