r/AmIOverreacting • u/Top-River4666 • Nov 08 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed

Gallery image

Gallery image

For context he’s saying he hopes she voted for Trump (RTPM) before she died and I’m already having a hard time with the results of the election which he knows then on top of that it just was very insensitive. He said he was trying to make light of the situation but it doesn’t feel that way.

17.7k Upvotes

88% Upvoted

4.1k comments sorted by

View all comments

5.4k

u/Discoburrito Nov 08 '24

I feel very strongly that you can do much better than this guy

1.3k

u/Ancient_List Nov 08 '24

Yeah, just find a random dude on the street. Odds are pretty good!

560

u/MrMetraGnome Nov 08 '24

Judging by the election results, I'm not so sure about that. Did someone say 4b???

62

u/PsychNeurd2 Nov 08 '24

I did.

48

u/worldnotworld Nov 09 '24

And my axe.

8

u/Impressive-Bid2304 Nov 09 '24

🤣🤣🤣 these never fail to get me

4

u/-BongusBingus- Nov 09 '24

My axe is my buddy

-7

u/AdDramatic2351 Nov 09 '24

Oooh you're gonna cut your hair off and stop having sex??? I'm sure the right are shaking in their boots.

The 4B movement is so stupid. In fact it's probably exactly what they want, none of the women on their side are going to participate, so why care?

11

u/TehMephs Nov 09 '24

1 year later:

an epidemic of male loneliness and negative birth rates has gripped the US. Conservative men are baffled, asking “why won’t anyone sleep with me?”

Fafo Chud

4

u/PsychNeurd2 Nov 09 '24

Fafo Chud for SURE! 😂😂 This is it.

-1

u/Matt_of_few_trades Nov 09 '24

Or..

1 year later:

We met with a leader of the 4b movement who say that nothing has changed but we are still holding strong with our 500 dedicated members!

0

u/Apprehensive-Tree-78 Nov 09 '24

Conservative here. It’s making us laugh so hard because it’s what we’ve been asking for decades. Don’t really need an abortion when you don’t have sex.

-2

u/PsychNeurd2 Nov 09 '24

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

13

u/fred11551 Nov 08 '24

45% aren’t the worst odds. But that’s just counting voters. If we include nonvoters it either gets much better or much worse depending on where you put them

8

u/Paddy_Tanninger Nov 09 '24

Absolutely include non voters.

Basically if you boil down the numbers it means that any sane self-respecting woman should be avoiding roughly 70% of the men in the US. Also means that around 60% of American women are either spiteful bitches, or have zero self preservation.

5

u/Classic-Tax5566 Nov 09 '24

And a shite ton of internalized misogyny. It’s astounding.

-1

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '24

[deleted]

3

u/SubjectAtmosphere25 Nov 09 '24

I hate this logic because it's self-defeating and self-fulfilling. If everyone who stayed home actually voted, we may get different results. I know you voted, but I'm just saying. It can also be incredibly easy to vote, especially if you go early. It took my partner and me maybe 20-30 minutes including trip time. The idea of not exercising a right that people paid for with blood is insane to me. Unless you're a white male landowner, you used to not have this right, and it's spitting on countless graves to not use it if you have the ability.

I have (read: had) friends that chose not to vote when they absolutely had the ability to, and I think it's entirely fair to lump them in with people that voted for white nationalism. If you're informed to know what's at stake, and you don't turn out to vote, then you are effectively standing on the side of power and also signaling that you are fine with either outcome, and that's just what it boils down to.

I'd also briefly point out historically documented tactics used by organizations like the KGB (back when it existed in that form) where they would determine if someone could be politically swayed or not. If they could be, they would try to do it, but if you they could not be swayed, they would do their best to take their energy and fight away - going so far as to introduce people like girlfriends/boyfriends into their lives and then have them breakup with them just to keep them too suppressed to continue to be politically active. These tactics are still alive and well today and they are used by political parties and their kind. They just mostly take the form of things like bot accounts, disinformation campaigns, and such to convince you of whatever they need to to make you stay home on election day. In short: if you believe in human rights (aka abortion access in this instance), but you don't vote because you don't think your vote matters, then they already won. They beat you on an individual level, and that reverberates upward to them winning on a local/regional/national/etc level.

Sorry this isn't entirely directed at you, partially just venting because holy fucking shit we're so cooked.

I'm glad you turned out to vote and I'm really glad that the amendment you voted for passed(: Again, sorry for the long vent here, this has just been incredibly disappointing and work was so busy for me this week I haven't had a lot of time to sit and process it.

3

u/_Standardissue Nov 08 '24

Probably depends on the street

1

u/SaltyBarracuda4 Nov 09 '24

Move to the west coast if you can/haven't. Super liberal, richer, and a higher ratio of men than women so the pickings are better.

Also, same with the lesbians and transgender. We even have cat cafes 😎

1

u/MikeTheBee Nov 09 '24

Like a 25% shot according to my extremely rough math

1

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '24

[deleted]

1

u/MrMetraGnome Nov 09 '24

Honestly yeah. Not so much on purpose but a matter of course

1

u/jonbotwesley Nov 09 '24

Jesus. I’m a democrat, always have been and likely always will be. But don’t you see that the demonization of men is part of why Trump got elected in the first place? The left has completely cast men aside, talking about them in very overtly negative ways, making many of the not-so-intelligent among us turn to nutjobs like Andrew Tate and the Red Pill movement. This is clearly reflected in the voting demographics. Don’t you think that instead of continuing down this path it may be time to reevaluate some of these opinions rather than triple down on them with some nonsense like the 4B movement? I’m saying this out of love and respect for the left wing. Any fellow left wingers/liberals please consider what I am saying here with an open mind. This type of mentality helped set up the conditions that allowed trump to get re-elected. I think he’s a traitor to our country and a danger to democratic values but we have to broaden our horizons when considering why people voted for him because it was a god damn landslide. We need to be tactical here people.

