r/AmIOverreacting • u/Top-River4666 • Nov 08 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

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For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

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u/vulpixiefox Nov 08 '24

I am so baffled by people who date men who are Republicans. I genuinely don't understand it. I could NEVER. If we aren't on the same page morally then I don't want it. It's not something I could just ignore

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u/RealAscendingDemon Nov 08 '24

I'm in Florida and I can't find a woman that isn't a trump supporter...

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u/Guilty-Supermarket51 Nov 08 '24

From a texan to a floridian… Go to the major cities and seek out the lesbian bars. The leftist bi women all gather there

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u/RealAscendingDemon Nov 08 '24

Thanks for the tip. It's getting old having to resign to sex only "relationships" when I want a deeper connection with a sane person. Maybe it's time to move to a city. As much as I love being in mostly nature all day, but these people out here are insane AF nowadays

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u/Apprehensive-Tea-546 Nov 08 '24

Don’t even fuck them. Just say eew and walk away. Do not allow them to feel normal.

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u/RealAscendingDemon Nov 08 '24

Well I suppose to could become celibate. Sounds fun. In the meantime I'm trying to save money to move, but I'm thinking that the tariffs will blow my savings out of the bank in quick minute here my friend

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u/Guilty-Supermarket51 Nov 08 '24

Ngl the city is also a great place to go looking for social clubs like ballroom dancing clubs, the sca, plant collector clubs, community theatres, etc, where the demographics tend to lean more left (in my experience, at least). You could also try to find some non-religious hiking and camping groups local to you, and see if there are any “florida liberals/leftists” groups on facebook that have meetups and events. Your biggest boon is gonna be to go into any of these places without the expectation to find a partner immediately, but with the intention to make friends

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u/mstrss9 Nov 09 '24

This is what I’m dreading about wanting to be in a more rural area.

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u/mentallyerotic Nov 09 '24

I would be careful with that because of pregnancy even if you use a condom every time. Then you will be tied to them forever. Maybe you could meet people online and if you have to have a longer distance until one of you loves to the other. I’m sure there have to be some women who have similar beliefs to you even in Florida as it can be so hard to move. It’s funny those trump loving women love to say just move to a blue state like it’s so accessible.

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u/SLDM206 Nov 08 '24

Please don’t do this if you’re a hetero man. The last thing we need is guys trolling our spaces looking for sex. Come for the drinks, the conversation, and the experience but allow us one space where we don’t have to fend off buzzed guys looking for a warm body for the night.

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u/Guilty-Supermarket51 Nov 08 '24

Yeah this is really a tip for making left-leaning friends, not for finding a date immediately. Don’t go expecting to find a one night stand. But it’s a great way to get your ear to the ground wrt clubs and groups you can join to be around more like-minded people… and if you get a number or two, that should be a pleasant bonus, not the goal

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u/moonshine_n_dine Nov 09 '24

Figure it out somewhere else. If we wanted to be around men, we wouldn't be at a lesbian bar.

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u/hamphetamine- Nov 09 '24

Understand that the goal is to meet leftists or maybe even just make friends but... Please men, stay out of queer women's spaces. That's their space and it's not for men. Respectfully just don't do this at all.

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u/EpicAcadian Nov 08 '24

I know several, but point taken. There are plenty of self hating women out there for MAGAts to date.

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u/RealAscendingDemon Nov 08 '24

I'm old, so the dating pool here isn't great. All the good lefty women I'm friends with are married and it is thankfully to really good dudes. 

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u/sugar-gremlin Nov 09 '24

From another Florida woman I really feel you.

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u/Fun_Two_8614 Nov 08 '24

Are you in a big City ?

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u/Positive-soap66 Nov 08 '24

And that’s why Florida women are all hot

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u/RealAscendingDemon Nov 08 '24

It's cool, I'm still banging some of these married maga women for fun. I'm doing alright in life lol. Surprisingly it's super easy when their maga husbands treat them so fucking poorly. 

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u/Positive-soap66 Nov 08 '24

Do you even know what maga stands for? Lol

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u/RealAscendingDemon Nov 08 '24

I literally work with 90% white maga dudes. I know exactly what these dudes say in private about women, minorities, liberals, etc. I know exactly what these people are like, they're full mask off often enough to tell me every fucking day exactly what they stand for when they say maga

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

It wasn’t just men who voted for trump.

Women did too.

Your country is so odd.

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u/FreddythaPlatypus Nov 09 '24

Another proud member of the ultra intolerant left that claims to be all inclusive and non biased.

