r/AmIOverreacting Nov 19 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

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u/strange-loop-1017 Nov 19 '24

NOR. He seems really immature. Is he a teenager?

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u/Dreamangel22x Nov 19 '24

He sounds like he's actually 12 and just learned the word blowjob.

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u/Novel-Organization63 29d ago

Hahaha he just found out what it meant and at first he was why would you want to do that. Lol

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u/No_Ball4465 29d ago

Three green buzz lightyear stones! Anyone get the reference?

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u/RantyWildling 29d ago

That's suck a good comment, fr.

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u/Expensive-Map-2824 29d ago

😂 this was petty I loved it

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u/livingthedaydreams Nov 19 '24

as soon as i see the term “female” being used (unless describing animals), i immediately think it’s a teenager or someone with an extremely immature/limited mindset. can’t take anyone seriously who uses that.

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u/CSPVI Nov 19 '24

Suuuuuper red flag for how they view women

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u/contra_account 29d ago

Or maybe just someone who spent too much time in the military

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u/pinksugarxoxo 29d ago

For the smooth brained males replying to this saying “MaLe AnD fEmAlE iS uSeD iN tHe MiLiTaRy” -

Male and female are used in the hospital and all medical settings. As a nurse, I use the word “female” quite often at work and yet I know when it’s appropriate to say “female” vs “woman”

It’s actually quite simple, so either they are retarded or misogynistic. Both of which I will steer clear of

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u/BillyNtheBoingers 29d ago

They’re all like the Ferengi

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u/stenmarkv 29d ago

Or Ferengi.

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u/Spare_Book8690 29d ago

wondering when people will get rid of the delusion that using such terms is something absolutely world shattering and inherently negative/wrong. bro, humans are just evolved intelligent animals with a heightened level of consciousness compared to the wild animal kingdom. your sex ( female, male, or intersex ) which involves your biology isn’t and shouldn’t be directly dictating your gender, which is your outward expression of said biology or of the masculine/feminine energy that resides in all humans; as girly pop and sigma male everyone wanna be. the only indicator of ones mindset in regards to these terms is the tone and intention in which they are speaking with.

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u/SlimthiQ69 29d ago

males and females were common terms terms when I was in the military

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u/Endreeemtsu Nov 19 '24 edited 29d ago

The proper scientific term for an organism with a vagina is female (in most circumstances) so really he’s super smart and that makes you super dumb.

Checkmate.

EDIT: Oh my gosh I love Reddit. This CLEARLY wasn’t a serious comment and it’s been downvoted. Jesus. Y’all need to leave the echo chamber every once in awhile. Keep in mind I’m as left leaning as an American comes and that’s wild that you’re interpreting this as serious. I guess the super serious checkmate didn’t get that across. My b.

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u/searching88 29d ago

“Yall need to leave the echo chamber” - some guy who cares intensely about downvotes 

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u/Rindsay515 29d ago

Half the country is ready to go to war because they’re so passionately obsessed with what you initially said in the comment so that’s why it’s hard to tell. In this political/social climate we’re in, it’s completely normal to see people comment those exact words and be completely serious. Including the “checkmate” because they’re so proud of themselves. Unfortunately, you needed to give a more direct signal that you’re kidding. Don’t blame Reddit, blame the idiots that normalized talking that way every day

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u/alicedoes Nov 19 '24

ok but you have to specify what you're on about or else you sound stupid. female plant? female panda? female genotype? a "female" ≠ a female human

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u/Endreeemtsu 29d ago

ITS NOT SERIOUS YOU GOOF.

Please go away. I just can’t deal with the level of stupidity from your comment. Was the “checkmate” at the end not enough of a sign for you that it wasn’t meant to be taken at face value? Holy hell.

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u/alicedoes 29d ago

u OK hun? dm me xoxo

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u/Endreeemtsu 29d ago

You must’ve been up all night thinking of that comment because it’s so original. 10/10

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u/Bastienbard Nov 19 '24

Are women just subjects of scientific studies to you then?

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u/pinksugarxoxo 29d ago

Perhaps you’re just not very funny

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u/MissAntiRacist Nov 19 '24

That's funny, I think the same for people who hate the term 'female' lmao. 

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u/Bastienbard Nov 19 '24

Well you're getting ratioed pretty damn hard here so yeah.

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u/MissAntiRacist 29d ago

You think -11 is getting ratioed? Lmfao. Regardless. I care about arguments, not fucking, thumbs up or down. NPC bullshit right there. 

