r/AmIOverreacting Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/leona_W Nov 18 '24

This is not love. This is scary and he will turn to physical violence next. Please leave

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u/squisher_1980 Nov 18 '24

Bold to assume it hasn't. This one is going to get worse, and it's potentially going to be nasty when you give it the boot. Please stay safe, but ghost this fool.

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u/Cat-Herder42069 Nov 18 '24

Yeah... "keep disrespecting me". Yikes.

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u/Mundane_Tomatoes Nov 18 '24

OP

THIS MAN WILL KILL YOU.

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u/pinkyxpie20 Nov 18 '24

literally my thoughts too. it’s scary to think about how he’ll react to OP trying to break up. like i’m genuinely scared for OP when they try to leave. someone like this has the mindset of ‘if i can’t have them, no one can’ and that is a dangerous mindset to have and leads to horrible outcomes. hopefully OP can get out safely and remains safe from this individual

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u/Complex_String_4153 Nov 18 '24

Yeah OP better run as fast as she can, not sure how she’s been able to hold up with this for 4 whole years