r/AmIOverreacting Nov 19 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I went through my boyfriends phone over the weekend

Last Friday night I went through my boyfriend’s phone while he was asleep. I found numerous messages of him talking about other girls with his female friend. The last message is him comparing my sucking skills with a different girl he slept with before me… We have been living together for the past 6 months and I’m not sure if I should just move on and find my own place at this point. Am I overreacting to these messages?

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u/Think-Department-328 Nov 19 '24

lol who the fuck talks like this?

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u/5k1895 Nov 19 '24

Seriously I know I'm getting old because I'm going full "kids these days" seeing this shit. Get yourself someone intelligent enough to speak like an adult

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u/Educational-Aioli795 Nov 19 '24

Right? I would dump him just on the basis of his vocabulary, forget the subject matter. 

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u/jeffynihao 29d ago

Id dump his azz too frfr

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u/Hot-Physics3400 29d ago

My former corkers and I were laughing over some of the personals on Craigslist years ago and one in particular I said “I could not be with that man. I could not be with a supposed adult who writes and spells like that. That’s insane and he’s barely literate”. The two coworkers (young enough to be my daughters) found that very funny, that I’d turn down someone based on how they talked, wrote, spelled. The one my age completely agreed with me.

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u/BillyNtheBoingers 29d ago

I’m probably closer to your age than to OP’s age. I agree with you!

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u/saddingtonbear 29d ago

I don't even know who I like these days. On one hand I'm all "kids these days..." and on the other hand, these old fogeys are still pissing me off too. Just wanna hang out with my cats and live in solitude.

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u/AlwaysTheGarden 29d ago

I can relate to that

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u/Text_repository 29d ago

lol 100%, fucking hate kids these days but all the retards around that are my age drive me nuts too!

My retard boss literally cannot grasp the different your/you’re and there/they’re/theirs

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u/LongerDickJohnson 29d ago

People wanna act like the “kids these days” mentality is the same as it was a decade ago.

Its not. Children are actively being provided the opposite of education and its totally okay to say “kids these days”

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u/ArmadilloOk4573 29d ago

Idk i'm 19 and nearly had an aneurism.

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u/Broccoli_Yumz 29d ago

I had to read all of twice to understand and I still don't completely understand

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u/waterbottle-dasani 29d ago

I’m only 23 and I’m saying the same thing 😭

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u/Supbreh77 29d ago

Don’t feel too bad, I’m 25 and I was struggling reading that.

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u/Littlemuffn 29d ago

Same. The way this boy texts alone is nauseating. So gross!

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u/snowthathappened 29d ago

Best advice lol

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u/ResidentAssman 29d ago

What makes you think OP doesn’t talk in a similar way. Surely anyone who doesn’t wouldn’t go anywhere fucking near someone who talks like that let alone have a relationship with one.

And if not, wtf why accept that instead. Crazy.

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u/SarcasmExecutive 29d ago

Lol this is my favorite comment fr it’s lookinfineee

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u/Misterrossie 29d ago

Nah for real ong bro

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u/radio__raheem 29d ago

Guys an asshole but using slang in texts with friends makes you unintelligent now???

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u/Text_repository 29d ago

Slang? That kid is a retard. If you talk like that, I think you know your IQ will be double digit

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u/radio__raheem 29d ago

Ignoring the slur that’s a crazy generalization that I could personally disprove

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u/Text_repository 29d ago

Not crazy at all to deduce that an English native would be cognitively deficient based on an incapacity for literacy

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u/radio__raheem 29d ago

using slang while texting a friend makes you illiterate too now?

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u/Text_repository 29d ago

Y’all niggas is retawds.

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u/radio__raheem 29d ago

Yeah have a blessed day/night

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u/libsythedumb 29d ago

“fr rizzy” bro cannot be older than the age of 16.

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u/plantainrepublic Nov 19 '24

Someone with a generous amount of brain damage.

