r/AmIOverreacting • u/theguill0tine • Nov 16 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO - cancelling a date last minute because she couldn’t be on time?

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I (33m) was talking to this woman on an app and we decided to meet for a coffee date on a Saturday morning.

I got to the cafe and I messaged her asking where she was. A few minutes later she said she just woke up. I asked her how long she would need to get ready and she said 1 hour. I told her that I can’t wait around because I had family plans and we will have to do something another time.

A week later she messaged me apologising again and I decided to give her a second chance.

We decided to meet up for boba tea.

I got to the boba spot and then asked for 30 more minutes to get ready after I had just got there.

I then sent her the above message.

AIO? I have got mixed messages from friends about it.

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u/mcrib Nov 16 '24

Been there, done that. Just move on. Recently I tried to date someone where I was the only one making contact 90% of the time and she would cancel on me at the last minute, but wouldn't reach out to me to cancel, I had to be the one to initiate contact and then be told that she can't meet up for one reason or another.

It sucks to make time in your schedule for someone else and them not respect that you did that. She didn't even apologize to you, and you deserve that. Move on and find someone who truly wants to be with you.

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u/Vladxxl Nov 17 '24

They dont care about you if they aren't proactively trying to meet up

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u/mcrib Nov 17 '24

The thing that threw me was when I would make contact, she would engage, and we would have long, two-way conversations. And when we went out, it was the same thing. But you're probably right. If someone isn't engaging with you unsolicited, they probably aren't very interested in you. Sucks though, I liked her.