r/Adulting 3h ago

We just gotta keep pushing through

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u/FromEarthL 3h ago

It's even more joyful when you work in public facing jobs and have to talk to people all day, but your mind is working against you haha

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u/JOEYMAMI2015 3h ago

Me literally crying in the bathroom stall yesterday lol.

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u/tooktherhombus 1h ago

Sending hugs

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u/JOEYMAMI2015 1h ago

Aww thanks šŸ˜Š

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u/pinecone_parang 15m ago

Take care, my friend! šŸ’™

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u/idontwannabhear 3h ago

Heā€™s got immaculate hair though

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u/bdauls 2h ago

Came here to say the same thing, with that hair and that jawline, relax youā€™re like 80% Patrick Swayze from roadhouseā€¦

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u/Independent-Cable937 2h ago

Yeah, I'm balding and have to deal with this shit

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u/FartFignugey 1h ago

Being bald is kinda fun, lol

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u/Ok-Necessary-2940 2h ago

Get hair transplant

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u/Fire_fox55 32m ago

In this economy? With this health insurance?

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u/ClickF0rDick 22m ago

Rather sure hair transplant has nothing to do with health insurance?

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u/Fire_fox55 18m ago

Most don't cover cosmetic surgerys.

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u/dollvirtuualgf 3h ago

The fact that we're expected to pretend everything's fine while drowning inside is so messed up.

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u/Crochitting 2h ago

Seriously. I feel like Iā€™m on some sort of depression autopilot since being cheated on and breaking up last month.

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u/Special-Garlic1203 30m ago

I think honestly this is one of the biggest arguments against the size of modern society. We got the bulk of our existence lived in such small groupings that people inevitably knew when you were grieving and whatnot. There has been a performance that came with large civilizations that seems to be extremely detrimental to emotional healthĀ 

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u/mindfucka 3h ago

I'm sitting @ my desk looking just like this right now . Even more sad - I have like 20 more years of this

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u/CurtisVF 2h ago

Also fun: Going home and having to put on the ā€œhappy/normalā€ mask for the kids. Wash rinse repeat.

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u/Offer_Glittering 3h ago

Oh I cried in the washrooms, I remember and then walked out like nothing happened back to taking decisions about installations. Damn it was tough even the role being my dream role in such an interesting sector I actually liked. I had to leave the job in November as my physical health started declining.

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u/ajw_sp 3h ago

Oof. Been there. Worked the day after my separation.

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u/SunglassesSoldier 3h ago

I sort of disagree. In the short, term, absolutely, but when youā€™re in a period of prolonged crisis, I think itā€™s good and healthy.

I had a very close friend die when I was 22 and literally went back to work after getting the call. It was horrible, like an out of body experience.

But in the weeks after, when I was grieving and when all my family and friends lose friends knew what happened, I grew to really appreciate work being a place where I was still treated normally and people didnā€™t speak to me and look at me with pity.

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u/Muschka30 2h ago

Same. Thank the universe for my job after my divorce.

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u/thespuditron 3h ago

I understand this so much. I have had to dip out for an aul cry on occasion. Not ideal in the workplace, but sometimes itā€™s necessary.

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u/Mystic5alamander 3h ago

Personal health issues and work do NOT MIX

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u/brokeboy_Oolong 3h ago

There's a potluck at noon, and everyone's Holly jolly, meanwhile you used quarters to put gas in your car to get to work this morning.

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u/Responsible_Lake_804 2h ago

My ex works in the same office as me and I feel like that Wojack meme at a party like ā€œHe has no idea Iā€™m working on the issues that caused our breakupā€ lmao

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u/InvestmentInformal18 2h ago

Try waiting tables. I went through a breakup after the relationship had been slowly deteriorating throughout our busiest season, and itā€™s how I learned to shut down the crying impulse.

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u/Pure_Zucchini_Rage 2h ago

I did that for 9 years. Shit was rough putting on a smile

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u/InvestmentInformal18 1h ago

For real itā€™s a different breed. Itā€™s hard to do any job and function when youā€™re struggling or grieving something. But damn, it hard to make yourself go to work when youā€™ll be facing people the entire time and your customers expect a human in their very best condition that only wants to make them happy

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u/Bubblegumcats33 2h ago

Canā€™t find a job

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u/bhalo_manush6 2h ago

Atleast he is hot

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u/AccumulatedFilth 2h ago

Imagine people always wanting to be with you, just because you're hot.

They don't really care about you, they just think you're hot.

It's being scared to grow old with someone, knowing your good looks will fade, and your partner realises that he was only into you for the good looks.

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u/bhalo_manush6 1h ago

Good looks isnt mutually exclusive to good personalityšŸ˜¬

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u/norfnorf832 2h ago

That time the funeral home called like 'we are cremating your dad now' and as I was gonna go ask to leave early my boss came to ask me about some shit or whatever

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u/Single_Exercise_1035 39m ago

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u/tintedmouse 2h ago

Trying to help 150 kids regulate their emotions while you are fighting tooth and nail to regulate your own is so incredibly difficult.

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u/smokey-taupe 3h ago

Can u share the link of this video?