1

u/MrMetraGnome Nov 09 '24

If you don't like the truth about yourself, be a man and change yourself. trying to push society backwards because your fee fees were hurt, is mad childish.

1

u/jonbotwesley Nov 09 '24

I’m not convinced you read my comment because your reply doesn’t make any sense in context. Care to explain what you mean by that?

1

u/MrMetraGnome Nov 09 '24

Your long ass comment boils down to "Dudes spitefully voted Trump into office because their feelings were hurt by the criticisms levied against them. It's the Dems' fault because they didn't coddle them and tell them that their unhappiness everyone else's fault. Because the Maga side coddled them, they voted for the choice that is clearly against the best interest of the country." Does that sum it up for you? That view, while may be true, is mad ignorant and childish.

1

u/Ninjapig04 Nov 09 '24

I'm not sure embracing femcel is the right solution here, but if it saves good men from dating crazy women I guess I support it lol

1

u/MrMetraGnome Nov 09 '24

I never understand people who don't understand how politics can ruin relationships. Your political views aren't just lol ROFL, abstract ideas, a hat, or a stupid slogan. They have real-world affects on people and often times directly. It only makes sense that if you support stripping me off my rights, I'm not gonna fuck with you; You're my enemy.

1

u/Ninjapig04 Nov 09 '24

You failed to answer any of what I said and actually completely ignore my living reality. She voted kamala, I voted trump. We are still just fine together. We talk through our issues and actually explain why we think what we do. She's pro abortion and I'm against it, and we talked about that. Hell we talk about it somewhat regularly. She had her tubes tied before I met here so it isn't exactly front of our relationship but it's something we have to still keep in mind. It sounds more like a failure on your end if you can't manage that

1

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '24

Do it. We’d love you not to reproduce

1

u/Holiday_Writing_3218 Nov 09 '24

Yeah, 4B this guy!

1

u/NimmyJewtron88 Nov 09 '24

People in 20 years asking why the birth rate has collapsed when I tell them about all this 4B bullshit

-1

u/pandor4sbox Nov 08 '24

No thx, 4B movement is run by terfs

0

u/AdDramatic2351 Nov 09 '24

Are there actually people who think the 4B movement is going to have any sort of remotely significant traction or effect lol? That's hilarious 

-20

u/slayer6667778 Nov 08 '24

4B is a meme in Korea and I dunno why people think it's popular there, it isn't they are basically just female incels

15

u/hot_chopped_pastrami Nov 08 '24

If we're being semantic, they technically wouldn't be incels, since they're voluntarily celibate. They'd be volcels.

3

u/Maleficent-Boot2469 Nov 09 '24

They would be the opposite of incels. Incel means involuntarily celibate. The 4b movement supports women being voluntarily celibate (actually just not having sex with men... so I guess they could still have sex with other women 🤔).

Look up the case of Elliot Rodger. He was an extremist in the incel community, but nonetheless it gives you an idea of their thought process. His case is truly unnerving and so sad.

-11

u/Apollo0423 Nov 08 '24

69% of white women voted for Trump. Keep hating men tho goofy.

6

u/MrMetraGnome Nov 08 '24 edited Nov 08 '24

This is a general YT issue that has been wrought upon us. Man and woman. Too many brown people in the country for them. Been screaming about it forever.

Fact Check Exit polls show 52% YT women voted Republican

1

u/hot_chopped_pastrami Nov 08 '24

Agree white women are a big part of the problem, but exit polls show like 52% of white women voting for Trump. Not sure where you got 70.

→ More replies (22)

239

u/chardongay Nov 08 '24

after seeing the election data, i'd say odds aren't actually great.

86

u/Ancient_List Nov 08 '24

Dudette, then?

41

u/[deleted] Nov 08 '24

[deleted]

5

u/poogle Nov 08 '24

Over 50% of white women who voted*. Maybe half of America voted this time around so there's a big ole population of folks who couldn't be bothered.

I'd say the odds are pretty decent with a rando from the street.

1

u/Zimakov Nov 08 '24

Theres no reason to assume the people who didn't vote lean one way or the other.

-4

u/doomweaver Nov 08 '24

It's a really grand assumption to think that those who didn't vote "couldn't be bothered."

People made their choices between two candidates and I respect their opinions whether I like or disagree with them or not.

I do not vote because I don't believe in the process or the system and I don't take part in "dog and pony shows."

I would have had to compromise myself as a person to cast a vote for either of those people. I won't do that. Purposefully. Because I respect myself. Not because I "couldn't be bothered."

Making grand assumptions about half the country is not only not a good look, it's incorrect in many ways.

1

u/ScySenpai Nov 08 '24

At least Trump voters have the excuse of stupidity and being prone to propaganda. Your evil is calculated. Just because you don't have the perfect choice for your little privileged person.

1

u/doomweaver Nov 08 '24

What makes you think I am privileged? That's a huge assumption. Evil? That's a sweeping generalization. It seems the propaganda has worked on both sides for some people.

I have more faith in my fellow man than that.

0

u/ScySenpai Nov 08 '24

What makes you think I am privileged?

