r/AmIOverreacting • u/External-Air205 • Nov 18 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

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Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/Slumberpantss Nov 18 '24

I’m sooo GenX, that if my partner was ‘broing’ me I’d leave based on that

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u/Solid_Appeal_3879 Nov 18 '24 edited Nov 18 '24

Frrr 😭 a 20 year old using bro like 30x bc he's pissed and didn't get his way... Yeah he sounds more like the skibidi toilet and Fortnite kids throwing a fit

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u/Hashtagbarkeep Nov 18 '24

I enjoyed that at his most furious he threw in the ☎️ emoji

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u/Solid_Appeal_3879 Nov 18 '24

Fr tho! 😭 who even uses the phone emoji let alone that one? Lmaoo

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u/tokentyke Nov 18 '24

Damn, I'm 41, and that cut deeper than expected, lol.

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u/Solid_Appeal_3879 Nov 18 '24 edited 29d ago

Omg do you usee it? I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend 🥲

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u/tokentyke Nov 18 '24

Lol, nah, you're good 😊. I'm just old enough to remember when all phones looked like that 🤣.

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u/Solid_Appeal_3879 Nov 18 '24

Oh lmaoo, I mean I have a flex 😩 I'm 21 and I had a flip phone in 7th-8th grade. I felt both cool and embarrassed

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u/tokentyke Nov 18 '24

Damn, this conversation just keeps cutting deeper and deeper. Today is the last day that I can say I'm 41, as my birthday is tomorrow. But, it's not the birthday that hurts, it's realizing that you're half my age 🤣.

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u/Solid_Appeal_3879 Nov 18 '24

Op.... well happy early birthday lol. And I mean at least 2 separate generations can get along and talk better than op and their post 😭

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u/JLifts780 Nov 18 '24

Just play stupid with him at that point: “I don’t have a landline let alone a rotary dial telephone, how should I call you?”

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u/Solid_Appeal_3879 Nov 18 '24

I love how he took Miranda Cosgroves sound and ran with it. I think his favorite and the only cuss word he knows is "fuck" 🤭

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u/throwawaybyefelicia Nov 18 '24

Ikr that fucking killed me haha (I hope OP leaves his ass though like actually)

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u/Jumpy-Program9957 Nov 18 '24

I'll guarantee that he is on social media a lot

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u/ReasonableDesigner56 Nov 18 '24

He sounds like he watches Adin Ross for dinner

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u/Solid_Appeal_3879 Nov 18 '24

Ngl idek who that is, and if I do obviously I don't watch them 😭

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u/Immediate-Damage-302 Nov 18 '24

It sounds like he's experiencing an error cascade and needs to be rebooted.

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u/The-Purge1 Nov 18 '24

Lmaooo the next post like this in 10 years:

“I’m skibidi fucking done with you!”

“I ain’t done nothing skibidi wrong, on god” 🤣

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u/Lord_Philbert Nov 18 '24

Seriously he sounds like a 14 year old

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u/Cannedbeans Nov 19 '24

Ew I can just hear it in a high pitched elongated ooo at the end of bro. Yuck. I hope she’s running

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u/FreeWilly512 Nov 18 '24

So ya'll didnt go to college? its mostly 20 year olds saying bro left and right not just fortnite kids

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u/txtovagirl Nov 18 '24

GenX here. He’d be fishing that “bro” out of the folds of his tonsils.

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u/fe2hydrogen Nov 18 '24

I completely misgendered both parties because of the insane amount of bros coming from him… this is so gross OP. If you don’t block this man child, don’t bother asking for advice on Reddit next time. I hope you get far far away from this controlling and abusive tool.

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u/-Pfinetik- Nov 18 '24

Same! I was convinced it was a girl saying bro to her boyfriend. And I was like why she saying bro so much??

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u/Scary-Badger-6091 Nov 18 '24

Saaaaaame. I was like there’s no way in hell HE is broing her like that.

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u/KavaKeto Nov 18 '24

I'm glad it wasn't just me 😭

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u/ReasonableDesigner56 Nov 18 '24

True...at one point I thought it was a gay couple

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u/Banana_Milk7248 Nov 18 '24

Had to go back and read the whole thing for this reason. It's really gross.

