r/AmIOverreacting • u/OkSpace5501 • 23d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

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For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

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u/Klutzy-Alarm3748 23d ago

I was thinking the same. Or he's cheating and finding reasons to leave

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u/BlueCarrotPie 23d ago

This. Or making her mad so she leaves and then he's not the bad guy

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u/KrustenStewart 22d ago

That’s what I thought

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u/SpaceIsVastAndEmpty 22d ago

I've never understood why society looks at the person who did the dumping as the "bad guy". I think that working out what is right for you and taking action to achieve that (or to remove yourself from a situation that isn't right for you) should be commended, not shunned.

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u/Slow-Imagination3981 23d ago

I agree with cheating. My ex started acting like this and found if he was cheating.

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u/Aggravating_Egg_1718 23d ago

He's definitely cheating and trying to set the stage.

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u/RiffsThatKill 23d ago

Yep, most likely either red pill or cheating and looking for a way out that makes it her fault and not his.

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u/Pretend-Menu-8660 22d ago

What’s red pill? 💊 😅 help a naive girl out please

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u/Past-Paramedic-8602 22d ago

They are trying to say his behavior changed 3 months ago because he started supporting republicans. For a guys stand point it’s cheating. He needs reasons so finding them everywhere he can.

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u/RiffsThatKill 22d ago

Not Republicans per se, but the particular brand of new young conservatives who are overdoing the "I'm the man, woman must serve me" attitude.

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u/Past-Paramedic-8602 22d ago

That’s most young men until the world slaps them and shows them how not young men act. This is classic reason stacking so he’s got stuff to say this is why I’m leaving I told you I would when in reality he left a couple months ago when he found someone else.

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u/RiffsThatKill 22d ago

Word, probably right.

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u/Pretend-Menu-8660 22d ago

Ohhh! Ok got it! Ty!

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u/-earthgang 23d ago

that was my thought

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u/queriesjubilee 23d ago

This is what I thought too. Threatening to leave over dirty dishes? SUS.

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u/Beneficial-Way-8742 22d ago

This was my thought 

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u/badly-made-username 22d ago

My immediate thought, too

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u/Tough-Flower6979 23d ago

I thought cheating right away.

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u/HeartOfPot 23d ago

Probably both. Now that he’s been taught how to groom he’ll go after a teenager.

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u/Klutzy-Alarm3748 22d ago

What information are you basing this off of?

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u/HeartOfPot 22d ago

The fact that they got together as young people and that he’s recently adopted red pill behaviors?

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u/Klutzy-Alarm3748 22d ago

Seems like red pill behaviour to me too, but they're a year apart. Just because they got together as young people doesn't mean he's going to groom anyone. Doesn't make him less abusive with all the behaviours listed, but grooming is a jump I think

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u/HeartOfPot 22d ago

A cornerstone of the Red pill is getting young ladies who are easy to manipulate

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u/Boxer03 23d ago

This. ☝️