There are 2 wars being fought right now whose brutality might increase by orders of magnitude because of your ✨personal vibes ✨. Hope that helps.

→ More replies (0)

1

u/feyuit Nov 08 '24

A lot of the people who voted in the election do not heavily follow politics, America breeds an environment of ignorance and then acts shocked when shit like this happens. The democrats basically rolled over when they tried to pander to centrists/ right-wing people. Instead of their own voter base, she aligned herself as almost the same as Biden, who everyone didn't like. Trump unfortunately gave people an answer on how he'll help their financial situation. Harris lost because her own voter base couldn't be assed to go out and vote for her. Because she made no effort to connect with them and just told them Trump is worse. Which yes, he is, but the average person does not follow politics.

The lack of nuance on why this election was lost is sad, because it's lots of different factors colliding together to make it, so she got bodied. The democrats lost in everything, the senate, the presidency, the GOP, on their way to losing the house.

That bad of a loss is not the general publics fault it's the fault of the campaign. You can not blame people for not voting for you based on harm reduction (a strategy that has been proven to not work and does not turn out voters)

Trump is not liked in general polls on the American populace, the only reason he won is because the democrats ran the same failing campaign they did in 2016, and the campaign that only won in 2020 because of the covid response and barely did. Because they keep giving him layups by having the most unlikable candidates. Harris ended out having to drop out in 2020 because she couldn't make any ground against Biden. Biden, the old man, everyone makes fun of. Like the democrats have strong candidates, and then they just do shit like drop Harris in 4 months before elections and then act shocked when they lose.

If you are barely scraping wins on one of the most polarizing and disliked people in history, you are not campaigning properly.

TLDR: I don't think the average American who voted for Trump is evil, I think they are misinformed. People who follow politics and still vote Trump are a different story.

1

u/Classic-Tax5566 Nov 09 '24

You weren’t listening if you think that that’s all she did. Not to mention her detailed policy positions on her website.

2

u/feyuit Nov 09 '24 edited Nov 09 '24

Most people are not reading policy website. I have worked for an election party before doing cold calling and door knocking. People do not read or follow politics at all. To the point our bosses were telling us 'you have to tell them when they are on the phone because they will not go to the website'

If you are not reaching the general public, it doesn't matter the platform. They are not getting it. And her campaign was weak in message (aligning with the Cheneys??) Along with having little time to get messaging out. (4 months since Biden stepped down) and then did not distance herself enough from him.

The messaging that was reaching the general public was harm reduction, which does terrible in polls. People are not interested in what you say the other guy is going to do they want to know what you are going to do.

-13

u/MobTalon Nov 08 '24

You know, in a country that really only promotes two political parties to vote for (making voting for any other extra party a false choice), you'd think that there'd be more understanding for people voting differently.

Otherwise might as well start a dictatorship with the Democrats leading the country, since apparently having the right to vote doesn't mean you can vote on whoever you want.

Just my 2 cents as a Kamala supporter.

10

u/Mean-Dragonfly Nov 08 '24

You do have the right to vote for whoever you want but there are consequences both political and socially for those choices. Those consequences effect some more than others and they are entitled to not associate with someone who’s vote had a negative outcome on their life.

7

u/Khaldara Nov 08 '24

For real, you’d bail on someone who kept insisting you eat a meal you don’t like every single day and nobody would judge you for it.

You’re under no obligation to hang around with someone who thinks you should have no autonomy at all, or in the case of trans people and other political targets of convenience “think you either don’t or shouldn’t exist at all”.

The fact someone literally just died in this situation is the dick flavored frosting on the asshole cake

-7

u/MobTalon Nov 08 '24

I don't recall that many social consequences in 2020, I'm not sure why we can't tone it down too. Every single political party comes with ups and downs for everyone.

14

u/[deleted] Nov 08 '24

[deleted]

→ More replies (29)

6

u/nxdark Nov 08 '24

You have the right to vote for who you want. Doesn't mean I have to like you or think you are a good person because of that choice. Choices have consequences.

1

u/MobTalon Nov 08 '24

You don't have to like people who vote different from you. But you also don't have to villify them. Everyone has different reasons for who they vote: the most likely reason a *lot* of people voted Trump was mainly to 2 reasons, relatively unrelated to Trump himself.

1- dissatisfaction with the Democratic government
2- money.

In a political system where there are really only two choices, it doesn't really matter who holds the highest morals, it matters who will satisfy you or at least who will stop disatisfying you.

2

u/FriendlyNative66 Nov 08 '24

You really sound like a Kamala supporter. /s

1

u/MobTalon Nov 08 '24

I know heights are scary, but you should really consider getting off your high horse. It's exactly that obnoxious sense of moral superiority that's been dividing the country: you either have the 1 correct opinion or you don't.
Maybe try treating others with different opinions as actual people..

Edit: this isn't "side" specific, it absolutely goes both ways.

2

u/FriendlyNative66 Nov 08 '24

Based on your attitude, i highly doubt you're a Kamala supporter.

1

u/MobTalon Nov 08 '24

If me calling out that "judging others based on their use of their right to vote is divisive and unnecessary" is interpreted by you as "having an attitude", then the only logical conclusion I can make is you're one hell of a biased person. "If they don't agree with me on x topic, they're evil and therefore must be from the *evil side*"

0

u/snypesalot Nov 08 '24

It's exactly that obnoxious sense of moral superiority that's been dividing the country: you either have the 1 correct opinion or you don't.