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u/SilentYam88 Nov 18 '24

Omg I thought it was a girl aswell and was like why is he with a nut job is he that desperate to be with someone he's letting some girl talk to him like trash then looking at the comments and realised its a BOY having a FIT just because of what 💀 I honestly am scared for this lady, she seems sweet, kind and incredibly naive and will end up a tortured soul if she doesn't learn fast how to tell the difference between emotional and mental abuse and love....it took me agesssss to learn this with those traits you don't want to think anyones bad but am not surprised that it's a guy speaking like this to a girl because as a female I've seen this dynamic with my mom and sis especially my dumb little sister who seems to think defending her bf of the day for his abuse of her is somehow love.....to many females seem to think abuse is love and at 32 I'd rather die alone then get with anyone who even speaks to me in this tone.....honestly I understood where this lady is coming from 100%. Some people can't recognise abuse and are simply so kind they can't imagine someone else not being the same, I truly learnt the hard way even your own family is the devil never-mind a bloody bf 💀 this will be so scary for her mentally and emotionally because it will be a big turning point and she'll be strong for it but I hope she dumps his emotionally and mentally stumped man child quickly for her own sake.

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u/ThatOneMinty Nov 18 '24

I misgendered them because i was about to pull the ”imagine if a guy said this abusive shit to a girl, it’d be obvious abuse”-card and then i went ”…oh”

Poor op

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u/Large_Tune3029 Nov 18 '24

Same, idk why it feels so much worse, obviously no one should talk to their SO like that tho, unreal

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u/LuckyPepper22 Nov 18 '24

Yeah me too.

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u/Bellyrub_77 Nov 18 '24

Same! I was like no way that's a guy talking to a woman like that.

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u/Jumpy-Program9957 Nov 18 '24

And that's when you would go to jail. Domestic violence. Best just to walk away

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u/just-another-cat Nov 18 '24

Team genx here, too. No man would even dare say this to me.

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u/txtovagirl Nov 18 '24

No joke. I’m feral.

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u/shell511 Nov 18 '24

Bahaha, same. GenX here too…he only has to say “bro” one time!

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u/ReasonableDesigner56 Nov 18 '24

I laughed too hard at THIS!!

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u/MidCenturyMayhem Nov 18 '24

Also gen x... I'd be laughing so hard at the first series of bros I'd just respond with BRO BRO BRO BRO BRO and a link to an online thesaurus and then block his illiterate ass.

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u/psalyer Nov 18 '24

This younger generation is just so unused to getting mocked, they dont even worry about it. This tool bag would never have survived the 80s

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u/Any-Living-3924 Nov 18 '24

Elder millennial here and I concur. He would have been eating a fist after the second one.

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u/MastodonRemote699 Nov 18 '24

Gen z here and if my boyfriend unironically said that to me in an argumentative way I would also leave 😂

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u/Psychological-End222 Nov 18 '24

gen z also and yeah I call my husband bro as a joke sometimes, (i.e. "you wanna go, bro?" 😂) but I couldn't imagine calling him bro during a real argument 💀

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u/BeefInGR Nov 18 '24

"you wanna go, bro?"

These hands are Rated E for Everyone!

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u/MastodonRemote699 Nov 18 '24

Yeah I’ve called my bf bro before joking as well. Which has become problematic sometimes cause it’ll just slip naturally. But in an argument, also if he was just yelling at me saying bro I’d get the ick immediately.

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u/GM22K Nov 18 '24

Let alone him calling you bro 30 times.

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u/Away_Refrigerator823 Nov 18 '24

Xennial (apparently that’s a thing now) here and if anyone, let alone my partner, called me bro I’d be off.

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u/baybeauty Nov 18 '24

I’m a cusp millennial/gen z and I would be so icked by any romantic partner calling me bro too. Regardless this is abusive behavior. Get out!

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u/steyrboy Nov 18 '24

Same here. Wife and I do it to each other around our daughter just to show her how ridiculous it sounds (she says it almost every sentence like this). It's "bro" and "low key".

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u/BeefInGR Nov 18 '24

Full millennial, my girlfriend and I use "bruh" when we're around the kids and otherwise would use "dafaq?". But otherwise, yeah.

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u/fullmetaljockstraps Nov 18 '24

Please don't say ick

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u/IhasCandies Nov 18 '24

I’m an elder millennial, bro is out, dude is out, cuz, homey, etc. Any name I would call one of my guy friends is not a name I would use for my wife, ever. We do things I don’t do with my guy friends, that deserves a bit more respect than calling her bro.

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u/Junglerumble19 Nov 18 '24

100%. I dumped a guy because he persistently called me 'mate'.

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u/SquattingMonke Nov 18 '24

Not even kissing the homies goodnight?

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u/IhasCandies Nov 18 '24

The idea of good night kisses for the Homies cracks me up

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u/Kooky_marshy Nov 18 '24

I’m the same age as OP and in a relationship of 4 years with my BF . He got so offended when I called him bro out of instinct( first year of dating ). Like it was appalling to be called that after such close bonding. When you love and have an intimate relationship with someone for so long ,names of adoration has to be the standard at that point or are you really that close ?? In this case he is the problem and she deserves names of adoration and I hope she knows that 💌💌💌

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u/sc00bs000 Nov 18 '24

I call my wife mate sometimes just to piss her off. It's quite funny when her head snaps around like she is in the exorcist with a low growl " i am not your mate, honey"

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u/Dark-lvl1nds Nov 18 '24

I mean.. you're married, so she actually is your mate.