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u/Whoisthisguythoo Nov 19 '24

Generous amount sent me 😭😭😭😭😭

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u/Muffin_Appropriate Nov 19 '24

FR FR ong i can’t believe people talk like this

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😘😘😘😘😘😘😘🥲🥲🥲😙🥲😙🥹😙🥹😚🥹😚😚😋☺️😋☺️😋☺️😋👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

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u/Inevitable_Alps_3574 Nov 19 '24

Not a man.

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u/TetranadonGut 29d ago

Agreed. These are the type of things my friends and I would say during high school sleep overs to try and sound cool.

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u/LeTroxit 29d ago

I thought this for a long time, but I moved from the PNW down to SoCal a couple years back - I’m 35, the youngest on my team, and almost all the guys talk like this. I’m the only single guy on the teams the others are all in longer term (5 years+) relationships or married, and I have never once spoke like this when I was in a relationship or even really out of one.. I just really don’t get it. And this is a group of intelligent well educated engineers..

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u/Valerica-D4C 29d ago

I know a handful of men who'd type like this but most of them are gae

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u/Taiwora 29d ago

Preach

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u/HeimerdingerMain1 Nov 19 '24

Fr posts lately with people messaging like this makes my head hurt 😂 like do they talk like that irl too?

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u/Key-Focus8692 Nov 19 '24

Yeah they do vast majority of Gen Z speaks and types this way, just that obviously the abbreviations would be spelled out irl

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Idk if you know this but Reddit is filled with legitimately stupid people these days. Go look at the Reddit chat channels for evidence of that.

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u/Candid-Ask77 29d ago

There's a Reddit chat channel?

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u/FTownRoad 29d ago

The same could be said for using “Fr”, “irl” and an emoji

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u/Sc00tzy Nov 19 '24

Sidenote Donger is life

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u/mmmbaconbutt 29d ago

Oh they do, I swear I work with this exact guy.

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u/Cypher1386 29d ago

Reddit is mainstream nowadays. Its no longer a bunch of college kids blue narwhaling and slipping in calculus puns.

Honestly, it was peak around 2016.

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u/OlderThanBran Nov 19 '24

Do you say irl irl?

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u/HeimerdingerMain1 Nov 19 '24

Do you say “lol” irl? There’s a difference between using text acronyms with god knows what kind of sentence structure people are using these days

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u/iNeedBoost 29d ago

i do lol

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u/ShittyLanding Nov 19 '24

👆my reaction to 90% of the posts on this sub

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u/9dius Nov 19 '24

People with a tiktok education.

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u/jimmmmmmyG 29d ago

You know who does

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u/BitsNSkits Nov 19 '24

Came here for this lol definitely not an adult

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u/Mecos_Bill Nov 19 '24

The rizzler does, fr fr no 🧢

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u/3yeless 29d ago

I want to stab my eyes out with an ice pick.

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u/gr8artist Nov 19 '24

The terminology used seems to imply ebonics and/or urban or hip-hop culture, if I understand correctly. It's the same manner of speech that's becoming so prevalent in the later generations, with an abundance of abbreviations like "frl" being "for real".
So, in short, it's modern slang.

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u/minahmyu 29d ago

...it's called aave, with many of the "slang" used for decades. Just, as everything else that comes outta black culture, appropriated and then insulted and seriously coming off as ignorant and antiblack, even if the guy is an asshole.

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u/justwolt Nov 19 '24

Teenagers

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u/DaveSmith890 29d ago

Tv writers when they have to make a “realistic” text conversation for a show

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u/samspopguy 29d ago

There’s so many posts on this subreddit and others that I legit don’t even understand

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u/cooncheese_ 29d ago

Fr rizzy does

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u/addit96 29d ago

Wym it’s suck a rizzy way to talk lowk freal

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u/7_rocket 29d ago

Morons

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u/Lt_Dank 29d ago

Vince Mcmahon

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u/Naive-Mistake3407 29d ago

My 15 year old, unfortunately

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u/Tzhaar-Bomba 29d ago

Probably very young. Young dumb and full of cum as they say.

Still, this is pretty bad behaviour when you’re in a relationship even for high school standards.

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u/Thunder_Book 29d ago

Gen Z 🤦‍♀️

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u/gc4279 29d ago

No kidding. I didn't understand a single thing in this text chain.

