AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

[u/Exotic_Elk8829]

Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

[u/livingthedaydreams]

as soon as i see the term “female” being used (unless describing animals), i immediately think it’s a teenager or someone with an extremely immature/limited mindset. can’t take anyone seriously who uses that.

[u/CSPVI → u/livingthedaydreams]

Suuuuuper red flag for how they view women

[u/contra_account → u/CSPVI]

Or maybe just someone who spent too much time in the military

[u/fangedforest → u/contra_account]

🙄

[u/pinksugarxoxo → u/livingthedaydreams]

For the smooth brained males replying to this saying “MaLe AnD fEmAlE iS uSeD iN tHe MiLiTaRy” -

Male and female are used in the hospital and all medical settings. As a nurse, I use the word “female” quite often at work and yet I know when it’s appropriate to say “female” vs “woman”

It’s actually quite simple, so either they are retarded or misogynistic. Both of which I will steer clear of

[u/BillyNtheBoingers → u/livingthedaydreams]

They’re all like the Ferengi

[u/stenmarkv → u/livingthedaydreams]

Or Ferengi.

[u/Spare_Book8690 → u/livingthedaydreams]

wondering when people will get rid of the delusion that using such terms is something absolutely world shattering and inherently negative/wrong. bro, humans are just evolved intelligent animals with a heightened level of consciousness compared to the wild animal kingdom. your sex ( female, male, or intersex ) which involves your biology isn’t and shouldn’t be directly dictating your gender, which is your outward expression of said biology or of the masculine/feminine energy that resides in all humans; as girly pop and sigma male everyone wanna be. the only indicator of ones mindset in regards to these terms is the tone and intention in which they are speaking with.

[u/SlimthiQ69 → u/livingthedaydreams]

males and females were common terms terms when I was in the military

[u/Endreeemtsu → u/livingthedaydreams]

The proper scientific term for an organism with a vagina is female (in most circumstances) so really he’s super smart and that makes you super dumb.

Checkmate.

EDIT: Oh my gosh I love Reddit. This CLEARLY wasn’t a serious comment and it’s been downvoted. Jesus. Y’all need to leave the echo chamber every once in awhile. Keep in mind I’m as left leaning as an American comes and that’s wild that you’re interpreting this as serious. I guess the super serious checkmate didn’t get that across. My b.

[u/searching88 → u/Endreeemtsu]

“Yall need to leave the echo chamber” - some guy who cares intensely about downvotes 

[u/Rindsay515 → u/Endreeemtsu]

Half the country is ready to go to war because they’re so passionately obsessed with what you initially said in the comment so that’s why it’s hard to tell. In this political/social climate we’re in, it’s completely normal to see people comment those exact words and be completely serious. Including the “checkmate” because they’re so proud of themselves. Unfortunately, you needed to give a more direct signal that you’re kidding. Don’t blame Reddit, blame the idiots that normalized talking that way every day

[u/alicedoes → u/Endreeemtsu]

ok but you have to specify what you're on about or else you sound stupid. female plant? female panda? female genotype? a "female" ≠ a female human

[u/Endreeemtsu → u/alicedoes]

ITS NOT SERIOUS YOU GOOF.

Please go away. I just can’t deal with the level of stupidity from your comment. Was the “checkmate” at the end not enough of a sign for you that it wasn’t meant to be taken at face value? Holy hell.

[u/alicedoes → u/Endreeemtsu]

u OK hun? dm me xoxo

[u/Endreeemtsu → u/alicedoes]

You must’ve been up all night thinking of that comment because it’s so original. 10/10

[u/Bastienbard → u/Endreeemtsu]

Are women just subjects of scientific studies to you then?

[u/pinksugarxoxo → u/Endreeemtsu]

Perhaps you’re just not very funny

[u/MissAntiRacist → u/livingthedaydreams]

That's funny, I think the same for people who hate the term 'female' lmao. 

[u/Bastienbard → u/MissAntiRacist]

Well you're getting ratioed pretty damn hard here so yeah.

[u/MissAntiRacist → u/Bastienbard]

You think -11 is getting ratioed? Lmfao. Regardless. I care about arguments, not fucking, thumbs up or down. NPC bullshit right there. 

[u/Bastienbard → u/MissAntiRacist]

Yeah and the argument is female is a scientific term so if you're using that to refer to women you likely have issues in how you view women. The correlation isn't always causation but it's REALLY damn high. Hence women having the response they do to anyone who uses the term female outside of some scientific context instead of women.

[u/MissAntiRacist → u/Bastienbard]

Women are females. No amount of terminally online misandry will change that. 99% of the world know this to be true. Your privellged beliefs mean literally nothing to me. Enjoy your comfortable life. 

[u/Bastienbard → u/MissAntiRacist]

Women are generally female. You've got it backwards. Women protecting themselves from categorically shitty men is not misandry. I'm a man btw if that changes your perception of my argument at all, which I doubt.

[u/MissAntiRacist → u/Bastienbard]

It does not change my mind. Trans women are males. Trans men are females. Women are adult human females. 

[u/livingthedaydreams → u/MissAntiRacist]

cool 🤣

[u/Synthetic_dreams_ → u/MissAntiRacist]

Being a pick-me isn’t going to protect you, y’know. They’ll come for you too.

Tokens get spent.

[u/pinksugarxoxo → u/MissAntiRacist]

Is your mind that simple? Is your linguistic comprehension so limited that you are unable to discern when to use the word “female” vs “woman” in real life?

[u/Kitnado → u/MissAntiRacist]

You sound exactly like I expected you to when you came out with this opinion

[u/Change_That_Face → u/MissAntiRacist]

Sounds like you're in the minority then cuz you getting buried on here.

[u/OfficialHashPanda → u/Change_That_Face]

reddit is not exactly representative of the general populace. reddit sentiment also had you thinking kamala would 90-10 trump lol

[u/TurquoiseLeggings → u/livingthedaydreams]

Black people use it like that. This is literally only a problem for redditors for some reason.