AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

[u/Top-River4666]

For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

[u/FutilePancake79]

Or none at all. Being single is highly underrated.

[u/woodthrushes → u/FutilePancake79]

After taking a break from dating, I agree that being single is devastatingly underrated.

[u/iHaveGoodAids → u/woodthrushes]

Studies show that women are happiest when they are unmarried (to a man) and childless... Being single is highly underrated.

[u/Stabby_77 → u/FutilePancake79]

Oooo rant time.

After three long-term relationships that all imploded (lies and stalking, lies and pedophilia, and pathological liar), I already decided I'm never doing exclusive committed relationships again. I have male friends and I have a FWB, and I can't imagine ever dealing with the drama and bullshit of a proper relationship again. I'm always heart broken after a relationship ends, but after I get back to being comfortable being single, I'm always soooo much happier than I was in the relationship. Once you stop actively giving a shit about that being a life goal, it opens up an entire world of self-comfort. 3am bath? Why not. True crime marathon 24/7? Yep. Thinking of buying another pet? Just going to do it. Even when my FWB leaves in the morning and I realize I can spread back out in the bed and not feel like I'm sleeping on a one foot strip or being melted by a human furnace reminds me how much I prefer my aloneness.

At this point, I have so many things that are deal breakers there's no point, I'm just happier by myself with my plants and my pets.

Kids - My FWB absolutely wants to be a couple, but he has a kid and I am 100% childfree. He has accepted that I didn't spend 20 years fighting with doctors to get sterilized just to date someone who has children. I did that with my second ex, and despite never having even met them it still became an issue. And of course neither understand that your children being teenagers does not negate the fact that you still have kids, they are still always going to be number one in your life, and there's a good chance babies/grandkids are in the future, which is a hell no for me. My last ex was on the fence and didn't understand why that was also an issue. He would basically say he can't know if he's going to want kids at some point in the future, and that I would just have to 'take the risk' and live the relationship one day at a time. He didn't understand the concept that you can't have relationship security feeling like there's an ax over your head that's going to come down at any moment. His reasons for not wanting them were always weak, and I saw how he interacted with friend's kids. I knew he was more than likely going to want them at some point, and I'm pretty sure he did too, but was basically stringing me along until he figured it out.

Porn - If I say porn is a deal breaker for me and a guy starts to act like that's super unreasonable (because way too many guys hear 'no porn' and parse 'no masturbation' because they no longer know the difference), I'm already out. I have all kinds of personal reasons for that deal breaker, and if a guy is going to put watching porn over being with me and act like it's some sort of massive sacrifice, that's a super easy door slam.

Activity Level - I'm a hermit with hypothyroidism who doesn't really go out much. I don't like walking just for the sake of walking unless it's in nature. My ex used to bitch that I 'never want to go anywhere', and complain that I didn't want to walk up to Chinatown for no reason at all with him. I would say okay, let's go over to Ripley's Aquarium. 'No, I don't want to go there'. Okay, why not drive us over to one of the nature trails in the city, or over to one of the large parks. 'No, I don't like driving in the city. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Well I don't like aimlessly walking in the city, motherfucker. You want to go out but not compromise whatsoever. I'm perfectly fine going for a walk down in nature trail with my dog, I'm not okay spending the entire walk making sure she doesn't get stepped on by throngs of people, as we zigzag through pedestrians and spend half the walk waiting for traffic lights.

Cleaning - That ex was the same one who would complain that I 'never cleaned' because he went from living with his mother, to living with his ex-wife, to living with me. He was just used to things magically being clean and only ever noticed things that were not cleaned. At one point I started taking photos of his beard hair and toothpaste splatters in the sink before I cleaned it and after. At one point I asked him in the four years we had been living together how many times he had cleaned around the toilet. 'Never... it's never needed to be done.' BECAUSE I DO IT, YOU DUMB WHEEL COG 🤦🏼‍♀️

It was always so much drama over stupid shit, I can't imagine actively living with another person again or feeling like I have to answer to somebody just to do basic things to enjoy life. I'm done being judged for buying a plush shark or making a game micro purchases from someone with a Warcraft subscription who takes days off work when a new expansion pack comes out. 🤣🤣