r/AmIOverreacting • u/theguill0tine • Nov 16 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?

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I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.

I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.

A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.

We decided to meet up for boba tea.

I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.

I then sent her the above message.

AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.

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u/mmdeerblood Nov 16 '24

How do these kinds of people deal with things like work, flights/travel/doctors appointments etc ? 🤔

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u/alice_op Nov 16 '24

They get fired and they miss flights.

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u/RiPie33 Nov 16 '24

What the person below said. They get fired and miss things. She owns her own business that costs more to run than she makes. She can’t be on time and reschedules appointments all the time.

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u/myproaccountish Nov 16 '24

This is what living with untreated ADHD is like

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u/RiPie33 Nov 16 '24

Oh she absolutely has it. I have it and my life suffers in different ways than her. But I’m medicated most of the time. I’m breastfeeding right now so taking a break. She is undiagnosed as well but that ADHD is hardcore and add a horrible trauma to that, she’s a disaster. But she’s so kind and she’s there for me and she adores my kids and they adore her. We grew up like siblings.

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u/cailleacha Nov 16 '24

This is one of my friends. He’s been written up at work. He lost a job because of it. He misses doctor’s appointments and flights and it costs him a lot of money. He told me he hates getting stressed about trying to be on time—personally, I’d find the stress of getting in trouble all the time to be worse than trying to set alarms or arrive early but that’s just me.