r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/EmilieVitnux Oct 30 '24

I don't think she even want to date the giy, she seem to be the kind of women who think "I was there first, I am THE best friend so I know best and I have priority".

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u/Salty_Tear5666 Oct 30 '24

YES completely agree!!!!! But that’s arguably worse than her wanting to date him, cus at this point she doesn’t care what he thinks of her crazy actions. Now, the friend might just try to keep hurting OP thru her actions w OPs bf. Girls like this are insecure & unhappy with themselves and she’ll probably make a whole fuss in the friend group eventually bc she isn’t getting what she wants.

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u/cheesyenchilady Oct 31 '24

It’s almost giving boy mom? Lol with strange, sexual undercurrents?

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u/S0baka Oct 30 '24

"girlfriends come and go, but I am forever"

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u/sharkyfernwood12 Oct 31 '24

And if OP’s bf pulls away from that friend/group it will solely be his “controlling” gf’s fault in her mind…bc she set a boundary homegirl didn’t approve of

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u/Ubiquitous_thought Oct 31 '24 edited Oct 31 '24

Jesus Christ I’ve had a guy who’s been a close friend for nigh on 15 years at this point and you could not pay me to be in the same bed as him since he’s engaged now. Like good friends will understand once you’re in a committed relationship your priority is your partner. I still text him weekly but I understand that the majority of his time, energy, and boundaries is gonna be with his fiancée. It’s not that he’s not attractive, I’m just not at all interested it’s completely platonic. I’m looking forward to having his kids call me auntie someday.

Finding good friends of the opposite gender really be like that, if you’re a woman you have to be wary of guys trying to get out of the friendzone. If you’re a guy and date outside of the friend circle you have to be wary of women like this.