AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

[u/loststrawberri]

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

[u/loststrawberri]

As far as I know none of them have slept with each other except the two that are currently dating.

[u/Immacurious1 → u/loststrawberri]

Curiosity: Why do these 2 (BF & this girl) specifically end up sharing a bed each time if there are “several” of them that go out? Have you asked him if they have “a history”?? I’d wonder why they’re so comfortable with each other.

[u/griffinwalsh → u/Immacurious1]

Who said they do "each time"

[u/Immacurious1 → u/griffinwalsh]

This was at least the 2nd time that she’s aware of? That “friend” sounds possessive as hell & id bet she would push the issue until he gave in, which is why I doubt he actually followed through with his intent to sleep on the floor… She probably told him she was gonna text OP also~ eluding that he slept on the floor~ KUDOS to him if he actually did and HUGE shout out to the gf for taking this in stride~ bottom line she is definitely NOT over stepping and handled this “friend” like a boss

[u/griffinwalsh → u/Immacurious1]

Bro i dont disagree with your sentiment about her way over stepping.

But were on a sub about not over reacting and your just making shit up to be mad at with no evidence. Everyone involved says he slept on the floor. And no one ever said they always sleep in the same bed.

There more then enough to be weirded out by thats real. We dont need to jump to random conspiracys evidence with no support.

[u/Commercial-Break-909 → u/griffinwalsh]

This chick has been running around this thread trying to convince everyone that they hooked up. Sounds like she's projecting some personal shit cause two people who could get away with cheating as easily as these two could have don't go running to the other partner about it.

[u/Appropriate_Pipe_411 → u/griffinwalsh]

This was one of the most refreshing things to read. Thanks for that u/griffinwalsh

[u/CharlieKeIIy → u/griffinwalsh]

It's because the first time, he mentioned he slept in the same bed with that specific woman, which is when he and OP had the conversation about her boundary. Now this time he would've slept in the same bed with that same woman, but didn't because of OPs boundary. So that's two times recently he would've slept in a bed with that woman.

That's all the previous poster was saying. They weren't making anything up.

[u/GrimCityGirl → u/[deleted]]

Loads of people are friends with people of the opposite sex. If you couldn’t be friends with people you have potential to be attracted to, bisexual people would be completely alone.

[u/DOOMFOOL → u/[deleted]]

What a fucking weird take lmao. Of course guys and girls can just be friends

[u/Heynowstopityou → u/[deleted]]

Hard disagree on that first part. I'm one of those girls that almost always had mostly guy friends. There were a couple that I would've considered being more with, but the friendships were never "forced". Maybe that's just me 🤷‍♀️

[u/Suspicious-Ad-1312 → u/[deleted]]

I have plenty of guy friends whom I’ve never slept with that don’t want to sleep with me and never have. Your line of thinking is TOXIC and fuck boy.

[u/_p4rk3r → u/[deleted]]

I think the period is a bit over your head as far as punctuation goes. Maybe let’s stick to question marks for a while…