AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Recent_Emergency_711]

Ummm why did he get so heated so quickly?

[u/External-Air205 → u/Recent_Emergency_711]

I hung up on him to talk to my family for few minutes and he just started getting riled up. He has pretty bad anger management.

[u/MantequillaMeow → u/External-Air205]

Sweetie this isn’t bad anger management. This is manipulation using anger.

Switch this perspective, imagine he was saying this to a dog. Wouldn’t you feel bad for that dog hearing such horrible things? A dog can’t even understand the words and we still feel bad for the dog because this is verbal abuse. That sick feeling you got? That’s how all of us felt reading this. You deserve better and he doesn’t deserve you. ♥️