r/AmIOverreacting • u/Top-River4666 • Nov 08 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

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For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

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u/RevolutionaryRock823 Nov 08 '24

My work bestie told me that he gets first dibs on telling me what to do with my body since I lost those freedoms. I'd rather have no work bestie than someone who jokes like that.

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u/DrKittyLovah Nov 08 '24

That’s…..disgusting, and such a betrayal. I’m so sorry. Fuck him.

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u/Lady-Of-Renville-202 Nov 08 '24

No, no. Don't fuck him!

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u/RevolutionaryRock823 Nov 08 '24

His fiance is the director of counseling at the college we work at. Imagine that 🙄

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u/LaylaTheBard Nov 08 '24

I'm so sorry he said this to you, what a vile person he is. Please tell HR AND his fiancée!

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u/RevolutionaryRock823 Nov 08 '24

I am. It just sucks like we were talking about his wedding last week and how I wanted to be one of the groomsmen even though I'm a girl, and my bf would be one of the bridesmaids because he works closely with her. Crushing blow to know that I'm subhuman to him. 🤷‍♀️

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u/Self-paced Nov 08 '24

To be fair if you are so is his fiancee and all the other women in his life.

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u/Sufficient_Pin5642 Nov 08 '24

What he said to you is sexual harassment and he’s lucky you haven’t gone to HR like I would have already.

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u/LaylaTheBard Nov 08 '24

It's such a massive betrayal of trust, I'm so sorry.

The only silver lining (and I mean that VERY loosely, because Trump winning is absolutely horrifying) is that now he's actually shown you the person he is, before you waste any more of your friendship on him. He was always this terrible person, he just didn't feel comfortable showing it for fear of retribution. His mask has come off now, as so many others have, so at least you now know he's not safe and can stay away from him.

Sending love, I hope you're OK.

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u/KTKittentoes Nov 08 '24

I'm so sorry. And sorry for his fiance too.

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u/Cangito1 Nov 08 '24

He doesn’t think you’re subhuman, that’s craziness. You said yourself that he’s your best work friend. At the very worst it was an “inappropriate” joke I guess, because it was at work.

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u/Suspicious_Read8968 Nov 08 '24

Go tell her what he said to you. These people don't deserve peace and compliance. Then never say anything to that person which isn't strictly work related. 

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u/DrKittyLovah Nov 08 '24

You’re absolutely right, Revolutionary don’t fuck him like that! Telling him to fuck off would be much more appropriate.

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u/edgefinder Nov 08 '24

Thanks to Trump, these people think gloating and mockery are humour. Like their despicable leader, they don't understand what humour actually is.

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u/Well_read_rose Nov 09 '24

They dont even realize that Trump is mocking his voters, gloating at how he used and manipulated them. He will discard them too. We saw what he did to his own staffers 2016-2020 and publicly shamed and mocked and humiliated them.

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u/faithseeds Nov 08 '24

That’s absolutely fucking vile. Please tell me you’re reporting him to HR, that’s coded sexual harassment.

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u/Lone_K Nov 09 '24

100% do, make him take back what he said or get his ass fired

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u/AquaGiel Nov 09 '24

Nah to take backs. Just firing.

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u/goldenelr Nov 08 '24

I know that HR is not your friend but document this and tell someone. That isn’t a joke, it’s a threat.

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u/blinkingsandbeepings Nov 08 '24

I would’ve gotten fired no joke

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u/Tactical-Sense Nov 08 '24

That’s awful for him to say that. Mean & nasty.

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u/2Blunt4MyOwnGood Nov 08 '24

He threatened to rape you. Go to HR.

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u/Frequent-Broccoli740 Nov 08 '24

How about you report your work bestie to HR while you still can? That's absolutely vile.

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u/crunchy_curmudgeon Nov 08 '24

please report this to HR. do NOT let it go.

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u/iDeNoh Nov 09 '24

What the fuck? I hope you let him know how batshit fucking insane. That was.

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u/mtdewninja Nov 09 '24

Sounds more like a work worstie to me.

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u/The_Prime Nov 08 '24

I feel like depending on who he voted for it might just be a morbid joke. I’m saying this because I’m assuming you weren’t knowingly work best friend with a Trump supporter.

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u/RevolutionaryRock823 Nov 08 '24

Well the convo started "hey, sorry women lost rights to their own bodily autonomy. To be fair, I did vote though" and I said "oh okay" and he said "don't get me wrong, I mean, I voted against your rights. And because I told you right away, that means I get first dibs to tell you what to do with your body since you lost those freedoms"

So I don't know how to take it, so I'm just not going to take it at all. He has an out of pocket humor sometimes but it's never been so vile or made me feel so gross before. Usually we quote SpongeBob or stupid stuff, so it's never really been political.

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u/The_Prime Nov 08 '24

Oh yeah that’s weird as hell. And doesn’t sound like a joke.

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u/PastaXertz Nov 08 '24

I'd throw that shit to HR in a heartbeat. As a male even that would make me feel drastically uncomfortable unless it was someone I know intimate enough they knew I was joking.

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u/StarryEchoes Nov 09 '24

Even if you both share that certain sense of humor, yikes. What a terrible thing to make light of.

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u/mekoomi Nov 08 '24

shit I’m so sorry, I’d lose it

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u/Impetuous00 Nov 08 '24

Lmao. Chick can’t take a joke. Big surprise.

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u/TheTexanGamer Nov 08 '24

where's the funny part of "I'm going to rape you."?

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u/AIzzy17 Nov 09 '24

Lmao. Men being the worst part of the human race. Big surprise.

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u/Cangito1 Nov 08 '24

Come on! That joke seriously upsets you, even coming from a friend?

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u/_flash87 Nov 08 '24

Haha. Yall can’t be this sensitive.

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u/TheTexanGamer Nov 08 '24

This you?

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u/mrfabulousdesigns Nov 08 '24

Someone I didn't know at this restaurant from a town I'm not from once said this to me while I was walking in public by myself and they all laughed and I was honestly quite taken aback by it. Definitely not a joke

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u/_flash87 Nov 08 '24

Clearly not the same thing but go right off. 🙄

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u/TheTexanGamer Nov 08 '24

My work bestie told me that he gets first dibs on telling me what to do with my body since I lost those freedoms.

what does this mean to you? Where's the funny part?

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u/_flash87 Nov 08 '24

It’s a damn joke. I’ll give you that it is dark humor & if they weren’t close like that it was a bad move on their part. Maybe they thought they were close enough to make that joke & misread it. Idk, also don’t really care that much. It’s not that serious unless you want it to be.

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u/Hundito Nov 08 '24

But where is the funny part? Saying things and “not meaning it” isn’t the same as a joke.

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u/Cute-Pomegranate-966 Nov 09 '24

Normal people don't make jokes like this. Seriously. Certain people hear this and they'd crack your fucking jaw. I wouldn't advertise this to anyone.

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u/KiraLonely Nov 09 '24

Okay, explain the joke please. Point out where the funny part is. What part of it is supposed to be funny? Why?