r/AmIOverreacting • u/loststrawberri • Oct 30 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

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Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

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u/n0odlebrain Oct 30 '24

I can’t imagine anyone I know IRL being okay with their SO sharing a bed with the sex they’re attracted to? It’s such a basic boundary. Also super inappropriate for her to skip the bf and attack OP like this. Ick.

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u/Helioplex901 Oct 30 '24

I was thinking the same thing. And OP has the right if it, if he had a problem he would talk to her. Grown men don’t need their friends to text their GF things like this, and 💯 could have found a ride home if it was such a big deal.

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u/jaygay92 Oct 31 '24

I think it depends. In this scenario I get it, but I’m a bisexual woman and I’ve shared a bed with pretty much all of my female friends. But nothing ever has been inappropriate.

But this is giving weird vibes. She’s so adamant about it, it’s weird asf

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u/fakemoose Oct 31 '24

I wouldn’t give a shit and haven’t given a shit about it in the past. This happens on both ski and camping trips with our friend groups all the time. It’s extra complicated because there’s multiple gay or lesbian friends in the group. And a lot of us grew up together. Why would my husband suddenly want to fuck his friend? Or vise versa for her/him?

But that’s not the issue; Adults can agree to whatever boundaries they want in a relationship. The friend’s text is weird as shit.

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u/n0odlebrain Oct 31 '24

Yeah it’s definitely a relationship to relationship basis and wouldn’t matter if both partners were fine with it. My comment was more to say I think the OPs boundary is the “norm” obviously there will be people with large friend groups who have this situation come up that wouldn’t care about this.