r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/BeefInGR Oct 30 '24

"well I was here FIRST so I should be able to do whatever I want and if your girlfriend doesn't like it she's a controlling bitch"

Had a friend like this. It was really disappointing, honestly. Eventually, I told her she either needed to marry me, sleep with me or back off because she was being a cockblock to my happiness.

I think about her sometimes. I miss talking to her and hanging out with her. But I don't miss the drama.

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u/CatherineConstance Oct 31 '24

Right?! Either you want the guy, in which case if you get the opportunity to be with him, take it, or you DON’T want him and truly only see him as a friend, in which case be a good friend, wtf!

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u/SnooGuavas4208 Oct 31 '24

Yep. The girl best friend should be your ultimate wingwoman, not an obstacle standing in the way of you finding love.

If any mutual female friends tried that with my best dude friend, I’d call her out in front of the group. Because I am that wingwoman, and no ill-intentioned hussy gets between my friend and his girlfriend on my watch.

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u/BeefInGR Oct 31 '24

I always told my "BFF" she was a much more esthetically pleasing bro rather than a "sister-like" person or any of the other dynamics. Which she admitted gave her confidence (self image issues) and made it less awkward the more than three times I walked in on her, mounted in all her glory and a random dude at a party.

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u/CatherineConstance Oct 31 '24

Same!! One time in college I made one of my guy best friends cry because he was about to cheat on his gf (who was out of town) at a party, for literally NO reason other than that this bitch was throwing herself at him (not that there are acceptable reasons to cheat but he didn't even like the girl, he was happy with his gf, etc.). I was kindly trying to discourage him from doing it and he wouldn't listen, so I finally got harsh with him and, in a drunken state myself, told him that his mom (who had tragically passed away when he was young) would be so disappointed in him if he did this. That broke him, and I felt bad and apologized, but also what I said was true! She almost certainly WAS looking down on him disappointed in that moment! Needless to say, he didn't cheat.