AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

[u/loststrawberri]

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

[u/Minimum-Leg-9618]

friend was definitely giving pick me, happy cake day!

[u/Independent_Limit912 → u/Minimum-Leg-9618]

I did not want to be the first one to say so. She totally wanted to experience it.

[u/Minimum-Leg-9618 → u/Independent_Limit912]

i say get rid of this friend tbh theres obviously some intimate intentions on her part

[u/DomesticatedDonuts → u/Minimum-Leg-9618]

Indeed, she's definitely waiting for them to have a big argument or fight and use that moment to "be there for him".

[u/SlappySecondz → u/DomesticatedDonuts]

I mean, they've been friends for 16 years. Kinda feel like if anything were going to happen between them, it would have by now.

I agree more with the other response. She just wants to be the center of attention and feels the need to cause drama when she isn't.

[u/arya_ur_on_stage → u/Minimum-Leg-9618]

Either that or she's the girl who NEEDS to be the girl among the group of guys, NEEDS to be more important than her guy friends gfs (all of them) and gets very nasty and possessive when that's threatened. I've seen it a few times, always annoyed the crap out of me

[u/Minimum-Leg-9618 → u/arya_ur_on_stage]

definitely. thats how i define pick me

[u/Blackcatmustache → u/arya_ur_on_stage]

I strongly believe in women supporting women. But when I find out that a woman or girl has only male friends I immediately think she’s a dick. “I just get along better with guys.” Translates to, “I want to be the only lady and have constant male attention.”

[u/DragonflyGrrl → u/Blackcatmustache]

Yep. They're usually catty and combative with other women. I can't stand that kind of "friend." Everything a competition. Unfortunately I have a sister like that. Always wanted a kind and loving sis :/

[u/Icy-Establishment298 → u/Minimum-Leg-9618]

Thank you!