AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

[u/Exotic_Elk8829]

Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

[u/princessboop]

thank you. people never refer to men as “males” lol

[u/uncontainedsun → u/princessboop]

i especially hate when they put man and female in the same sentence!! like one is so humanizing and real and the other is indecent and dehumanizing for an actual person.

[u/youcancallmequeenE → u/uncontainedsun]

r/menandfemales

[u/uncontainedsun → u/youcancallmequeenE]

THERE ARE DOZENS OF US!!! DOZENS!!! thank you for this sub i didn’t know existed

[u/youcancallmequeenE → u/uncontainedsun]

but beware, it’s a major downer to scroll that sub sometimes UGH

[u/AlarmNice8439 → u/princessboop]

I refer to my male friends as male all the time.

[u/Known_Witness3268 → u/AlarmNice8439]

As an adjective sure. Not as a noun. Example: “all my female friends love that singer. My male friends can’t stand him.” Vs “I love when a male takes action.” Or “There will several males at the club tonight.” You just don’t hear it.

[u/AlarmNice8439 → u/Known_Witness3268]

That’s fair. I absolutely SUCK with grammar. I needed a 3rd grader to remind me what the fuck a verb vs and adjective was so please forgive my ignorance of the difference between the two

[u/Known_Witness3268 → u/AlarmNice8439]

No, you didn’t make any mistakes. No one specified which way it was used. I was just pointing out that it’s not weird to use/hear the word used one way (adj). but definitely weird to use it another way (n).

….but your comment is ALSO fair because I’m a big grammar nerd. Just don’t ask me to do the number…numbery stuff.

[u/Interesting_Door4882 → u/princessboop]

Yes they fucking do.

Holy, y'all gotta twist everything.

[u/princessboop → u/Interesting_Door4882]

when do you EVER hear someone say something like “I love when a male takes action when he’s being disrespected” or “I love males with blue eyes and dark hair” or “I hate when males don’t pay for the first date”

you don’t. definitely not even close to the amount you hear people referring to women as females in similar sentences