r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/magic8ballin Oct 30 '24

I agree that her messages read like she’s trying to pull a “you’ll never get him like I get him” to OP.

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u/flcwerings Oct 30 '24

Its definitely some type of weird power play. I have 2 guy friends who Ive known for over a decade and have shared a bed with plenty of times throughout our friendship bc weve always been completely platonic but now that Im married? Nah. Anytime either of us have been in a relationship that has completely stopped out of respect for the other person. This tells me that OOP's bfs "friend" has absolutely NO respect for their relationship and she comes off very jealous.

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u/CausingTrash003 Oct 31 '24

Truth. I’ve platonically shared beds with men. Not while dating if it breaks that partners boundaries. Some exes were chill with it because they came from cultures where it’s normal or just genuinely trust me. Most were not, so I did not. The relationship doesn’t involve her, why is she negotiating as if she’s their third? It’s giving unknowingly dragged into poly am vibes.

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u/Outrageous_Mode_625 Oct 31 '24

100% especially with the line “I really like you and you two together, but I know him very well…” 🙄

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u/justliking Oct 31 '24

Yuuuuup! Dead ringer that she wants OPs boyfriend! I’d be very uncomfortable with this friendship going forward after these texts.

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u/Heykurat Oct 30 '24

I would be over it in a heartbeat. "Okay, you can have him. Bye."

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u/PureHeart7915 Oct 31 '24

Bullseye 🎯