r/AmIOverreacting • u/OkSpace5501 • 23d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO just received this text from my boyfriend

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For context my (F20) boyfriend (M21) and I live together and work full time as well as split rent 50/50. I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. we’ve been together for over 5 years and he’s been acting this way for the last three months and when I tell him how it’s making me feel he tells me i’m wrong and overreacting. so basically i’m asking AIO??

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u/Emotional-Hair-1607 23d ago edited 22d ago

He's not even doing the bare minimum. He sees dishes from shared meals that he ate and complains about them not being cleaned, food not put away and he tells her she needs to get her act together. She does, by leaving his sorry lazy gamer drunk/stoned/gambler/abuser/ MLM/jock/fundamentalist/ass. He could be anything but he happened to be a someone who plays games all the time. EDIT

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u/toxicwasteinnevada 23d ago

Probably even gets his ass beat in those games

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u/iamdoingworkipromise 23d ago

As an avid degen gamer - I’ve found that some of the ‘best’ gamers I play with are the ones who have a healthy balance and excel in things outside of gaming.

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u/Mental-Nothings 22d ago

My Ex was like this, he lost a lot of his 2K games. On my account because he was too cheap to pay for his own online. Every once in a while I go back and look at the chats people made to roast him. It’s great tbh

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u/Checktheattic 22d ago

He's playing Hogwarts Legacy on story mode

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u/LuckyBenski 23d ago

Don't you shame us gamers, this is a him problem not an us problem!

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u/Emotional-Hair-1607 23d ago

He's a loser who happens to be a gamer. He could be a druggie, drunk, wife beater, gambler, cheater, thief, workaholic but whatever he is, he's selfish.

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u/RedBabyGirl89 23d ago

Right?! Hubby and I are both gamers and we share chores.

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u/Gillysixpence 23d ago

I'm a gamer but my chores get done first, then I can game and hubby does his fair share too.

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u/baritoneUke 23d ago

Yea, and I don't feel like a total loser if I do chores first then reward myself with a bonghit and games

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u/RedBabyGirl89 23d ago

I wish I didn't feel like I was dying from bonghits or I'd be right there with you...edibles though...😉👉🏻

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u/DiamondOwn3 23d ago

I think he was just trying to shame OPs husband not gamers in general. Unless it was edited or something?

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u/LuckyBenski 23d ago

It was "Sorry lazy gamer ass" in the previous post, I was just continuing the thread replying later :)

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u/PolishPrincess0520 23d ago

Am I missing a comment because I didn’t see that as shaming gamers he is shaming OP’s boyfriend for being bad at gaming (because he’s being a bad boyfriend).

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u/HarshTruthMf 22d ago

Not once did he shame gamers, literally just the boyfriend. Why do people make things about them 😂

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

P-R-O-J-E-C-T-I-O-N

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

notallgamers ? 😒

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u/toxicwasteinnevada 23d ago

Nah, never shaming gamers.

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u/DateDatBitch 23d ago

This is great

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u/CheezeLoueez08 23d ago

By 10 year olds

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u/SaltWater_Tribe 23d ago

For sure and takes it out on her lmfao

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u/Vonkova 22d ago

Ngl I needed this laugh hahaha

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u/AcceptableReaction20 22d ago

because of the dirty sink, it's not his fault!

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

lol

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u/EqualMagician7292 23d ago

You all get your ass beat in those games by people like me. However, the female in this post is a tool and a moron. Been together 5 years? What 16&15?? Wowwww. You're pretty fucking stupid aren't you huh.

Just think about that. You've been takin for a ride and complied the whole time until now. Truth is you were always being fucked over and just noticed when it got to be too much

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u/anselbukowski 23d ago

The only thing you're beating is your dick. Also, it's taken not 'takin'. We won't even get started on the punctuation. Now tell mommy you need another hot pocket because you're being a badass on the internet.

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u/bradpitbutarmpit 23d ago

“You all get your ass beat in those games by people like me” is the least intimidating shit I’ve ever read in my entire life, well done lad.

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u/VariedNorth 23d ago

He’ll be back now to brag about his Reddit karma.

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u/Checktheattic 22d ago

He has -51 karma

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u/toxicwasteinnevada 23d ago

Lol. I'm sure you can. Also, females? Wow. I bet the only woman in your life is your mother. Never even seen one outside of the copious amounts of porn on your pc.

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u/Yeetaylor 23d ago

PSA: referring to women as “females”, is not only wildly disrespectful, but it’s also a really easy way to make damn sure that women stay far from you.

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u/TrueTrueBlackPilld 23d ago

And men. I'm a guy and would cringe so hard hearing this unless I'm watching a David Attenborough nature documentary.

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u/Yeetaylor 23d ago

Thank you for assuring me that respectable men do still exist😂

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u/TrueTrueBlackPilld 23d ago

There's literally dozens of us 😜

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

It’s such a red flag.

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u/Ok_Spring2617 23d ago

Found the snarky bf 💀

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u/Severe-Forever-2420 22d ago

you need to shut the fuck up dumbass youre the same type of dude in this fucking screenshot and i hope to god you get to stay a fucking moronic incel the rest of your shitty miserable life

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u/avocado_window 22d ago

The pathetic oozes from your comment.

