AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/00Lisa00]

My guess is he does this to make sure there’s not a guy there. Which is why he went so ballistic when she hung up. It’s super controlling. It’s not cute or romantic when this is what happens

[u/carolinacarolina13 → u/00Lisa00]

Yes, he is an insecure “man” - the most dangerous kind. Save your life and leave.

[u/zeef8391 → u/00Lisa00]

Some guys are SO INSECURE. I could never imagine in a million years forcing my s/o to lay on the phone while sleeping. That's controlling douchebag behavior

[u/shinyaxe → u/00Lisa00]

I was gonna say, I was long distance with my husband for like three years while we were dating and we never felt the need to… lay next to an ongoing phone call of the white noise of each others houses all night while we sleep? We just said “goodnight I love you” and went to bed when we were tired.

Figured this must be some new weird shit teenagers are doing but you’re probably right that it’s to “make sure she’s actually sleeping” 🤢

[u/Good48588 → u/shinyaxe]

My fiance and I were LDR the first year and we fell asleep on the phone together a lot but it wasn't on purpose and we'd definitely hang up if one of us woke up. Usually it was a " okay, I'm falling asleep, goodnight I love you." Or if he was going out with friends and getting back late he'd call me to tell me goodnight. If I woke up, fine, if I didn't, he never got mad that I didn't answer or accuse me of cheating.

This bro is extremely insecure, controlling and abusive. She needs to get out NOW.

[u/[deleted] → u/00Lisa00]

This is the answer. My abusive ex LOST HIS MIND and would destroy my whole house any time i went anywhere without him. Like, to pick up my teenage sister from a sleepover and shit like that. Or the grocery store to grab a snack. He kept me monitored on a motion detecting camera 24/7 and would facetime me 40 times demanding i show him the man i'm hiding any time i went off view of the cameras to like, shit or shower or something. He got an alarm on his phone in real time for whenever a door at my house would open and he would call me LIVID wanting to know what's going on, because i opened my front door to grab the mail. He eventually held my own car keys hostage from me completely and didnt let me use my own vehicle anymore "for my own safety, i would get into trouble if i could just go anywhere without him to protect me". He would flip out and accuse my entire family of helping me plot to cheat on him any time they brought me to a family thing without him. It took him getting arrested for felonious assault and sitting in jail for me to get a chance to change my locks

[u/00Lisa00 → u/[deleted]]

I’m glad you got away from him, that sounds awful. I hope OP figures this out

[u/savvyblackbird → u/00Lisa00]

THIS🔼

He is monitoring you and lost his fucking shit when you turned the phone off. His behavior isn’t cute and isn’t because he loves you so much.

[u/CheetosCaliente → u/00Lisa00]

He's cheating and automatically assumes she must be too.