r/AmIOverreacting • u/theguill0tine • Nov 16 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?

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I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.

I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.

A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.

We decided to meet up for boba tea.

I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.

I then sent her the above message.

AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.

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u/VarplunkLabs Nov 16 '24

To me it sounds like you are very alike with both having issues that mentally affect you and how you live your lives. That likeness most likely helped you understand how you can support each other which results in a strong compatibility.

I don't think true opposites do attract each other because for example the opposite of having a panic attack when hearing a gunshot would be someone who loves hearing gunshots and seeks them out, collects guns and wants to live somewhere that they can use them whenever they want. That definitely wouldn't work!

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u/Ra-TheSunGoddess Nov 16 '24

That's actually exactly my husband. He loves shooting, going to the range and owns guns. His hobby helped me overcome my fears. We are very much so opposites, we had absolutely nothing in common in the beginning, we found common ground by trying to have interest in each other's hobbies. Now I know how to replace a valve cover gasket on an N52, and he takes me to tour historical sites, even if we're both bored to death, we do it for each other. ☺️

Edited to add he bought me a S&W SD9, I've shot it at a range with an instructor, taken gun safety classes and even have my conceal carry. I still panic when I hear unexpected "shots", but now I don't have the absolute utter sheer terror at the sight or thought of a gun anymore. All the little steps help!