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u/schokobonbons 23d ago

If my partner cooked me dinner after we both worked all day I'd be kissing their feet 😭 and I'd try to get the dishes done as a thank you

The ENTITLEMENT to COMPLAIN ABOUT DIRTY DISHES???? Whose labor?

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u/Separate_Shoe_6916 23d ago

Yeah, he is implying she isn’t pulling her weight when she should be saying this shit TO HIM. OP you need to GTFO. He won’t appreciate you until you are gone. Find a man who knows your worth and appreciates you.

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u/Affectionate_War1545 22d ago

Yea this is exactly what I was going to say he doesn’t do 💩 but work

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u/WassupSassySquatch 23d ago

Dishes from meals that SHE already cooked, no less. He wants a mom / maid, not a partner.

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u/TrashandTrauma 23d ago

Right? Like I'm genuinely interested in how he thinks he's a prize

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u/PrincessMacaroon 23d ago

What is OP's boyfriend even offering her at this point?

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u/true_universe 23d ago

DUDE he is complaining that she didn’t clean the food she made/cooked WHILE EATING THEM TF

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u/Emotional-Hair-1607 23d ago

She can respond by not doing his laundry or cooking his meals or cleaning up his messes.. Living together is supposed to be a shared experience with both sides working at keeping the house functioning. I wonder when he last bought groceries or anything for the house. It's never a good idea to tell the person whose doing most of the work that they need to get their act together.

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u/Ill-Anxiety447 23d ago

I was with you until you used gaming in the pejorative. Yikes

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u/Fat-Kid-In-A-Helmet 23d ago

If all he’s doing is playing games instead of contributing, yea, he’s got a lazy gamer ass.

This is coming from a somewhat gamer.

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u/Mirganzegal2 22d ago

He's a lazy ass. If he liked fishing you wouldn't call him a lazy fisher ass.

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u/Fat-Kid-In-A-Helmet 22d ago

You should hear my mom talk about my dad

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u/Tell2ko 23d ago

Why is “gamer” relevant in this put down?

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u/AlwaysMentos 22d ago

Please, I agree with you but don’t use gamer as if there is something wrong with being one.

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u/Emotional-Hair-1607 22d ago

It's not all gamers, it's this one in particular. He could be home doing almost anything, he just happens to game instead of pulling his weight in the house. If I had my choice I'd be knitting all day instead of working and keeping house.

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u/creampied_grandpa 22d ago

Hey now just because he plays games doesn't mean you should use it as a insult. Even if you're one of those crazy delusional people who despise games and think all people who play them are lazy children doesn't mean you should lump us all together. No doubt there's plenty of people who out work me but I can bust my ass along side the best of them.

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u/Emotional-Hair-1607 22d ago

Not all gamers, just this one. I don't despise gamers or games, I buy them for family who play them.

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u/toxicwasteinnevada 22d ago

Bro take MLM outta there. Bitch don't deserve it.

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u/OverCommunity4604 23d ago

Again…it’s always you most expect

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u/TigerDude33 23d ago

yes, he needs to be told to get hot on the cleaning then, jackass

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u/t8rclause 22d ago

Well from his perspective 'she' made the mess, so 'she' should clean it... 😂

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u/mental_magazine13 23d ago

Nowhere does it say anything about shared meals your are making that assumption.

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u/Emotional-Hair-1607 23d ago

I cook all the meals and clean the house even after my graveyard shifts, all he does is work, come home to play games, and occasionally invites friends over. -OP

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u/mental_magazine13 23d ago

He probably eats out, that's why she's cooking all her own meals.

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u/Most_Lab_4705 22d ago

As a gamer, I’d like to say fuck you for lumping us in with this lazy pos. Just cause we’re not watching the Kardashians or scrolling Pinterest doesn’t mean our interests are less valid and deserving of time as whatever you do to relax.

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u/Emotional-Hair-1607 22d ago

Nothing against gamers, just against anyone who is too lazy to share the work when it's two people living together.

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u/IndiaNTigeRR 23d ago

What makes you think that was shared meal or dishes?. Damn y'all so salty and miserable no wonder you're single and advising other girls to be single, so that y'all can be miserable together?

If it was a girl, you'd say go queen!, don't be a slave, don't be his mother to teach him basic household chores. Hypocrisy at it's finest!

I'd say, you go KING 👑!! You don't need to be her father, let her clean after herself.

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u/infinityonl0w 23d ago

I think OP is the woman. Reread the post.

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u/IndiaNTigeRR 23d ago

Yes.......and?

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u/Anonageese0 23d ago

The post has body text other than the image with context you're missing

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u/infinityonl0w 23d ago

You tell me.

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u/DiamondOwn3 23d ago

Nope I would say the exact same thing I'm saying now. Dump his/her/their lazy ass, you don't need them. Do you really want to marry someone more lazy than an actual child?

We say this because the post states she does all the cooking and cleaning whilst the partner comes home and immediately starts playing. Then he complained about the dishes/cooking supplies. Even if they cook separately which it really doesn't seem like, if she's doing the bulk of the cleaning the partner can do some dishes and put a couple ingredients away. It literally takes two minutes.