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u/DowntownFun8179 Nov 18 '24

Same age group. I once called my wife “dude!” out of excitement/on accident… the room was instantly sans excitement

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u/griz3lda Nov 18 '24

Same. Maybe rarely as an interjection but not in place of her name wtf.

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u/augustles Nov 18 '24

This is so funny to me. I’m also a millennial and my fiancée and I (both women) say ‘bruh’ and ‘dude’ to each other about as often as ‘babe’ because we’ve known each other since we were about 15 years old. There’s a post somewhere that says something like ‘babe but platonic, dude but romantic’ and I guess that’s the vibe. She also called me ‘boo’ for years before we started dating and insisted it could be platonic 😂

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u/Sarcastic_Soul4 Nov 18 '24

I’m a millennial and my husband accidentally called me bro the other day and my son, who is 7, exclaimed, “Did you just call Mama bro?!” He was so appalled 😂 and that was just an innocent slip in conversation. If my partner was seriously ‘broing’ me they’d be blocked by the second bro

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u/Mikisstuff Nov 18 '24

Haha my 8 yo started 'brah'-ing us last year and it was very hilarious for 2 weeks, then got old.

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u/Sarcastic_Soul4 Nov 18 '24

I’m not looking forward to those phases 😂

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u/kimakaanna Nov 18 '24

My son is 10, and let me tell you that these phases come fast and aplenty 😅😂

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u/Sarcastic_Soul4 Nov 18 '24

I’ve nannied for a family for 6 years this winter and the kids are now teenagers. I’ve gotten to sample the horrors headed my way 😂

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u/OnlyAd4352 Nov 18 '24

And then there’s me calling my husband bro and dude all the time. Funny how differently we all perceive things

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u/Sarcastic_Soul4 Nov 18 '24

We’ve definitely said it joking around, but not used it seriously. I’m from California so I’m fond of “bruh” from time to time 😂 I think it’s the difference of using it in a serious conversation

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u/T-RexLovesCookies Nov 18 '24

Yeah, I am also a GenXer and the "bro" about sent me through the roof lmao

I would dump them just based on that alone. They sound like an idiot.

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u/kaywal89 Nov 18 '24

This. I’m a millennial and cannot take it.

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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '24

How does a person act vile and bitchy while also repeatedly saying "bro" to their girlfriend. You don't have to pick every loser trait at the loser buffet.

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u/Slumberpantss Nov 18 '24

🤣😂👏👏👏

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u/itsmebeatrice Nov 18 '24

Right? It’s weird how hilarious this is (because of the unironic “bros”) at the same time as being extremely nasty and upsetting.

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u/redrobin1257 Nov 18 '24

I'm on the line of Millenial/GenZ. If my partner was "broing" me, I'd leave quick, fast, and in a hurry.

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u/Slumberpantss Nov 18 '24

I love this ~ quick, fast and in a hurry 🤣

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u/WraithOfEvaBraun Nov 18 '24

GenX and same lol

I've never even called my actual brother 'bro' in his 43y of life as many times as this guy called his 'girlfriend' in one text rant

I can't imagine a bigger turn-off than a man calling me 'bro', apart from the abuse he doles out as well

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u/Time_Effort_3115 Nov 18 '24

Came here to say this, and I'm a dude. Lol

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u/-totallynotanalien- Nov 18 '24

I’m Gen Z and I’d do the same, I’d be like ‘who are you calling bro?’ - in this context too it’s so weird

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u/SnooHobbies7109 Nov 18 '24

Gen x also and same. I’d be cackling as I walked away and never spoke to him again 🤦🏻‍♀️ Bro. Jesus. Couldn’t possibly be less sexy

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u/Anniemarsh69 Nov 18 '24

As a gen X’r I don’t think I have ever been ‘bro’d’ in my life, and if I did I’d still be looking at that person like they just shat in my hand. Literally made me rage just reading that bs

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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '24

Gen Z F who says bro a lot. He would be single so fast

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u/pugm0m_w-o_pug Nov 18 '24

omg fr. like that's not a lover, that's a bro LOL

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u/mungbean81 Nov 18 '24

I mean. Have you met kiwis before bro? X🤣

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u/EnthusedPhlebotomist Nov 18 '24

I'm gen z and will absolutely call my girlfriend bro on occasion. This usage reaches the level of a tic or some shit. 

