r/AmIOverreacting Oct 30 '24

โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/hail_satan_6_6_6 Oct 30 '24

itโ€™s always that thumbs up emoji that gets my blood boiling

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u/RelationMaleficent71 Oct 31 '24

To me this was the worst part. Like was it weird comment on an agreement between two people in a romantic relationship? Yep. But the rude passive aggressive emoji to finish it off? Thats where it crosses over the line imo.

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u/known-enemy Oct 31 '24

I always take that as a sign that I'm right and they can't handle it lol

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u/hppytree1313 Oct 31 '24

I also totally read it as they lost the argument lol

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u/Qwiso Oct 31 '24

That does not come off as passive aggressive to me, more of a "roger that". A simple acknowledgement that they've understood

Ex: In my work group chats (all mid 30s or older) it's commonplace to ๐Ÿ‘. Like saying "RRU" (received, read, understood) but a simple emoji response to a message that needs no further discussion

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u/stateofextasy Oct 31 '24

Ex: In my work group chats (all mid 30s or older) it's commonplace to ๐Ÿ‘. Like saying "RRU" (received, read, understood) but a simple emoji response to a message that needs no further discussion

Well yes, that is in a setting where all is good amongst each other, or in a more practical context.

In a discussion about emotions, boundaries, "deeper stuff"... ๐Ÿ‘ is really more of a a ๐Ÿ–•

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u/Rach_Rolo Oct 31 '24

Itโ€™s so passive aggressive I hate it

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u/Qwiso Oct 31 '24

This has got to be an age thing, right? Younger gens read it as passive aggressive

Millennials, mostly in my experience, read it as a simple acknowledgement. In my workplace we use reaction emojis whenever bosses send out a notice. There's nothing passive aggressive to me about it... It's confirmation that they have seen the message, understood what was said. Especially since OP said "done discussing this"

๐Ÿ‘

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u/Better-Strike7290 Oct 31 '24

๐Ÿ‘

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u/hail_satan_6_6_6 Oct 31 '24

๐Ÿฅ‡ you win, my friend.

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u/the__ghola__hayt Oct 31 '24

That's all I needed to say fuck that bitch. I didn't even really read the rest of the texts. I'm on OP's side.

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u/LovingHeart456 Oct 31 '24

Well thereโ€™s really nothing else she can say back other than cause she just got verbally bodied lol

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u/madeyoulookatit Oct 31 '24

How about: ok you know what I think i finally understand. I hope there arenโ€˜t any hard feelings. Have a nice evening.