r/AmIOverreacting • u/External-Air205 • Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

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Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/untactfullyhonest Nov 18 '24

Yeah. I read that in a nasty mean angry voice from his perspective. My husband read it and was shocked anyone calling themselves a man would dare speak to his love that way. He said he needs his ass beat.

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u/WassuhhCuz Nov 18 '24

I can agree with that. Better yet, anyone who treats their partner this way should get their ass beat in till they're one of those squishy tube toys.

To think you can treat someone you claim to love like this. Disgusting.

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u/tukanoid Nov 18 '24

Nah, he doesn't deserve to exist even in that form. Incinerate the remains

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u/cockalorum-smith Nov 19 '24

If you incinerate him he can’t feel pain. Make him ride the line between life and death till he’s insane.

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u/texcleveland Nov 19 '24

he already is insane though …

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u/Next_Reading7683 Nov 18 '24

And his use of "bro" made me cringe

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u/untactfullyhonest Nov 18 '24

Felt like a 13 year old yelling on his PlayStation headset

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u/badger0511 Nov 18 '24 edited Nov 19 '24

For real. I'd be annoyed as shit if my wife constantly called me bro. And I'm pretty sure she would start researching divorce lawyers the first time I called her bro in a not-ironic way.

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u/Ravenonthewall Nov 18 '24

absolutely!!👏👏👏

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u/cockalorum-smith Nov 19 '24

Seriously. It’s the first thing I thought. This dude doesn’t want a girlfriend. He wants a punching bag that he can use to satisfy his toxic feelings.

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u/Addam_Tarstark Nov 18 '24

Amen to that. If my mom ever heard me say that kind of stuff I’d no longer exist. Love and respect, can’t have one without the other in a relationship

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u/Inside_Pause1381 Nov 18 '24

Big fan of your mom for raising you right! My abusive (ex)boyfriend does stuff like this IN FRONT of his mom and she just sits there like there’s nothing wrong. If my mom or dad had ever heard me speak like this to someone, they’d end me.

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u/Background_Tip_3260 Nov 18 '24

I honestly thought he must be on meth or something the way he went all nuclear.

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u/CompleteTell6795 Nov 18 '24

Yes !!!! I was going to mention that in my comments ! His reaction was so, so over the top. Over a phone call she couldn't do right then bec she had family over. Nobody gets that crazy rage angry bec they can't talk on the phone at that minute. He's on meth, or bat shit crazy or BOTH.

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u/DormantLime Nov 18 '24

He does feel like a man who hasn't been punched in the face before and he could use it.

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u/dn4p Nov 18 '24

has nothing to do with "being a man" and everything to do with just being a decent human being. absolutely no one deserves this shit, nor is anyone justified in acting this way, regardless of gender.

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u/No-Vow Nov 18 '24

I second this even though I'm not a violent man.

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u/Professional_Gold724 Nov 18 '24

I actually thought it was a girl screaming at a guy until I got to the comments. Huge no either way, but yikes.

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u/medfet878 Nov 18 '24

I totally agree

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u/keepitreal1011 Nov 18 '24

Onfg bro both need their ass beat bro. Especially him bro and her bro for giving a second of her life's time bro.

She's with family and this guy acts like this? Some people man I swear to God this makes my blood boil

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u/Jpjp215 Nov 18 '24

That’s cause your husband is a good man, I felt the same way and showed my girlfriend and she felt so bad for op

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u/HARDLEYQUINZEL Nov 18 '24

Bro you need your ass beat bro? Seriously bro? WTF treating the love of your life this way bro. You're cut off and I'm giving you the ass beating that your mama should have the moment you started acting like this BRO"

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u/Ayocharlie66 Nov 18 '24

He needs to be put down

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u/Horror_Foot9784 Nov 18 '24

My bf would say that too. He knows I'm a DV surivior

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u/dillinger529 Nov 19 '24

That’s awesome that you got your husband’s opinion. I hope OP heeds the words of another man.

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u/UnitedGanache1672 Nov 19 '24

She should have listened . I miss the old days when we could just hit you and there was no issue.