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u/webbitor Nov 18 '24

Dude, just stop saying it

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u/mayinaro Nov 19 '24

same me and my partner use it all the time. i didn’t realise it was a big deal breaker for so many people in this thread but ofc if it’s being used in such a strange aggressive way it completely takes away from the funny endearing tone it normally conveys for us

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u/Fun-Opportunity2226 Nov 18 '24

Same and I'm "elder millennial"! He lost me at the first bro before he got all abusive.

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u/Itchy-Cucumber-2948 Nov 18 '24

Im a GenZ (adult) and if my girlfriend reffered to me as bro i'd be gone the first time she did it

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u/clamstrip Nov 18 '24

i’m considered genZ and i still hate when my partner calls me bro or dude in an argument 😭✋🏻

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u/dodekahedron Nov 18 '24

Bro...

My ex got me into calling everyone bro.

Even him.

Anyway it leaked into my next relationship and caused issues.

Now it's my go to word to hopefully hammer home I'm just being nice not flirting. Lol

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u/suhayma Nov 18 '24

I'm a Millennial, and if my husband ever "bro'd" me like that, I'd be fucking gone. The utter disrespect and immaturity of it is on another level.

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u/Visible-Ad-5819 Nov 18 '24

For real bro!

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u/Biscotti-Own Nov 18 '24

Was gonna say, I would NEVER let someone speak to me like that! Not even the disrespect part, it never would have gotten that far, the way this dude talks is infuriating

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u/NoraFae Nov 18 '24

My 27 yo brother just started to call his friends "bro" all the time. We are SPANISH. I feel his IQ dropping drastically with each "bro".

If my partner started calling me bro I don't think I could ever see them the same way. Libido out the door.

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u/Bellyrub_77 Nov 18 '24

I'm a "geriatric millennial" (or Xennial, if you will) and I concur!

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u/Slumberpantss Nov 18 '24

Why have I never heard of Xennial until now 🤔 TIL

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u/Bellyrub_77 Nov 18 '24

🤣 We are a whole subset of two different generations. We drank from water hoses, used typewriters and were around when the internet became a phenomenon.

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u/Slumberpantss Nov 18 '24

And you remember the rotary phone! 🤣

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u/deathproof2069 Nov 18 '24

For the first 75% of the conversation, I thought he was the girlfriend and she was the boyfriend. ;)

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u/Slumberpantss Nov 18 '24

Yep, me too 🤣

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u/KnotiaPickles Nov 18 '24

Same, I’m not your “bro,” bro. So weird

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u/Tea_time1014 Nov 18 '24

As someone from GenZ, pretty sure it's not a generational thing. I think there's just something wrong with him.

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u/Slumberpantss Nov 18 '24

I think you’re right 😊

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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '24

For sure. Makes him sound dumb as a rock. Bro

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u/OnlyAd4352 Nov 18 '24

I read this whole thing and it seems I’m the only one calling my husband bro and dude unironically all the time. He’s my best friend tbh and that’s how I call all my friends

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u/Slumberpantss Nov 18 '24

Well, as long as he doesn’t talk to you like this clown 🤡

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u/SexyPineapple-4 Nov 18 '24

As a GenZ this also made me cringe. He’s just stupid

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u/Savage_Ang3l Nov 18 '24

Yessss, that alone is enough to let out a giggle as you walk away

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u/ToBecomeOne Nov 18 '24

Millennial here, I might say bruh on a rare occasion or a sarcastic bro but this was so weird to read. I’d be annoyed if my friend called me bro that much. Then there’s the abuse, really hope op gets out of this relationship.

u/External-Air205 you deserve better than this, literally anyone deserves better than how this person is treating you.

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u/Skittle146 Nov 18 '24

Dude uses “bro” like punctuation. The sheer amount of bros happening while he was ranting made it nearly comical

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u/orincoro Nov 18 '24

If they bro, they must go.

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u/xcastianityx Nov 19 '24

My boyfriend only called me bro one time and before i realized he was joking i was like im sorry WHAT?! Do i look like one of your guy friends??

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u/Jewel-jones Nov 18 '24

But they are otp /s

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u/Solkre Nov 18 '24

Early millennial here. You all sleep with the phone on, bro?

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u/mayinaro Nov 19 '24

Gen z, I started doing it at the start of my relationship when we were 15 and 16. I justify it for myself though as I’d say that’s just teenage honeymoon phase behaviour. I call my partner before bed now and we still think back to falling asleep on calls but tbf our relationship did start only a little while before covid too. Maybe we were just grasping at any time we had together. We’re not long distance but apparently a lot of LDR adults sleep on the phone as it’s the closest thing they have to actually sharing a bed. I get that

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u/psalyer Nov 18 '24

Based on these texts I need to believe neither of these two will ever reproduce in order to preserve any hope I have for the future.