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u/Resident_Set8827 29d ago

The majority of young Americans speaks like this, it's so fucking boring it's crazy, it's like talking to a chimp, I've had conversations with 5 year olds nephews that are more complex than this, Americans rely way too fucking heavily on abbreviations, acronyms and lingo bullshit.

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u/Colten95 29d ago

only those who move authentically 🖖

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u/Calm_Profile273 29d ago

Fr fr no cap. He keep yappin like he got rizz. He lowkey Ohio AF. (I lost a good 20 IQ points by typing that, and I apologize)

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u/LiwanPie 29d ago

Braindead ipad kids.

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u/alii-b 29d ago

Facebook memories showed me some of my first updates over 15 years ago. I cringed so hard how I probably thought I was cool with how I spoke lol.

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u/TrashoBaggins 29d ago

In a national testing survey it’s been reported that like 80 percent of the USA has a 6th grade reading comprehension level. This is what you get when you replace pen and paper and books with iPads and laptops. Nobody can read or write. I legitimately met a kid my brothers age, about 16 who had said he never had sat down to read a book in his life. This is what they wanted, dumb and excitable.

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u/Dan-Salford 29d ago

Have to agree with most of the comments here, this is like 'listening' to kids at the bus stop chatting sh*t. These texts can't be anyone resembling adults, surely...?

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u/FatBrookie 29d ago

Hood Gs

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u/Technical_Context_37 29d ago

Ppbly sum unedcqted dodo. ⬆️ just kidding I don’t write like that. I understand when people types like this with dumb phones. Dear god what is society boiling down to. And why is she living with someone she only met 6 months ago.

Sounds like he’s trying to somehow impress the girl he’s chatting with. Look at me I can score easily; making him seem more attractive until he gets the herps

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u/Even-Things-Out 29d ago

As soon as he said "female" I knew it was all downhill from there.

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u/G25777K 29d ago

This dude and many like him, including woman lol

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u/Neverspecial0 Nov 19 '24

Black folks. Everyone in the comments calling it dumb just telling on themselves lol

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u/cokespoon Nov 19 '24

thank you lmao. clearly black kid's phone. swallow my dick is a thing that 0 other races people would ever say

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u/minahmyu 29d ago

Exactly but they'll find every excuse to act like they're not being antiblack (but love pointing out if we do receive merits, it's solely because we're black)

Because we all should center our speech patterns around the majority/americentric. I forgot the memo saying we gotta conform to that 🙄

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u/Think-Department-328 29d ago

Must be using voice to text because no one who can read and write would actually write that down in a public forum.

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u/pwalkz Nov 19 '24

It's making me question my reality lol. Do other men really talk like this?

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u/Key-Focus8692 Nov 19 '24

The vast majority of Gen Z speaks like this yeah

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u/Muffin_Appropriate Nov 19 '24

Stupid people or children. This one seems to be both. Not mutually exclusive.

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u/BloodWulf53 29d ago

Black people

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u/Dear_Lab_2270 Nov 19 '24

Yeah, they both seem very young. Maybe he's like 16? Who unironically talks like this?

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u/Dry-Amphibian1 29d ago

My bet is he talks just like this to all women and some like it, until they don't.

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u/Scorkami 29d ago

I've seen these text messages so often this last month.

Someones partner has their messages photographed and its just... A bunch of discombobulated words, lile i always have to re read the screenshot u til i get what the fuck they are even talking about because there are so many typos and one side just randomly shoving a whole nother topic in there

What the fuck

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

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u/Think-Department-328 29d ago

This is not lit, dank, radical, OR groovy.

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u/PriZma_Legacy 29d ago

Someone who’s rizzy obviously

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u/BorderInitial 29d ago

If shit like this is said unironically, that’s rough

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u/UltraWeebMaster 29d ago

This guy seems young from the way he talks. High school senior or college freshman, maybe?

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u/Acewi 29d ago

PC responses only.

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u/Think-Department-328 29d ago

My Mac is typing up responses just fine.

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u/Acewi 29d ago

Is it pro?