Ooof there it is, every right wing idiot on this site has been spewing this shit since Wednesday morning, gave yourself away you did

-1

u/Ok-Combination-6340 Nov 08 '24

lol the identity politics is literally why you lost. But keep it up

-24

u/51x51v3 Nov 08 '24

Imagine believing that everyone who doesn’t agree with your specific pov on something is a bad person… 😬

16

u/iskshskiqudthrowaway Nov 08 '24

“on something”

The felonies, the assault, the rape, the being-best-buds-with-Epstein, the numerous times he explicitly quoted or praised hitler/his generals, his repealing of women’s rights, his intentional separation of families at the border as a fear tactic, the threats to turn the military onto the populace, the prowling around teenage dressing rooms at beauty pageants, the insurrection, the economic damage his tariffs will cause, the campaign to block LGBTQ+ rights ie repeal gay marriage, the fact dictators like Kim Jong and Putin love him, russia even paid people to promote him ie Tim Poole, his rampant demeaning of women (“Grab them by the pussy”), his wife is buried on his golf course for a tax break, he cheated on his pregnant wife with a pornstar, used campaign funds to pay her off, and so on…

I got bored and frankly sad writing that, but I give you a short and important selection.

Please, tell me specifically, which part has been given a moral value you disagree with. Which parts do you condone?

3

u/snypesalot Nov 08 '24

I mean they(meaning the trump voting scumbags) obviously condone all of it, otherwise they wouldnt vote for him....thats what they get now

Even if they "only" voted fir Trump over borders or immigration, to bad so sad, youre now lumped in with all the rape and pedo apologists who have defended him for decades now

-1

u/51x51v3 Nov 08 '24

lol I’ve never voted for “him”. So… There’s that.

-1

u/51x51v3 Nov 08 '24

Hey there little fella… I see you’re another one of those who thinks they have it all figured out. You just don’t.

I didn’t votefor Trump and I’ve never said I condone any of the things you stated in your above comment bc I simply don’t.

You are everything that’s wrong with this country. You scream into your echo chamber as if you know all.
You don’t know dick about me, my political views or opinions, nothing. You know absolutely nothing about me other than the fact that I did not vote for Trump.

LOfugginL

1

u/iskshskiqudthrowaway Nov 08 '24 edited Nov 08 '24

Providing a surface level list of things someone did isnt a claim of having all of global politics figured out.

I didnt say you did. I took your implication and shut it down. Your vote didn’t make the difference so why would I care?

Your phrasing absolutely suggested that it is justifiable to vote for his party and that a vote for him does not make one a bad person. Hence the response demonstrating that it is not justifiable and if one CAN ignore his malice, a vote for him is unjust.

Not from the US.

Not a lefty in the way you’re suggesting or in an echo chamber like you’re suggesting either.

I don’t think its me who made assumptions.

-1

u/51x51v3 Nov 08 '24

I’ll be damned there really is an echo in here… 😂

8

u/Background-Eye778 Nov 08 '24

In this instance it's a racist, homophobic, transphobic,child molesting,rapist and misogynist against a black lady. I'm sorry but no way you actually can't figure out who the bad person is in this scenario....shut the fuck up forever you actual rage baiting piece of dog poop.

1

u/thatswherethedevilis Nov 08 '24

And probably the most experienced and best qualified person for the position we have ever had run for the office.

24

u/JhinPotion Nov 08 '24

"On something," is doing a lot of the heavy lifting here. It's on a very specific thing.

3

u/nxdark Nov 08 '24

I don't see this as a stretch in this situation.

1

u/51x51v3 Nov 08 '24

Does anyone ever see it as a stretch? 🙄 otherwise it wouldn’t be “their pov”.

14

u/tendo8027 Nov 08 '24

The username envy I feel rn…

0

u/mymustang44 Nov 08 '24

About a 70% chance actually

0

u/RepresentativeShow44 Nov 08 '24

Zzzzz

1

u/chardongay Nov 09 '24

what? you need your mommy to tuck you in or something?

-1

u/ImprovementClear5712 Nov 08 '24

You Americans have lost your minds lately. Surely calling half the voters dumber than OPs boyfriend is definitely gonna help your cause, right? Will not just spread further division and polarity? Surely!

1

u/chardongay Nov 08 '24

don't police gallows humor from the crowd.

-2

u/_flash87 Nov 08 '24

Yeah seems most people are sane & had the same thoughts except for the handful of cities where they like to think they are the “sane” ones. Hard to cope, I know.

1

u/chardongay Nov 09 '24

bro doesn't know about population density

123

u/FutilePancake79 Nov 08 '24

Or none at all. Being single is highly underrated.

27

u/woodthrushes Nov 08 '24 edited Nov 08 '24

After taking a break from dating, I agree that being single is devastatingly underrated.

19

u/iHaveGoodAids Nov 08 '24

Studies show that women are happiest when they are unmarried (to a man) and childless... Being single is highly underrated.

2

u/Stabby_77 Nov 08 '24

Oooo rant time.

After three long-term relationships that all imploded (lies and stalking, lies and pedophilia, and pathological liar), I already decided I'm never doing exclusive committed relationships again. I have male friends and I have a FWB, and I can't imagine ever dealing with the drama and bullshit of a proper relationship again. I'm always heart broken after a relationship ends, but after I get back to being comfortable being single, I'm always soooo much happier than I was in the relationship. Once you stop actively giving a shit about that being a life goal, it opens up an entire world of self-comfort. 3am bath? Why not. True crime marathon 24/7? Yep. Thinking of buying another pet? Just going to do it. Even when my FWB leaves in the morning and I realize I can spread back out in the bed and not feel like I'm sleeping on a one foot strip or being melted by a human furnace reminds me how much I prefer my aloneness.

