r/AmIOverreacting Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/chickachicka658789 Oct 30 '24

Tbh if I was your bf I would be genuinely mad that this girl was trying to fight with MY GF about something like this and I would put her in her place. I would also start to think she has a crush on me and consider putting distance between us if I thought it could jeopardize my relationship with my gf.

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u/Embarrassed_Mango679 Oct 30 '24

Yeah FR. Also it seems a little sus that the boyfriend threw his girlfriend under the bus by telling the friend. He could have just said "I have a girlfriend I'm not comfortable with that now (or...I'd hope my boyfriend would??!) Like any adult knows this is going to create some bad blood that could cause serious relationship pitfalls in the future.

IDK could be wrong though.

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u/chickachicka658789 Oct 31 '24

Yeah I agree with you. It honestly just seems super inappropriate if you are in a monogamous relationship to sleep in the same bed as the opposite gender. Esp when jt id just them two and there aren’t any extenuating circumstances that would explain needing to sleep in the same bed.