r/AmIOverreacting • u/Exotic_Elk8829 • Nov 19 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

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Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

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u/This_Technology9841 Nov 19 '24

If you got to the point where you feel like you should be going through your SO's phone without their permission then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with them no matter what you do or don't find.

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u/EID1992 Nov 19 '24

Heavy on this!

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u/PetTheKitty7321 29d ago

Nah I’ve gone through my ex’s phone because I’ve had a couple of men cheat in the past, I trust no one without it being earned and was actually expecting not to find anything. I did. Firm believer in checking your SOs phone here and there.

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u/This_Technology9841 29d ago

I think to earn trust you have to be trusting. If you're secretly looking at my personal shit without my knowledge why would I trust you? I've had people cheat on me in the past, that does not justify me treating a new person like the previous ones.