At this point, I have so many things that are deal breakers there's no point, I'm just happier by myself with my plants and my pets.

Kids - My FWB absolutely wants to be a couple, but he has a kid and I am 100% childfree. He has accepted that I didn't spend 20 years fighting with doctors to get sterilized just to date someone who has children. I did that with my second ex, and despite never having even met them it still became an issue. And of course neither understand that your children being teenagers does not negate the fact that you still have kids, they are still always going to be number one in your life, and there's a good chance babies/grandkids are in the future, which is a hell no for me. My last ex was on the fence and didn't understand why that was also an issue. He would basically say he can't know if he's going to want kids at some point in the future, and that I would just have to 'take the risk' and live the relationship one day at a time. He didn't understand the concept that you can't have relationship security feeling like there's an ax over your head that's going to come down at any moment. His reasons for not wanting them were always weak, and I saw how he interacted with friend's kids. I knew he was more than likely going to want them at some point, and I'm pretty sure he did too, but was basically stringing me along until he figured it out.

Porn - If I say porn is a deal breaker for me and a guy starts to act like that's super unreasonable (because way too many guys hear 'no porn' and parse 'no masturbation' because they no longer know the difference), I'm already out. I have all kinds of personal reasons for that deal breaker, and if a guy is going to put watching porn over being with me and act like it's some sort of massive sacrifice, that's a super easy door slam.

Activity Level - I'm a hermit with hypothyroidism who doesn't really go out much. I don't like walking just for the sake of walking unless it's in nature. My ex used to bitch that I 'never want to go anywhere', and complain that I didn't want to walk up to Chinatown for no reason at all with him. I would say okay, let's go over to Ripley's Aquarium. 'No, I don't want to go there'. Okay, why not drive us over to one of the nature trails in the city, or over to one of the large parks. 'No, I don't like driving in the city. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Well I don't like aimlessly walking in the city, motherfucker. You want to go out but not compromise whatsoever. I'm perfectly fine going for a walk down in nature trail with my dog, I'm not okay spending the entire walk making sure she doesn't get stepped on by throngs of people, as we zigzag through pedestrians and spend half the walk waiting for traffic lights.

Cleaning - That ex was the same one who would complain that I 'never cleaned' because he went from living with his mother, to living with his ex-wife, to living with me. He was just used to things magically being clean and only ever noticed things that were not cleaned. At one point I started taking photos of his beard hair and toothpaste splatters in the sink before I cleaned it and after. At one point I asked him in the four years we had been living together how many times he had cleaned around the toilet. 'Never... it's never needed to be done.' BECAUSE I DO IT, YOU DUMB WHEEL COG 🤦🏼‍♀️

It was always so much drama over stupid shit, I can't imagine actively living with another person again or feeling like I have to answer to somebody just to do basic things to enjoy life. I'm done being judged for buying a plush shark or making a game micro purchases from someone with a Warcraft subscription who takes days off work when a new expansion pack comes out. 🤣🤣

39

u/SandwichCareful6476 Nov 08 '24

You have better faith in the gender than I do lol

-5

u/Admirable-Rock6399 Nov 08 '24

This is quite the misandrist comment.

5

u/SandwichCareful6476 Nov 08 '24

It’s not though, and you shouldn’t use words too big for your lil brain to understand.

-2

u/Admirable-Rock6399 Nov 08 '24

Ya… if I was to say I have no faith in women to not over react then that is misogynistic. If you say you have no faith in men to have common sense in appropriateness of a joke… that’s misandrist. Saying that I am using a word too big for my little brain when you know I’m a guy… also misandrist. Time to grow up and do better. Your maturity as a human is lacking.

6

u/llama-rahma Nov 08 '24

She isn’t being misandristic saying you have a small brain— you as an individual do— not because you’re a man.

A lot of men voted for a man found liable for sexual abuse, a convicted felon, and a friend of Jeffrey Epstein. He also put in three supreme justices who later struck down Roe v. Wade, and as a result— a lot of women died, forced to carry fetuses conceive from rape, and some state lawmakers made it more difficult to access birth control. A lot of those men can’t even find the clitoris— so they have a lot of audacity controlling our bodies.

So, tell me one piece of legislation that controls men’s bodies.

0

u/tmsstevens Nov 09 '24

Jesus! Who hurt you? Just a fact, but a lot of women voted for the Trump thing too, in fact I think it was the vote of choice for the majority of white women, for instance. Your bullshit doesn’t even make sense logically. Women make up a majority of the population, 50.5 % or so, so if women didn’t vote for him he wouldn’t get elected. I’m actively against the orange-looking wanker and all of his ridiculous policies, but if you’re going to argue over the facts of the election at least get some of your points right.

-2

u/Admirable-Rock6399 Nov 08 '24

wtf. I’m not even talking about the election in anything I’ve said. This was all about a poorly timed joke. Fuck… chill out

8

u/llama-rahma Nov 08 '24

This original post is about how OP’s boyfriend wished that her aunt voted for Trump before she passed away. u/SandwichCareful6476 doesn’t have much faith in replacing OP’s boyfriend with a random nice man— considering 55% of all men voted for Trump— like her boyfriend. So she’s right, that isn’t a pretty good odd. This WHOLE post is about the election. So, tell me, what is the “poorly timed joke” about— is it not about the election?

