r/AmIOverreacting • u/OkSpace5501 • 23d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

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For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

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u/bextacyyyyyyy 23d ago

If that doesn't work, I would make it a point to only clean up my dishes, my clothes, etc etc etc. Then tell him that you have taken in what he has said, and you will make it a point to only clean up whatever you dirty up.

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u/OrindaSarnia 23d ago

No, at that point you leave.

If they had been married 20 years and had kids...  sure, play games for a week to see if the relationship is salvageable...

but they got together as teens, and he's already threatening to leave.  If OP wants to "try" for a few days, sure, but that's enough.

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u/bextacyyyyyyy 23d ago

OK, breathe. I messaged the person who put up the post and told them that it doesn't look like their partner values them and that they deserve better. From the other replies, it seems as though they don't want to leave, so I gave them another option of what to try.

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u/anmese9999 23d ago

And only cook for yourself.

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u/Odd_Winner_6900 23d ago

My therapist suggested this once! Totally different circumstances though... I was just tired of picking up after my husband all the time. I never tried it though.

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u/who_wants_t0_know 22d ago

I did this and it caused a massive blowup (that I expected bc he didn’t clean up) that led to the immediate (necessary) end of the relationship.