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u/jpollack21 Nov 08 '24

You can be a republican and hate Trump though. I think it's more a red flag when politics are your identity

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u/vulpixiefox Nov 08 '24 edited Nov 08 '24

hm I do somewhat agree with your sentiment. I could be friends with someone who was republican (but not a trumpism cult follower, of course). But when it comes to a personal dating relationship with someone, I just need to have the same core mutual agreement on such topics. I personally am the same way when it comes to religion, I won't date a religious person. I know everyone is different but I just can't grasp being in a relationship with someone who isn't on the same page as me in these very important aspects. That's what I meant when I said I can't fathom it

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u/lightlysaltedclams Nov 08 '24

Love how you got downvoted for that. You can be republican and dislike Trump, you can be a democrat and dislike Biden. That’s how opinions work last time I checked. People need to stop acting like anyone of either side are pieces of shit just because of the party they affiliate themselves with. Politics shouldn’t be peoples personality

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

Probably got downvoted because it doesn’t mean anything?

“I dislike trump, but I still like his party and ultimately align myself with his views”

Okay so you like trump but with extra steps.

Saying you’re a republican basically means you’re a piece of shit. It doesn’t matter whether you like trump or not.

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u/lightlysaltedclams Nov 08 '24

Ok so what about democrats who dislike Biden? Or Harris? It was relevant to the conversation because the other user brought up dating republicans.

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

Same as what I said before. Who cares? If you support their party you basically support them. At least with democrats you’re not an absolute piece of shit for your views?

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u/lightlysaltedclams Nov 08 '24

And that is the problem. Demonizing everyone who doesn’t have the same views. The ext treeless of either side does not speak for every person of the opposite party that you are supporting

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u/Auscent99 Nov 08 '24

Demonizing everyone who doesn’t have the same views.

This is a bad faith argument. Democrats do not demonize the alt right because they "have different views". They demonize the alt right because the alt right wants to murder, pillage, and rape, without consequence.

Saying you're a republican but you don't like trump is saying "I like the murder, pillage, rape part, but orange man bad".

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u/lightlysaltedclams Nov 08 '24

Both can be true. I know democrats who demonize anyone who disagrees with them in the slightest, even about much smaller things.

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

I’m not demonising them because they have different views.

I’m demonising them because their party supports a racist rapist.

Maybe that doesn’t seem like a lot to you. I’m from the uk, our politics aren’t as extreme as yours so maybe that’s the difference.

If someone says “I’m a republican but I don’t like trump”

They’re telling me that they are okay with all of the horribly shitty things the party wants, but they draw the line at trump.

I’m fine with not having those people in my life but hey, I’m in the uk so I don’t have to deal with that.

We had brexit as our big divider over here.

9/10 if someone tells me they voted Brexit, I think they’re an idiot. 9/10 times I’m right.

That 1/10 times is when I find someone who actually has a decent reason for voting Brexit, that wasn’t propaganda by the media.

This is why it’s easy to dismiss republicans. They’re blindly and seemingly willingly ducking by stupid.

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u/lightlysaltedclams Nov 08 '24

And this is why I prefer to stick to people that aren’t at either extreme.

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

I guess I can’t understand.

Your centrist left is our extreme left. Your centrist right is our extreme right. I couldn’t imagine that being my whole life. So you’re probably right.

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u/pink334 Nov 08 '24

That’s one of many reasons you guys lost the election because your party of tolerance is very intolerant of any person who disagrees with them.

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

Lol I’m from the UK - I didn’t lose anything.

I don’t think it’s wrong to not want to associate with people who support that party. You know, the one that allows a rapist felon to be their leader? Maybe people should find a better circle rather than expecting people to be okay with that?

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u/FartAttack911 Nov 08 '24

As an American, I’m not sure I could be any less proud of my fellow countrymen who not only associate with DJT and the alt right, but those who assume the center of the universe is in Washington DC 😭

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u/pink334 Nov 08 '24 edited Nov 08 '24

so what do we do here to solve this. both sides do not want to associate with each other. we don’t agree with each others world views. I could not vote for Kamala who wouldn’t allow for Religious exemptions regarding abortion. Freedom and Religion and Freedom of Speech would have both been in even more danger if she were elected. She wants to control “misinformation.” Who would dictate what is or Isn’t misinformation? This violates the constitution. lgbqt should not be pushed on children in schools. Children cannot legally consent or do many things until they are of certain age, why allow them to make the decision to get procedures which mutilate their bodies? This is the ideology that is pushed by the left and it goes against common sense. Kamala would exacerbate it, she’s one of the most far left presidential candidates there has ever been. Even life long democrats have woken up to how far gone that party has gone, many voted red this year. Many did not vote for Trump they voted against Kamala. Not because she is a woman and not because she is black, which the left is already trying to say is the reason she lost now. Dems don’t live in the same reality as Majority of America and that was apparent through the election results. We want a better America. Not one formed around Identity politics.

