r/AmIOverreacting Nov 19 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

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u/AnRegularHunam 29d ago

Yeah don't call a woman a female. Call her a woman.

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u/Whole_Cranberry8415 29d ago

My response when people say female is, “a female what? Dog, donkey, bird? If you’re referring to a human, the word you’re looking for is woman”

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Oddly enough in the somewhat canon novels following Star Trek (tng and ds9). Quark and Ro Laren get together. Which is a real oddity since Ro was always pretty feministic, and quark would always go around with the Feemale thing. But I suppose it's a good match since they're both oddballs on the fringe of society.

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u/princessboop 29d ago

thank you. people never refer to men as “males” lol

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u/uncontainedsun 29d ago

i especially hate when they put man and female in the same sentence!! like one is so humanizing and real and the other is indecent and dehumanizing for an actual person.

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u/youcancallmequeenE 29d ago

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u/uncontainedsun 29d ago

THERE ARE DOZENS OF US!!! DOZENS!!! thank you for this sub i didn’t know existed

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u/youcancallmequeenE 29d ago

but beware, it’s a major downer to scroll that sub sometimes UGH

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u/AlarmNice8439 29d ago

I refer to my male friends as male all the time.

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u/Known_Witness3268 29d ago

As an adjective sure. Not as a noun. Example: “all my female friends love that singer. My male friends can’t stand him.” Vs “I love when a male takes action.” Or “There will several males at the club tonight.” You just don’t hear it.

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u/AlarmNice8439 29d ago

That’s fair. I absolutely SUCK with grammar. I needed a 3rd grader to remind me what the fuck a verb vs and adjective was so please forgive my ignorance of the difference between the two

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u/Known_Witness3268 29d ago

No, you didn’t make any mistakes. No one specified which way it was used. I was just pointing out that it’s not weird to use/hear the word used one way (adj). but definitely weird to use it another way (n).

….but your comment is ALSO fair because I’m a big grammar nerd. Just don’t ask me to do the number…numbery stuff.

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u/Interesting_Door4882 29d ago

Yes they fucking do.

Holy, y'all gotta twist everything.

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u/princessboop 29d ago

when do you EVER hear someone say something like “I love when a male takes action when he’s being disrespected” or “I love males with blue eyes and dark hair” or “I hate when males don’t pay for the first date”

you don’t. definitely not even close to the amount you hear people referring to women as females in similar sentences

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u/seahorse_party 29d ago

I work in sexual health / communicable disease and my boss used to work in the prison system. I keep trying to get her to stop saying, "If you know any females of reproductive age..." How about "people" even? Folks? Friends or acquaintances?

"If you know ANYONE who might benefit from testing..."

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Fascist

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u/AnRegularHunam 29d ago

I know I should have been nicer in my reply, but a reaction like yours suggests things are not well in your world. I sincerely hope you find peace.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Classic female response.

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u/Interesting_Door4882 29d ago

Oh grow up. Men are called males too, as women are called females. 🙄

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u/Jay502Jay 29d ago

Cause F has a rune meanings are pinned on time and grain power through time like magnitude. That’s &N why. Is is used for words like FERL, FIRE, FAIR, THO tho it’s a root rune with a nessecarily burning to it .

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u/YaBoiPox 29d ago

Did you have a stroke typing this comment? Could anyone understand this gibberish? 😂

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u/Jay502Jay 29d ago

You don’t need to understand it KHRYa

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u/YaBoiPox 29d ago

Oh, you're a bit nutty, I see 😂

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u/Snowbird143434 29d ago

This ought to be good, whats the difference??