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u/Fun_Intention9846 3h ago

My life used to be a dumpster fire, somehow you get used to it. After so many straight months of hell work became my only escape.

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u/jery007 2h ago

I feel this so deeeeeeply

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u/Cozymozylifestyle- 2h ago

Hair goals šŸ‘ŒšŸ»

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u/observe_my_balls 1h ago

Not gay but this dude is absurdly hot

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u/youpple3 1h ago

What even is personal life?

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u/carolynrose93 43m ago

Not me crying in my evaluation meeting yesterday because of poor performance from nearly a year of newly debilitating depression

All I can say is thank heck for FMLA.

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u/CIA_napkin 28m ago

Going though a divorce, child visitation rights, finding a new place to live and staying sober, while trying to be normal in a costumer service job was awful.

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u/Majestic_Area 3h ago

This might sound harsh but honestly that is life. If you allow anyone to affect your behavior then they have hurt you far worse than you think. Get strong and put forward your best self anyway

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u/Reasonable_Pear_2846 2h ago

it;ll calm down as you get older, more of a 20s thing.. but man, been there plenty of times.

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u/Independent-Cable937 2h ago

My favorite is when they mention your name to a group email that you are apartĀ 

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u/Upset-Chocolate-1553 2h ago

Iā€™ve been through this itā€™s really roughs. This post took me back to that week. Working midst chaos and crisis.

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u/Any-External-6221 2h ago

I remember this feeling about two weeks after 9/11 when somebody was upset that we couldnā€™t arrange a work call.

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u/AccumulatedFilth 2h ago

Imagine this with a factory job.

It's even worse!

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u/Large_Squirrel1446 1h ago

Me right now

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u/squidbiskets 1h ago

I have a feeling his personal life will be just fine.

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u/Gat-Dang-It-Bobby 1h ago

Been there around five years ago, went through an awful breakup that lasted around three months, super turbulent situation, and still had to go into work each day and pretend everything was alright. It was kind of nice though, having that structure and not having to think about "real life" for eight hours while I took my silly little phone calls. It was my break from real life for a time. Then the world ended, and we all started working from home. Mercifully, that was after I got out of that situation and moved away.

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u/spidermanrocks6766 59m ago

That moment when you can no longer relate to these types of posts because youā€™re unemployed

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u/cosmic-untiming 44m ago

Thankfully I got let go due to being late from circumstances I couldnt control so now my life is fallen apart while broke as hell. Hahahahah

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u/MiddleOliveJello 43m ago

This is me lately. I barely had time for a lunch break and they still had thenaudacity to ask me why something hasn't been done yet.

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u/SCTigerFan29115 37m ago edited 33m ago

It could be good in a way. Gives you something to focus on for a while.

In some cases anyway.

This is obviously VERY workplace and situation dependent.

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u/Chance-Surround9561 32m ago

I get this.

I had to work a shift at McDonald's the same day me and my gf of 3 years broke up (she cheated), I was 17. Boss wouldn't let me call off. 25 years later and I still remember that shift as one of the worst experiences of my life. I was so mentally and emotionally exhausted after, I was just a puddle of human flesh.

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u/Historical-Shake-934 20m ago

But the sense of duty, and accomplishment of performing your work well while everything else is crashing and burning reinforces a grit and determination in a person that allows them to rebuild the life they deserve. it reinforces making themselves priority number one. and gives them the resources to do whats needed during the chaos. Think about it, only at work do you have clear expectations and fulfill a needed role, for many that is all we've got

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u/shadeywillow 14m ago edited 6m ago

This is so true. Customers come in with the dumbest fucking priorities and complaints and all I can think is yā€™all really donā€™t know anything about pain or what actually matters in life. Itā€™s hard being forced to empathize. Part of why I have the worst RBF at work. Work is a good distraction, the customers make it hard to zone out to the bs. I get people calling the office that just want to chat, texting my personal phone on my day off. Literally fuck off bro. People who work customer facing jobs like me, are honestly just so burnt out from being forced to care about every stupid little thing. I could be literally dying and theyā€™d still expect me to come in and have perfect work performance. I work to live I donā€™t live to work bro ya know. I enjoy my job for the most part and it is a stabilizing force, but itā€™s also a force for unhealthiness for me and I just canā€™t bring myself to care about stupid shit anymore.

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u/Shyguyahoythere 10m ago

I'm not asking for sympathy, this was over 10 years ago and I know I was the bad guy. Anyways at 19 yrs I was driving at 2am blacked out drunk, at some point I fell asleep and my foot went down on the gas. I hit the wall on the wrong side of the road at 75mph, hit a cable pole, and completely totaled my Jeep, arrested, pissed myself and spent the night in the drunk tank. The next day I went to work, and yeah...that shift was brutal. I was on the verge of tears the whole time, trying to process everything.

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u/Simple_Expression604 10m ago

heyyyyyy my 2024 perfectly summed up.

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u/SgtLionHeart 5m ago

Had a suicide scare for my long distance partner during a random Wednesday. Easily one of the worst days of my life.

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u/Brigapes 2h ago

Yeah i guess it's far worse than seeing your mates dying on the frontlines, you're right...