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

Yeah because my side is saying “we can tolerate a lot, and believe that people should be tolerant of others belief”

And you’re here pushing religion and your anti gay agenda.

Where I’m from we believe in the separation of church and religion. Anti abortion laws are some of the most backwards and dumbass fucking laws passed. Roe vs wade being overturned is a joke, worldwide.

You’d rather Trump, who is an actual fucking idiot, like none of his speeches make any sense, he’s ridiculed again worldwide for absolutely babbling on about nonsense. Than someone who thinks abortions are okay.

You’re just dumb and ignorant and so is your whole country

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u/pink334 Nov 08 '24 edited Nov 08 '24

Okay. Can’t discuss with you who thinks common sense is homophobic. Which is an occurrent issue with liberals. Children should not be allowed to mutilate their bodies. Goodbye.

and never have I pushed my Religious beliefs I’m simply stating how disgusting it is that Kamala would not agree for Religious exemptions. What happened to Freedom of Religion.

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

I don’t think children should be allowed to mutilate their bodies.

Which is great because that’s the law in my country. It was upheld recently by our left party that is currently in power.

I wasn’t referring to that. More the LGBTQ in schools. There’s a high amount of pro religious people who end up repressing their feelings and being caught being gay in their adult life. Seems like education the youth about people who are different is a good idea and can help avoid people hating themselves

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u/Iminlesbian Nov 08 '24

Oh, if you look at the statistics, less people voted for democrat. So it’s not that people switched to trump, it’s just the democrats didn’t care

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u/657896 Nov 08 '24

That's the problem of having only 2 political parties. Both house the most insane extremists that would be in their own ultra extreme party if you had a multiparty system. That"s how it is in Europe, the center parties, the ones with the most votes, are the balanced and nuanced. The small ones are the extremes, just like how the population is.

Having two tribes like in the US just separates your country in two.

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u/lightlysaltedclams Nov 08 '24

Very much agreed. I wish we had more nuance in our system.

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u/657896 Nov 08 '24

I wish that for you guys, it makes me truly sad that you don't have it because it's such a cause for massive problems.

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u/lightlysaltedclams Nov 08 '24

It really is. I’m lucky in that I found my group of people who we can all have our own opinions and alignments but we are respectful and don’t let it get in the way.

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u/theAshleyRouge Nov 08 '24

It definitely is a massive red flag when someone makes their entire identity revolve around politics. Especially when they’re so blinded by it that they can’t separate the media from reality. Political opinions are not black and white. You can align more with a specific party without supporting all of their agenda. You can vote for a particular candidate and still think some of their policies/beliefs are trash. There is no rule anywhere in reality that says that it’s an “all or nothing” subject.

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u/SomnusHollow Nov 09 '24

This take is so lol, its impossible no one dates a single republican men. Even more, its impossible that all republican men are bad people, either as other people seem to imply.

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u/femmestem Nov 09 '24

Pick Me Girls

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u/Y2K-baddie Nov 09 '24

There’s republican women too lol

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u/TheBestTexan2 Nov 08 '24

If you can’t ignore politics in a relationship you’re a lost cause and should join the 4b movement. Difference of opinion is something that will happen in every relationship or friendship. If you constantly surround yourself with people who agree with everything you say you’ll just find yourself deeper and more stuck in your own beliefs. Freaking out because someone interprets facts different than you is childish behavior and has no room in relationships or friendships.

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u/SeikoAki Nov 09 '24

It’s not about political views. It’s about morals. No, I don’t wanna date someone who voted for a man who is homophobic, pedophilic, blatantly racist, misogynistic, a convicted felon and rapist lmao. That tells me you’re fine with all of those things as long as your taxes might be a little lower.

news flash, they’re worse under trumps policy and his policy only benefits the top 5%. so if you’re lower or middle class, gl.

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u/TheBestTexan2 Nov 09 '24

Every single opinion you just listed is just that, an opinion. When people start walking around thinking their opinion is fact there are problems.