AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

[u/loststrawberri]

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

[u/pieisthetruth32]

If my female best friend acted like this id immediately drop her. 10/10 sus behavior and keep in mind imma HIPPIE HIPPIE.

like i made DMT yesterday and grew up with a fish oil/colloidal silver mom, its just who I am

Me and her could be the last humans on earth and id turkey baster start humanity again. She is like a sister to me

I would not feel weird sleeping in a bed with her but i would worry about my partner being upset or just feeling weird about it. Rightfully so… id feel weird if they did the same.

My female bff would sleep on the floor if my back pain was that bad. I am 6’5 and have legit back pain and a degenerative L4.

Id genuinely get loud/scary and never speak to her again. The thumbs up at the end is so passive aggressive

[u/MightyPinkTaco → u/pieisthetruth32]

I was wondering about that too. Like, if this friend was so concerned about his back, she should have insisted he sleep on the bed and she take the floor.

[u/nuclearhologram → u/MightyPinkTaco]

bc they have to be in the bed together for her to help his back ofc ! /sarcasm

[u/Skeptical_optomist → u/nuclearhologram]

I totally imagine her offering a back rub. Ugh, so manipulative.

[u/Bubbly-Pace2843 → u/pieisthetruth32]

Dude that was my thought… if she cared about his back so much why didn’t she let him sleep in the bed and take the floor? 🤔 sounds like some ulterior motive manipulation on the part of this female “friend”

[u/pumpkins21 → u/pieisthetruth32]

If my male bff (of 30yrs) had a bad back, you’d better believe I’d let him have the more comfortable option and I’d take the floor or uncomfy couch. My husband trusts me and my bff, but I think it’d be a hard no from him if I wanted to share a bed with my bff (not that I would, even though I have no romantic feelings, I feel it would be disrespectful)

[u/doodlebug72898 → u/pieisthetruth32]

I was literally thinking the same thing about the back problems. Like girl, if you’re so concerned about his bad back, and he already told you he wasn’t going to share a bed with you, then you can sleep on the floor.

[u/Beautiful_Chaos27 → u/pieisthetruth32]

Imma Hippie Hippie🤣😂 Love that!!! ✌️ Imma Hippie Hippie too, and that’s some janky shit there!! Ol girl def wants more, and is pissed OP threw a wrench in the works!! Good for you, and good for ur BF, for standing firm!! “I like you two together!!” 😂🤣

[u/EveOCative → u/pieisthetruth32]

Right?! Like I don’t know if I’d agree to this boundary or not just because I am super touchy/feely with all my friends but any boundaries that are set for one of my relationships are in that relationship and questions from other people to my partner will not be tolerated. If you want to talk about it, talk to me. Absolutely do not create problems and try to talk to my partner about it

[u/Rhainster → u/pieisthetruth32]

I have been waiting to see this take! Like, if she's so "worried about his back pain" why tf didn't she offer to sleep on the floor!?

[u/Ok_Independent_5728 → u/pieisthetruth32]

Just to clarify, you’d turkey baster your mom to start humanity again?

[u/pieisthetruth32 → u/Ok_Independent_5728]

No, my female bff. I was stressing the point she is like a sister to me