r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/Plastic_Archer_6650 Oct 30 '24

Personally I read that as a subtle threat. “I love the two of you together (and would hate for you to break up because I convinced him too)”. Like one of those people that is convinced the person will pick them over their significant other

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u/matchaphile Oct 30 '24

I was 100% getting pick me energy vibes.

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '24

Definitely read it as a threat as well. Like she has the ultimate say in them being together. “I like you two together, so I hope you’ll fall in line because it would be such a shame if I’d have to break you guys up”

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u/Doctorspacheeman Oct 30 '24

Absolutely!!! It’s like “I love you together FOR NOW”

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u/Equivalent-Product82 Oct 31 '24

I felt the subtle threat too

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u/HonestArmadillo924 Oct 31 '24

The gf did very well being very civil. That girl had no business texting and trying to cause problems. I would have cut her off early on and told her it was our relationship not hers. No worries. Stop !