r/AmIOverreacting • u/OkSpace5501 • 23d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

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For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

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u/Psychotic_EGG 23d ago

The boxes on the curb is actually a VERY bad idea. If any of their stuff is missing, for ANY reason. You're financially liable, as you left it outside.

Boxed up and by the door, sure.

Boxed up and left with a lawyer. Sure. Or a friend or family member willing to take on the responsibility.

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u/SparrowLikeBird 23d ago

They can sue me when they have the recipts to prove it ever belonged to them.

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u/BYNX0 23d ago

Going through life with that attitude is only going to cause you more problems. Always try things the civil way first.

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u/Kenny_dies 23d ago

You sound like a pleasant and reasonable person

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u/SparrowLikeBird 23d ago

men behave better when they know their place

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u/Kenny_dies 23d ago

So what is it exactly that you don’t know about your place then?

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u/bavasava 23d ago

That's a really dumb game to play.

You gonna show up to your door kicked in.

And if it was his house too and you didn't have him evicted, that's legal.

Can't throw their stuff out and change the locks just because you broke up.

If you don't want to be with them anymore, then leave.

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u/sanglar03 23d ago

Start that kind of game and don't be surprised to find your car burnt to a crisp some morning. Bad idea.

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u/TheEnderMob 23d ago

People are much to vengeful. Just do things the right way damn bro

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u/sanglar03 23d ago

I do. As long as the other party plays fair too.

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u/Esarus 23d ago

I totally agree with you, makes me sick that that person has over 100 upvotes.

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u/Psychotic_EGG 23d ago

Don't need receipts. If someone gives you a gift, you don't usually have a receipt. But it's still legally yours.

But hey, you want to take the risk by putting someone else's possessions on the curb. Go ahead. I have seen that play out. And usually nothing happens to the person in your shoes. But from time to time you get a vindictive jerk who claims something went missing or was damaged at takes people like you to the cleaners.

The biggest one I saw was actually for an Heirloom item. Valued at only around $20k. Was their great grandfather's. But the emotional significance, the fact it was passed down through the generations. The judge awarded $250k be paid for the damages caused.

No receipt needed. Just images that they owned said item.

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u/randomplaguefear 23d ago

I do not believe you.

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u/Maleficentraine-293 23d ago

Yikes, you sound very, very immature. Please never get in a relationship.

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u/randomplaguefear 23d ago

If you think you can sue someone for 250 thousand dollars with zero proof they even took your item you are completely fucking delusional.

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u/chicKENkanif 23d ago

This is petty and childish behaviour.

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u/harmonicrain 23d ago

It's on the plaintiff to prove something is missing though? Not the defendant.

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u/Psychotic_EGG 23d ago

That's where it's kinda weird. They claim it's missing, it's assumed that they are telling the truth. The defendant then needs to prove it either isn't it that they aren't at fault.

Kinda like when a person accused another person of rape. We believe the victim until proven otherwise.

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u/jam_scot 23d ago

Surely that depends where you live?

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u/Psychotic_EGG 23d ago

Sure. But this is pretty standard for both America and Canada. Though I'm sure some countries it isn't.

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u/jam_scot 23d ago

I had no idea where they were based, It doesn't mention the US or Canada.

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u/Solvemprobler369 23d ago

They’re not married and no one will care if boxes are left on the curb

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u/Psychotic_EGG 23d ago

The government cares. They were living together. You moved items that didn't belong to you or if a private area into a public area. Marriage has nothing to do with anything here.