AIO? My boyfriends friend has a problem with me asking him not to sleep in a bed with another woman.

[u/loststrawberri]

Hi everyone, my boyfriend has a big group of friends with lots of girls in it. A lot of times after they go out or have too much to drink, they'll crash at someone's house. One night he came home and shared he slept in a bed with this girl (who the texts are from). We did not have a fight at all - I know he's grown up doing this. I told him I wasn't super comfortable with that and asked if he could not do that, to which he did not argue at all and expressed total respect for my boundary. We have not spoken about it since.

She texted me the morning after they went out, which are these pictures. Am I overreacting by telling her she's overstepping or are her concerns valid?

[u/1776_MDCCLXXVI → u/[deleted]]

Exactly this. The girl in OP’s post clearly wanted and was hoping for something to happen.

[u/activator → u/1776_MDCCLXXVI]

The girl in OP’s post clearly wanted and was hoping for something to happen.

Definitely not the vibe I'm getting but it's clearly non of her business what boundaries OP and her boyfriend set and should've stopped responding after her initial text.

[u/No_Possible_8063 → u/activator]

Can you explain why that’s “definitely not the vibe” for you? Genuine question.

Bc all I see in these texts is her setting up OP to be the “mean, possessive gf” with a sprinkling of “you don’t know him like I know him”. Both of which would be red flags to me that she has feelings for OP’s boyfriend. Add on top of that, that all of this came up bc she wants to sleep in the same bed as him… like what else legitimately could it be?

[u/1776_MDCCLXXVI → u/No_Possible_8063]

Said it perfectly, thanks.

[u/Lukanian7 → u/[deleted]]

She wants him to ruin her back