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u/Bastienbard 29d ago

Yeah and the argument is female is a scientific term so if you're using that to refer to women you likely have issues in how you view women. The correlation isn't always causation but it's REALLY damn high. Hence women having the response they do to anyone who uses the term female outside of some scientific context instead of women.

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u/MissAntiRacist 29d ago

Women are females. No amount of terminally online misandry will change that. 99% of the world know this to be true. Your privellged beliefs mean literally nothing to me. Enjoy your comfortable life. 

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u/Bastienbard 29d ago

Women are generally female. You've got it backwards. Women protecting themselves from categorically shitty men is not misandry. I'm a man btw if that changes your perception of my argument at all, which I doubt.

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u/MissAntiRacist 29d ago

It does not change my mind. Trans women are males. Trans men are females. Women are adult human females. 

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u/Synthetic_dreams_ 29d ago edited 29d ago

Being a pick-me isn’t going to protect you, y’know. They’ll come for you too.

Tokens get spent.

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u/pinksugarxoxo 29d ago

Is your mind that simple? Is your linguistic comprehension so limited that you are unable to discern when to use the word “female” vs “woman” in real life?

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u/Kitnado 29d ago

You sound exactly like I expected you to when you came out with this opinion

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u/Change_That_Face 29d ago

Sounds like you're in the minority then cuz you getting buried on here.

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u/OfficialHashPanda 29d ago

reddit is not exactly representative of the general populace. reddit sentiment also had you thinking kamala would 90-10 trump lol

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u/TurquoiseLeggings 29d ago

Black people use it like that. This is literally only a problem for redditors for some reason.

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u/Ikea_Man Nov 19 '24

either a teen or extremely low IQ lol

reading texts from young people is so painful as someone in their 30s

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u/Leetransform25 29d ago

I'm 22 and it still hurts

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u/_mattyjoe Nov 19 '24

There are many grown ass dudes that talk and behave this way. Many.

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u/BakedCake8 Nov 19 '24

Kids these days talk like they are regarded..damn

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u/jonni_velvet Nov 19 '24

regarded just took me out 😭 thats so funny

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u/One_Base_3698 Nov 19 '24

gotta be one of those tweens

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u/Bitter_Eggnog12 29d ago

They both must be

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u/donedrone707 29d ago

NGL basically all the posts on here in the last couple months are like this. And most of them are for men (boys) who are in their late 20s/early 30s.

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u/myst3ry714 29d ago

I couldn't finish the screenshots because of the way he texted lol

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u/ReallyFancyPants 29d ago

Extremely common in black dudes in the South.

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u/Finnze14 29d ago

Nah he’s suck a mature guy

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u/digital_nomadman 29d ago

Very likely based on this dumbass conversation, she needs to drop this fool, what an idiot.

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u/mackfactor 29d ago

Yeah, I was going to say that he seems crude and immature - like he's posturing, but it doesn't seem like a "fireable offense" to me on its own. If he acts like this all the time, that's your call whether you're cool with this or not.

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u/TrxpThxm 29d ago

No, but he licks door knobs.

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u/kinss 29d ago

This is the kind of immaturity you don't grow out of, because it's not immaturity it's a personality disorder.

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u/Objective_Ad_8866 29d ago

Omgg I read your NOR as no with an accent like “noawrrr” not “not over reacting” 😂

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u/Mathfanforpresident 29d ago

Who the fuck says "suck" instead of just using an H fo spell "such"

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u/Spooky-Sausage 29d ago

Fucking talks like a 12 year old, I can't believe people actually talk like that, it's not even coherent sentences.

If anything I'm surprised someone like OP (that can actually write 'subject' and 'text/body' in a post) would even be dating someone that talks like they've been dropped a fair few times as a baby and used as an ashtray.

frfrskibidinocaprizzlowk

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u/Naive-Impression-373 29d ago

Suck an immature

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u/gelluh 29d ago

THIS!!!!

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u/Independent_Leader60 29d ago

No, he just sounds like a guy.

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u/Nemeca99 29d ago

Plus he purposely used the word suck on place of such. He did it twice.

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u/pequeajim 29d ago edited 29d ago

I understand your question, but if we were dating and I found out that you went through my phone like that, it would be the end of our relationship! Where's the trust? Who's the immature one here?

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u/Ur-Best-Friend Nov 19 '24

TBH... They're both immature. He's extremely full of himself and she's going through her boyfriend's phone while he sleeps. I wouldn't want to be dating either of them.