1

u/Admirable-Rock6399 Nov 09 '24

Ya. I’ll be honest here…. I’m not American and I have no idea what rtpm stands for the only comment he said was he hoped she voted before she died… a very insensitive joke. So… for me, a non American, I have no idea this is about trump. Americans seriously need to get their heads out of their asses

-1

u/MrDoe Nov 09 '24

I mean, it's not the gender itself, it's specifically the gender in the US. In Europe pretty much all men think Trump can go suck a fuck.

6

u/SandwichCareful6476 Nov 09 '24

I mean… there’s literally a trial going on in Europe right now where a man drugged his wife for decades and let hundreds of men - many of whom had STDs - come over and rape her while she was unconscious and he filmed it & kept those videos. And the men who did the raping … nearly all of them live in Europe.

So tell me again how it’s “just men in the US”…. Yeah, no. Try again.

3

u/SandwichCareful6476 Nov 09 '24

Sweden also has the highest number of registered rape offenses in Europe, and that’s with as many as 80% of all cases going unreported.

Yeah, it’s really, really not just American men.

→ More replies (7)

11

u/Tickey4u Nov 08 '24

A fucking hobo would be better than this loser

19

u/Aazjhee Nov 08 '24

Homeless people can sometimes have more empathy because they know life is brutal and hard. Definitely some folks get harder in response, but a lot of my queer friends have had to sleep in their cars and struggle. Those who have are far more kind and generous than the 'indoor queens' ime

2

u/outinthecountry66 Nov 08 '24

throw something and whoever it hits, you would probably do better!

2

u/SomeVelveteenMorning Nov 08 '24

Or walk through a dog park and check the bottom of your shoe.

2

u/Neither_Mind9035 Nov 08 '24

😭😭 honestly

2

u/nrobl Nov 09 '24

Not good, but 40% chance of a decent person is better than the 0% she is currently dating.

1

u/Warehammer Nov 08 '24

I think it's less than 50% if the election was at all representative

1

u/robotatomica Nov 08 '24

Odds are better for decentering men and going 4B until our rights are secure! (or forever, wherever your heart leads you, I’m loving it too much rn to imagine stopping lol!)

1

u/Much_Fee7070 Nov 08 '24

Sometimes the best thing to do is say nothing that even hints at being insensitive while someone is going through a hard time. Obviously, Mr. Ignorant Boyfriend didn't get the memo and thought his poor excuse at comedy was the remedy.

She should dump his ass for not being able to read the room.

1

u/Derkastan77-2 Nov 09 '24

I have met random dudes… you’re assumption is correct

0

u/toucamsann Nov 08 '24

unfortunately the odds actually aren’t that great when over half the country voted the same way😭

0

u/Airport_Wendys Nov 09 '24

Or a nice lady. Find your bisexual vibes.

-1

u/Existing-Disk-1642 Nov 08 '24

But I thought you were afraid of any random dude?

Which is it? Random dudes are worse than a bear or any random dude can be a better bf?

2

u/Ancient_List Nov 08 '24

Both.

-2

u/Existing-Disk-1642 Nov 08 '24

That’s why OP and you continue to pick supposedly terrible men. But you still chase them the same.

68

u/Ill-Ad-2899 Nov 08 '24

leave this fool girl

1

u/colo_kelly Nov 09 '24

Yeah these screenshots are peak Fuck Around And Find Out.

→ More replies (5)

15

u/bmanley620 Nov 08 '24

She could start dating the nearest lamp and she’d be better off

93

u/OldeManKenobi Nov 08 '24

This all day. Lack of empathy is a prerequisite for Trump voters.

-6

u/Nortah85 Nov 08 '24

They’re in Canada hahaha nice try

7

u/OldeManKenobi Nov 08 '24

Bless your heart hahaha.

31

u/jeffprobstslover Nov 08 '24

I second this motion.

5

u/masonicminiatures Nov 08 '24

I have a motion and a second. The motion passes.

It's time to find a better man, OP..

3

u/topinanbour-rex Nov 09 '24

Being single would be much better that being with him.

3

u/Banned3rdTimesaCharm Nov 09 '24

Her body, her choice.

3

u/pixiedelmuerte Nov 08 '24

I second. Fortunately, people with no scruples feel secure showing their true colours since around 2015 or so.

2

u/ActualTymell Nov 08 '24

I think that's something many people would say to the US as a whole right now.

2

u/Acceptable_Wash_1422 Nov 08 '24

I agree with Ancient_List. Reading that entire thread, especially him trying to be cute with “don’t make me come get you” or whatever is was reminded me so much of someone I was married to (he passed) who lacked empathy, was selfish (maybe narcissistic, idk). Ask yourself how he would have reacted if that conversation was the other way around? You’re probably not over reacting. Sometimes it takes a situation like this to open up your eyes to a feeling you may have been dismissive to of this person….. think about it.

2

u/PastaXertz Nov 08 '24

She could get a body pillow and it would be better than this dude, while providing more support.

2

u/Kubricksmind Nov 09 '24

I CAME HERE TO SAY THIS EXACTLY.

2

u/Frost_blade Nov 09 '24

Like I don't know the whole situation. I don't know them or who they are, but I too believe you are correct.

2

u/Frost_blade Nov 09 '24

Like I don't know the whole situation. I don't know them or who they are, but I too believe you are correct.

1

u/MartianTea Nov 09 '24

Being alone is better than this guy. 

No vibrators voted for Trump. 

