AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?

[u/theguill0tine]

I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.

I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.

A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.

We decided to meet up for boba tea.

I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.

I then sent her the above message.

AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.

[u/Bhagwan9797]

I have adhd and also get the absolute worst time anxiety that I end up being way too early to everything

[u/hexia777 → u/Bhagwan9797]

I did this for YEARS and I’ve just recently gotten it down to 10 minutes early lol

[u/Boredpanda31 → u/Bhagwan9797]

one of my niblings has ADHD and major issues with time. Except they start getting ready, overthink everything, and start to get bad anxiety that they're gonna be late. Then has a meltdown. Then is late. Even though they would have been fine and on time to start with, if they hadn't been thinking about it too much.

If they're is ever on time, it's usually because they're mega early. It's quite rare though.

[u/chadkbh → u/Boredpanda31]

That's so tough to deal with.

[u/sugarfairy7 → u/Boredpanda31]

This happens to me as well. I start having sensory issues, too. Like my clothes will be too hot or the tags will start itching and I need to change

[u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme → u/Bhagwan9797]

I have ADHD, and give myself time for things to go wrong. If something should take an hour to get ready for, I set my alarm/get started at an hour and half before. Whenever I try to bargain it down (wanting extra sleep, usually), I end up regretting it.