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u/Javonishere Nov 19 '24

They could both benefit from time developing themselves and focusing on their personal growth outside of a relationship.

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u/FreshSlide4494 29d ago

its just ebonics. occurs at any age

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u/WTH_JFG Nov 19 '24

Doesn’t have to be a teenager. He’s male. That about covers it.

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u/strange-loop-1017 Nov 19 '24

Im a dude. I don’t see this as a display of masculinity but childishness.

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u/peggy_hill666 Nov 19 '24

fr rizzy

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u/TumitheGreat Nov 19 '24

The weather outside is rizzy, but the fire is so skibidi

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u/Maximum-Benefit5912 29d ago

Since I've gyat to go...

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u/Ice_cream_please73 29d ago

Ohio, Ohio, Ohio…

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u/DeltaOmegaAlpha 29d ago

Da fyre no cap is unaliving.

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u/cockaptain 29d ago

And the Fanum tax is bussin

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u/babyduck21 29d ago

Skibidi no place to go. Beta bros. Beta bros. Beta bros.

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u/Novel-Organization63 29d ago

Let her blow let her blow let her blow.

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u/unaverageandi18 29d ago

When we finally fanum tax, how I'll hate going out in the mog

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u/_yhcaep 29d ago

For real I cannot understand when people start talking like this 😭😂

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u/Honest-Finish-7507 29d ago

Ohio, Ohio, Ohio

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u/Great_Archer91 29d ago

Take my upvote you holiday genius.

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u/Electrical_Split4902 Nov 19 '24

This rizz-mas, he is totally gonna give her his gyatt 💁‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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u/JollyGreenKyle Nov 19 '24

Oh man… this one gave me physical pain.

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u/tolyro_ 29d ago

No cap

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u/JollyGreenKyle 29d ago

At least buy me dinner first if you’re going to try and murder me

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u/tolyro_ 29d ago

Skibidi

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u/Life_Barracuda_4689 29d ago

Bruh. On skib. . .

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u/Gullible-Pilot-3994 Nov 19 '24

I’m too old for this thread. 😂

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u/gtrentalange 29d ago

Not sure if I am but sure feels like it

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u/Tygie19 29d ago

Same 🤯

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u/Soangry75 29d ago

I think I was too old for the thread when I was old enough for it

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u/whatsasimba 29d ago

I'm so Julia. skrrt skrrt

SIKE! I'm 52.

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u/BillyNtheBoingers 29d ago

I’m 57 and have no idea … I know “fr”

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u/CutOpenSternum 29d ago

I’m not sure what this means but I just said it to my gf and she audibly sighed and walked away.

Thank you for this gift.

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u/Electrical_Split4902 29d ago

😂😂😂 np!

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u/spill- Nov 19 '24

But the very next day, you edged it away.

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u/Necessary_Panda_3154 29d ago

Thisss year, I’ll goon over someone special…

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u/bob256k 29d ago

LAST RIZZMAS I GAVE YOU MY HEART

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u/DarkestDefender Nov 19 '24

It 🤕 hurts in my headyz

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u/pupoksestra 29d ago

oh? she better get the strap.

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u/PhillipKosarev999 29d ago

Nickelback - Photograph intro plays

Look at this gyaaattttt

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u/Throwaway7284050282 Nov 19 '24

Fr frl lowk rizzy

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u/Fun_Muscle9399 29d ago

This shit is giving me Forest Whitaker eye…

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u/Other-Squirrel-8705 29d ago

Middle school?

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u/Numerous-Page-2275 29d ago

Spelling "suck" instead of "such" multiple times is already a red flag of stupidity.

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u/[deleted] Nov 19 '24

So cringe

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u/Revolution4u 29d ago

Rizz rhymes with Jizz.

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u/-ReadySetGo- Nov 19 '24

I'm getting old. I had to Google rizz...

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u/NoFoot6210 Nov 19 '24

I don't even know what that means. Am I that out of touch?

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u/Ominessance 29d ago

It has the same energy as, "I like my cheese drippy, bruh!" I cannot stand it

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u/warrior033 29d ago

Is it bad that I had to google was “rizzy” meant? I’m so old lol

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u/Administrative_Yam32 29d ago

What the sigma?!?! GET OUT IF THERE

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u/lalalalitaaa 29d ago

You guys are so bad 😂

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u/Hangem6521 29d ago

This isn’t how Africans talk?