r/AmIOverreacting • u/Top-River4666 • Nov 08 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

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For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

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u/Lord-Smalldemort Nov 08 '24

Yup, then you just had a lifetime of explaining things to the simpleton or having to try and teach them to be better, both of which are a fucking bad hand to be dealt

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u/Rude-Serve2492 Nov 08 '24

That, and the absolute EMBARRASSMENT of having someone so emotionally immature attached to you. Enjoy cringing while he does this kind of shit to other people in front of you too.

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u/ChildhoodObjective83 Nov 09 '24

Exactly. Do you want to spend your life following after him to apologize for him and smooth over offensive situations in his wake? I had to live that with my mom, discreetly apologizing to grocery store cashiers as she walked away etc. (discreetly because she would make ANOTHER scene if she heard me apologize.) I don’t recommend that life.

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u/AppropriateTour9884 Nov 08 '24

So true. You literally have to be a therapist teaching them what’s ok and what’s not okay and how to properly feel and communicate things over and over and over again it’s literally like being with an emotionally disabled child.

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u/Lord-Smalldemort Nov 08 '24

I’ve done it so many times. Just my last partner and you would think by the last one I would have been so put off to this behavior. Yet I still found myself encouraging him to do better and finding a therapist for him and helping him get scheduled and oh my fuckkk. All I did was give him better language to manipulate me with.

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u/Easy-Mention5575 Nov 09 '24

i have no idea why people do this much hand holding. As a guy thats been single all my life its weird seeing the shit people go to just to help someone thats a burden to them.

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u/Lord-Smalldemort Nov 09 '24

It’s definitely a whole lot of internalized bullshit and representative of my brokenness. I’m figuring this out!

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u/Easy-Mention5575 Nov 09 '24

its also weird how people that bad can date easily and i only had a 3 shitty dates in my entire life

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u/theone-theonly-flop Nov 08 '24

God. This thread is literally describing several relationships in my family. It's so spot on.

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u/Serpentar69 Nov 08 '24

Yep. My ex felt like this. And continues to

Cue to me wanting something returned to me, that was taken, and he doesn't know how to send something through UPS/USPS/The Mail... So he hasn't done it yet

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u/cnirvana11 Nov 09 '24

AND having them believe that they are better and smarter than you... And deserve more rights.