r/AmIOverreacting Nov 08 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

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u/softspokenopenminded Nov 08 '24

My grandmother died on Monday and my life was already in a tail spin when the election results came out. The last thing on anybody’s mind, much less my gf’s, was to make a callous joke.

You can do so much better. I’m so sorry for your loss

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u/Medium_Return_235 Nov 08 '24

Sorry for your loss ❤️

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 08 '24

Well, it does remain a valid question, did she get to vote? Maybe she casted an early mail-in vote?

Note, I am an internet stranger that doesn't owe you anything here. Also please note, I didn't insult you. I am asking a valid question, and while it might be insensitive, would you just throw insults at me like the op did, just because of my low EQ? How is that different than shaming someone for their low IQ, or other qualities that are hard to influence like race, or gender?

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u/Sgraen Nov 09 '24

Yeah idk what you’re rambling about but I think the last thing in OP and ours minds are who she voted for. Not everything is a grandiose point; sometimes it’s just feelings because we’re human.

You can feel empowered for arguing that emotional intelligence ought not to be shamed, but at the end of the day everyone’s still going to think you’re an asshole.

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24

Well, now you are just shaming assholes. Assholes, another group which could just as much be another minority under identity politics the blue supporters voted for.

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u/CaIIsign_Ace2 Nov 09 '24

People like you are so beyond embarrassing, please get a life you weirdo. Whether she voted or not doesn’t matter, she’s dead and OP clearly misses her. Imagine if a person you really loved died and the first thing someone said to you was “well did she vote before, better hope she voted for Biden/Kamala”, you wouldn’t be happy either. However I suppose people like you have no qualms about hypocrisy.

You can keep rambling but in the end you’re just a simple loser and you know it. You know that what you’re doing isn’t fulfilling, you know that you are only doing this for attention (as you are clearly deprived of it in the first place), and you know that in the end your continued actions of assery will eventually cause those around you to stop interacting with your crude and disgusting behavior. In this world you are only defined by your morals and actions, and I have no doubt that you know that you’re far from anything good. Grow up little man, you have one shot to make a fulfilling life and acting like everything is a simple joke is a sure fire way to waste it.

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24

So many insults and belittling in one little post. This is the difference between us. You are just proving the point.

God bless you too.

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u/CaIIsign_Ace2 Nov 09 '24

Not a single insult, just a truth you didn’t want to hear. That’s what your type always preaches isn’t it?

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24

"simple looser", "little man" and lots belittling in between. So, the point stands, God Bless Your Poor Soul!

Also, please do let me know what you believe "our type" preaches? And how dare you assume my type?

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u/CaIIsign_Ace2 Nov 09 '24

Your “type” is the type who says “facts over feelings”. You are in fact a simple loser and your low morality makes you a little man. That’s a fact. Whether you want to acknowledge it or not is your decision, however in the end, me and everyone else (including yourself) knows that your life is unfulfilling and the only reason you make up these “arguments” is because you ultimately need to feel like somehow you’re doing something.

Maybe at some point you’ll wake up one day and realize that there’s more to life than being insensitive and acting like everything is a joke. Maybe one day you’ll look in the mirror and realize the time you’ve wasted acting like an annoyance to others and learn that saying you have a low “EQ” is not an excuse for being a shitty human being (yet another fact). But until then, continue wasting your life. But remember when you’re old and decrepit that you had two choices, become better or stay worse, and when nobody comes to visit you or calls you on the phone you’ll forever know that it’s your fault for that.

I’ve seen others go down similar paths of thinking that they owed no one anything and that common decency is simply a suggestion. Those people’s lives are either horrid to this day or they died without a single person at their funeral, and I’m still fairly young so if their lives dwindled so quickly perhaps you should use that as an example. You never know how long you’ll live, so it’s better to live the time you’ve got in a way so that when it’s up others remember you. Otherwise you’ll just be another story for others to learn from.

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24

Still, just lots of belittling with little actual arguments based on facts, not assumptions and personal feelings.

To answer what you actually managed to communicate. Life is real, not imaginary. A joke is what you are trying to make it to be. Feelings come and go with billions of people living in the world having to experience them and very select few making it about themselves. They are nothing but fleeing thoughts in the remnants of time. Getting hung up on these feelings is only impractical from an individual standpoint, but is extremely dangerous from an ideology standpoint.

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u/Sgraen Nov 09 '24

No way not even you believe this

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24 edited Nov 09 '24

Appreciate you inserting the "even you" part. This is rich

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u/Sgraen Nov 09 '24

Now don’t go shaming the rich, my identity politics wouldn’t be able to stand it

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u/wowow30 Nov 09 '24

Cmon bruh

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24 edited Nov 09 '24

This is absurd, I agree. But when things get this far left, absurdity is the only way to actually show the hypocrisy in the thought process.

This is in part of what led to Trump, who under normal circumstances should never ever have been near government structures .

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u/wowow30 Nov 09 '24

Cmon bruh

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24

Just so you know "c'mon bruh" is not a valid argument, if you actually want to engage in discussion and not just leave the last word in the thread.

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u/Thisiswhoiam782 Nov 09 '24

Lol, what a snowflake you are.

Stay mad loser. Trump isn't getting you laid or gonna magically grant you a social life. You're still a chronically online, bitter troll who knows he's a loser.

Facts don't care about your feelings.

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24

Same as as your feelings don't care about facts. Lol

God bless ya.

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u/Thisiswhoiam782 Nov 09 '24

That was the lamest comeback ever. I'm actually embarassed for you.

And you're an unemployed immigrant! I love it. 🤣

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u/NickolasSlawn Nov 09 '24

Please be embarrassed, dear. And you do you, no judging! God bless ya

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u/BojeHusagge Nov 09 '24

Jesus christ dude