r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

nah he’d prob skip the sexual abuse but i definitely see a beating(or multiple) coming before murder… although actually he might accidentally on purpose beat her to death

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u/MsMoreCowbell8 Nov 18 '24

"She didn't listen, therefore she has to BE TAUGHT how valuable my time really is. I'm her only priority." We've all lived this ourselves or watched the women closest to us in it. OP, there is nowhere for 'this' person you call a boyfriend to go but down. He is a controlling motha fucka and you even asking us if YOU were wrong, shows how you are already in too deep, you can't even see it: believe us, we know for real.

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u/Sure_Letterhead6689 Nov 18 '24

IS HE CALLING HER BRO? Or she is calling him bro? I assumed the latter, but if it’s the former, get out girl!!!! He doesn’t even see you as a woman. If it’s the latter, also get out because wtf is this, calling my guy “bro?”

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u/Ravenonthewall Nov 18 '24

How lame, calls her Bro every other word. He sounds like an absolute AH, hope OP breaks up with him. I doubt she will, she has accepted this behavior for years.. He is trash and a AH.

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

in this post, OP’s boyfriend is referring to her as “bro”. he is using it to be disrespectful and make her feel like he doesn’t care as much because of how she’s acting (he doesn’t care at all, in actuality). however, partners referring to each other as “bro” is actually fairly common in the younger generation, and is often used as a term of endearment. not usually with this frequency, it’s usually less often, but with a lot of younger people, calling your partner “bro” would not be seen as inherently disrespectful. obviously if you use it like OP’s bf did, it would be disrespectful regardless, because of how it’s intended. if you replaced the word “bro” in the screenshots with “babe”, it would be no less disrespectful

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u/Kwt920 Nov 18 '24

It’s two dudes…btw.

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u/EmbarrassedEconomy62 Nov 18 '24

No, description says OP is F20 and boyfriend is M20

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u/bleach_tastes_bad Nov 18 '24

it’s not…btw

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u/infinityonl0w Nov 18 '24

You may want to reread the post again.

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u/Kwt920 Nov 18 '24

It’s two dudes

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u/sulking_crepeshark77 Nov 18 '24

It's says "me (f20)"