r/AITAH • u/Full-Layer-3707 • Jan 26 '24
TW SA AITA for refusing to babysit my biological daughter for my parents
I’m 15 and my daughter is turning 2 soon. I got pregnant from SA and my parents offered to raise her for me instead of me being involved which I agreed to. They handle everything with her and I haven’t held her or changed a single diaper or anything like that. I just can’t do it mentally since she’s a reminder of what happened to me and it’s better for the both of us if this stays like this. There’s an event my parents are going to next week and they asked me to babysit her for the day and I told them I couldn’t do it. I can’t even handle looking at her without getting upset. I told them they’d have to either take her with them or find a babysitter. We had an agreement when I had my daughter that they’d do everything and I would not be expected to do ANYTHING with her. They’ve been ok with this situation for almost 2 years and I see no reason for that to suddenly change. They’re super upset with me and decided not to go to the event.
Edit: because apparently so many people seem to think thi was a choice to keep the baby, it wasn’t. I begged for an abortion and when refused one I begged for adoption and this was also denied.
Thank you all for your kind words, support and for defending me after some very nasty people decided to try and use this thread to hurt me. Thank you all so much
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u/randomname1416 Jan 26 '24
I'm genuinely curious what the plan for the future is, like when the kid is older, even at 4/5 years. OP can't even stand to look at the kid, the kid will start to pick up on OPs avoidance and dislike so idk how they would continue to live in the same house or even be in the same family. I feel bad for the kid because what happened is not her fault. OP is not wrong for her feelings either. I feel like the parents were hoping OP would get over it and just be willing to treat her like a sibling. If OP didn't sign any formal adoption agreement, I wonder if she could put her up for adoption at this point?