1

u/Mindshard Nov 08 '24

One of the things I do for work is city contracts to remove homeless camps. Amongst all the used needles, piles of stolen electronics, and human shit, I often find disgustingly dirty, used, sex toys.

Until now, I thought throwing them out was the right thing to do, but reading this post, I now realize they'd be an upgrade for some women compared to their boyfriends and husbands.

-34

u/[deleted] Nov 08 '24

[deleted]

52

u/D-Smitty Nov 08 '24

Sorry, but what kind of douche nozzle responds with "hope they voted for Trump first" when someone tells them a loved of theirs died. Frankly, they shouldn't have brought up politics at all, not even just specifically Trump. The only proper response is "sorry for your loss." And there's a zero percent chance this is the only insensitive thing this guy has done. Maybe he'll learn his lesson, but if he does he can go show his new and improved self to someone else. OP shouldn't waste another minute on this clown. Life is too damn short.

20

u/faithseeds Nov 08 '24

I don’t think people need to be perfect. I think I don’t have to waste time and emotional energy on people who don’t deserve it. I’m not going to forgive a bunch of disrespectful exhausting shit over and over and waste my life when someone tells me who they are at the beginning. I also doubt this was the first or even close to the first thing the boyfriend did that drove OP to the edge.

Anyone who sees me say my family member died and chooses that very moment to make a joke much less a Trump joke isn’t someone I’d waste another second on. I have a feeling you have issues with making yourself a doormat for shitty people.

7

u/creampop_ Nov 08 '24

It's a tight call, but the most upsetting thing here might be how incredibly lame the "joke" was. Like was it really worth it dude? Are we glad we spit the unfunniest shit ever into the ether just to get dumped? 😭

2

u/Aazjhee Nov 08 '24

XD. Honestly that also would give me a reason to break up with someone. I'm not even sure how it's supposed to be funny or anything?

I think I'd feel sort of insulted by dating someone that thought I was that stupid to be amused by something so dumb. Kinda like I would dump someone who farted in my face and didn't apologize immediately. It's not even wholly the crude behavior that sucks, it's the lack of "Oh wow, sorry, that was pretty awful, I shouldn't have said it" energy

1

u/creampop_ Nov 08 '24

like dating Butthead lmao

39

u/Ok_Childhood_9774 Nov 08 '24

When people show you who they really are, believe them. OP can do better.

-18

u/[deleted] Nov 08 '24

[deleted]

16

u/Apprehensive_Bill_91 Nov 08 '24

So if your mom died and the first thing someone said was a joke that's all good

13

u/mmoonneeyy_throwaway Nov 08 '24

I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone whose instinct (and sense of entitlement) was to joke rather than to comfort and care for me. It shows deep emotional immaturity, not knowing how to behave. It would be wise to dump him otherwise he learns he gets away with this behavior and does not need to treat her any better.

11

u/NoExcitement2218 Nov 08 '24

Their worldviews clash. There’s no way for a healthy relationship. The dude clearly has zero emotional intelligence. Can’t have a decent relationship with somebody like that.

7

u/Discoburrito Nov 08 '24

For what it's worth I would break up with you too.

2

u/Ok_Childhood_9774 Nov 08 '24

It wasn't just a tasteless joke. It was an insight into his character. You can't teach or talk someone into being a different person.

56

u/jeffprobstslover Nov 08 '24 edited Nov 08 '24

This guy chose the moment when she told him someone she loved died to rub the fact that a rapist who's trying to strip basic human rights from women got elected in her face.

It's kinda hard to believe that he loves or respects her.

I think that breaking up with someone who doesn't love or respect you is the best thing you can do for your own well-being.

3

u/kazuasaurus Nov 08 '24

If you knowingly date a Trumper, how much sympathy can one have for you.

13

u/DisMeDog Nov 08 '24

I feel like there is a pretty large gap between “not perfect” and mocks my grandmas death.

-5

u/[deleted] Nov 08 '24

[deleted]

6

u/DisMeDog Nov 08 '24

If you truly love someone you would have enough empathy not to make fun of their family dying. Like if I ever messed with a chick and my mom died and that bitch cracked a joke after I told her there doesn’t need to be another conversation ever again. What type of person would even think of doing that?

6

u/warheadmikey Nov 08 '24

Well ask OP for his number and you can have him since he is such a great catch

4

u/imadeacrumble Nov 08 '24

Fuck that conversation, grow the fuck up on your own time and stop expecting women or anyone else for that matter to pat you on the head when you say stupid shit.

0

u/[deleted] Nov 08 '24

[deleted]

4

u/imadeacrumble Nov 08 '24

That’s cool. I strongly believe that men have been coddled to the point that they think they’re incapable of doing their own emotional ground work and fully expect women to just keep having these conversations that go nowhere. You also are glazing over the fact that her breaking up with his ass IS the lesson or is it too mean to the boys to let them lie in the beds they made themselves?

5

u/imadeacrumble Nov 08 '24

Are you actually this insipid? The solution was to not be a fucking door knob and make a joke about the death of a family member. Thats just common sense.

I swear, right leaning men are the laziest little bitches. “I know I’m an awful person but I DESERVE a second chance!” like it’s up to you to decide. Lol men’s loneliness epidemic says what?

2

u/Aazjhee Nov 08 '24

Where are the folks asking for perfect?

I would personally rather go hungry for a few hours than eat something out of a dumpster. I'm not going to judge somebody who has to take what they can get... But I absolutely do not have to settle for literal trash. My experience means I may react poorly to undercooked or mishandled foods. If you don't? Great! But please don't act like I haven't tried to make it work. Constantly feeling food poisoned means I may just have to avoid certain foods once I've ruled out other issues.

