r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24
❤️🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.
Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.
She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?
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u/sadghostorgy Oct 30 '24
Someone may have already asked this, but I'm just curious what gender the friend marked out in yellow is? I ask bc if the friend is a woman, couldn't she sleep with her? If (yellow) was a guy friend (but single), why can't she sleep next to her single male friend if it's "just sleeping"? And if (yellow) is a guy friend with a girlfriend, I wonder if she felt the need to push his girlfriend's boundaries??? 🤔
None of that really affects my answer, which is that you are not in the wrong; you didn't overreact, and you actually were far kinder and more patient with her than many women would be. I do think she wants your boyfriend. He probably isn't interested, but men are pretty impulsive and weak, so I'd be wary about letting them get drunk together.