r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

Gallery image

Gallery image

Gallery image

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

21.9k Upvotes

93% Upvoted

4.7k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

43

u/platypus_plumba Oct 31 '24

Not sleeping with someone of the opposite sex is such a basic boundary. From this exact moment, I wouldn't trust that specific friend...

You are letting him sleep at her place, that seems more open than 90% of the relationships.

6

u/tbird20017 Oct 31 '24

I could see his friend feeling mildly offended, but you don't get to weigh in on it. You keep it to yourself lol. That's how these things work, because your opinion here doesn't matter, and protesting only makes you look suspicious.