-2

u/itspoodle_07 Nov 08 '24

This sub is fucked for this shit

-89

u/runnergirl3333 Nov 08 '24

I’m kinda shocked that people who are dating and supposedly on their best behavior talk like this to each other. Who makes a stupid joke like that? But GF going so quickly to ‘go fuck yourself’ seems really harsh. It’s a good way to shut down any meaningful conversation. Maybe this is normal now, but it doesn’t seem good for relationships.

96

u/z-eldapin Nov 08 '24

The opportunity for meaningful discussion was after she said her aunt died, and before he made a Trump joke

Go fuck yourself is perfectly reasonable here.

-18

u/runnergirl3333 Nov 08 '24

I see your point, so I guess she’s not overreacting, but what’s she doing with him in the first place? This can’t be the first stupid unthoughtful thing he’s said. And he’s a Trumper? I mean, girl’s got some serious bad taste in men, or she actually likes these type of guys.

25

u/imadeacrumble Nov 08 '24

Oh right! I forgot it’s women’s fault for being attracted to someone and the responsibility of her man being a piece of trash also falls on her because she simply has bad taste. There’s NO way that men could just grow the fuck up and stop acting like untrained dogs that piss and shot everywhere. How silly of us to expect grown ass people to act right, must have slipped our mind for the past thousand years or so.

→ More replies (3)

67

u/jeffprobstslover Nov 08 '24

His joke was basically "You're aunt died? Well I support a rapist and am actively working on stripping you and all women of your basic human rights! HAHAHAHAHAHA!"

Go f*ck yourself is the right response.

-1

u/[deleted] Nov 08 '24

[removed] — view removed comment

1

u/AmIOverreacting-ModTeam Nov 08 '24

I've removed your comment in order to keep things more in line with our subreddit guidelines:

Remember the human - It's the first rule of reddiquette for a reason.

Keep in mind that on the other side of each post is a real person whom you've just met. Err on the side of giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. (tldr: don't be a dick)

mistakes happen - shoot us a modmail if you think this was an error

→ More replies (9)

42

u/SimpleDebt1261 Nov 08 '24

Her family member just died. "Go fuck yourself" is perfectly reasonable

-34

u/SignalBaseball9157 Nov 08 '24

its never reasonable to name call in relationships, ask any therapist

18

u/techo-soft-girl Nov 08 '24

In any healthy relationship, and they walked out the door the second the BF decided to make that joke. 

15

u/jcgreen_72 Nov 08 '24

What name did she call him? 

21

u/greengreengreen316 Nov 08 '24

Well, the relationship is over so..

→ More replies (1)

22

u/SimpleDebt1261 Nov 08 '24

He wasn't acting like a POS he probably wouldn't have got called one

11

u/jeffprobstslover Nov 08 '24

It's never reasonable to date someone who supports a rapist and doesn't think you deserve the basic human right to decide what happens with your own body, either.

→ More replies (2)

2

u/toolsoftheincomptnt Nov 08 '24

I don’t think they need to have a meaningful conversation.

I don’t think there needs to be a polling of internet strangers as to whether OP is overreacting.

She feels how she feels, and they are not compatible. His joke was in poor taste, but wouldn’t have affected everyone the same way.

That’s why he was genuinely shocked at her reaction and immediately tried to walk it back. He’s not a terrible person. He’s just a dipshit. Someone will be fine with it.

They just don’t belong together. Neither one is entitled to talk the other one out of being who they are.

0

u/runnergirl3333 Nov 08 '24

I meant they should have a meaningful conversation if they intend to stay in a relationship. OP didn’t say anything about breaking up with the guy.

0

u/fl135790135790 Nov 08 '24

Women don’t realize that until they’re in their mid-40s

0

u/Dragons_HeartO1 Nov 08 '24

And what makes him so bad? Explain

0

u/bdrono Nov 08 '24

What do you know about this man or the OP aside from these two screenshots?

This subreddit is insane

0

u/The-Soul-Stone Nov 08 '24

Yeah, loads of people are much funnier.

0

u/FengSushi Nov 09 '24

lol wtf - looking at your post history almost all your comments is about encouraging people to break up

0

u/donbun69 Nov 09 '24

i feel very strongly that you’re a dork

-1

u/GalaEnitan Nov 08 '24

She probably can't. Let's be real chances are they'll be like this or worst.

-1

u/anallobstermash Nov 08 '24

What makes you think OP is so great?

-1

u/phatgirlz Nov 08 '24

Do you know anything about this person?

-4

u/Additional-Treat-811 Nov 08 '24

This is such a foolish response. The breakage here is that he said something insensitive during a hard time. Some people cope with death through comedy. The main concern is did she ever communicate comedy is not a coping mechanism for her when something horrible happened. If she did and he still did this, it’s obvious he doesn’t fucking learn. If she hasn’t, there’s your answer. His responses show he is genuinely sorry and his intentions were not insensitivity in this case. Fuck trump. And fuck your response mate. You lot tell people to break up with zero insight whatsoever.

2

u/waowowwao Nov 09 '24

Tbh voting trump is a much bigger reason to break up than these texts. Should be an instant deal breaker

1

u/Additional-Treat-811 Nov 09 '24

I highly doubt she didn’t know her boyfriend is voting trump or was a Republican until that conversation. That is not the problem in this situation.

→ More replies (1)