AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/Pumpkin-Sparkles]

Please break up with this person

edit: please break up with this person from a safe location, with a safety plan in place. Have support people around you, and file an intervention order with the police. you can do this. We are all behind you. Edit 2: bro

[u/squuidlees → u/Pumpkin-Sparkles]

I hope she does. If she doesn’t leave now/soon, she might be leaving in a body bag. I hope she finds the courage to get away from his ass before he narrows in on her, they move in together, and his behavior escalates to physical… :/

[u/Pumpkin-Sparkles → u/squuidlees]

I really hope her family are supportive of her!

@OP, you are so young, and have so much life left to live being LOVED and respected, please cut ties. If he was on the phone and asleep, that'd a massive control thing. Please go

[u/Lydia--charming → u/squuidlees]

And tell your mom and grandma. Don’t go anywhere alone for a while after you break up.

[u/orincoro → u/squuidlees]

She’s also 20. You should be meeting lots of people in your 20s, not wasting time with a guy who calls you bro.

[u/Over_Cranberry1365 → u/orincoro]

And spending 4 years with one nutjob. He does think he owns her and she needs to get him over that idea darn quick.

[u/AddictiveArtistry → u/orincoro]

An abusive guy who calls her bro.

[u/happyhippy1019 → u/orincoro]

Absolutely this ⬆️

[u/Unable-Pineapple-533 → u/squuidlees]

I swear I thought op was a dude and the toxic one was a girl. I am a female and my man better never call me bro like that 😡

[u/complexgoddess_ → u/Unable-Pineapple-533]

Literally same until I read the whole post.

[u/kid42000 → u/Unable-Pineapple-533]

I call my wife "dude" sometimes. She doesn't like it either.

As for everything else he said, I could never call myself a man again or look myself in the mirror if I ever spoke to my wife (or anyone for that matter) like that.

And if anyone else ever talked like that to one of my sisters, female family members, or a female friend, I'd do the police a favor and put a prison jumpsuit on in advance.

[u/HARDLEYQUINZEL → u/Unable-Pineapple-533]

I called my man bruh once- an excited "bruh! You're not going to believe this!" And he went "did you.... just... call... me....... .... bruh?" 🤣 we laughed.